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Show THE SALT LAKE TRIBUNE, SUNDAY MOBNING, JUNE !l V. is! i 5 . 'r ift if! tW maiden .medhahqn S f if ' 24, 1923. .1 A, 1II 1 .'. Nil, r MP J as1 9" ; ir mm. CHANGE. UNUSED POWER. ' She calms the raging neighbor feuds, Pours oil on women's clubs ; She keeps the peace when men The League of Nations should make use Of her experience? Who keeps the nursery peace What has become of the fine, fair traditions. Scorn of mushy, the slushy and cheap? Gone with the hearthstone, the homestead, the attic Flats are so crowded no excess we keep. and Earns more than martyr's palm. Her training might be used, I What has become of romance and youth's glamour-Fa- ith in a loved one that nothing disturbs? Moved from a parlor, a porch and the garden . , ( intact like John Play golf or bridge with dubs. She cows maids fierce butcher boys Is this est evidence . think, t i To keep those Balkans calm. Cupid, evicted, hangs out on the curbs. Coprrifhl: "'4 1S2S: Bj Th Chkwo XrlbaasJ What's Going to Become of Mother, Twenty Years From Now By Kathleen Norris It really is hard to have a middle-ageperson always in your home, even if that person is a sweet, good, loving mother. From the hour that she arrives, Mary is in deep water; for Jim married" Mary, he didn't marry her mother. "Why are women of 30 and 35 and 40 not looking ahead to the day when they will be dependent and superfluous and alone, and miking some provision for it? Plenty of housewives could save $1 a day. It isn't the women who plan and save who are "eternally worrying and scrimping and thinking about money"! No, just the opposite is true. They are the' ones who can forget it. The freedom, the happiness, the vitality that a plan instills into your heart, will wipe out all the little sacrifices within a ' few hours. d Ks JJVEBY woman, married or lingle, working downtown for pav, or work-l- j ing at tome for love, ought to ask herself a very important question. The question it thia: "Am 1 laving a ernt toward independence, comfort and for my old aget" Until we are 30 there's no auch thing as age. Life lasts forever, and youth as" long as life. At 30 we all make a delightful discovery. ,"Vhv," we aay gaily, m not young any more, I'll be I "S. I 1 31 jy in August. And, my dear, I feel younger than I did at 20, I'm having more fun, I've got more money, I'm in better health than I was when I f "I - a little girl." But at 40 the whole scene changes not suddenly. Rather it has been changing for years, and at 40 one realizes it. The forties coast together in a sort of rear-encollision, 43 4349 32 how the wretched birthdays do begin to fly by! VVVhy, my gTacious, I'm away into the fifwomen to distressed think ties," begin v, "and that 'a old!" Well, spiritually speaking, there's no old and no young. Thete's character in this life, and wag """"" ,na lne 0UJ Jve no ages, tsut irom a practical, human standpoint, to be fifty is a and advtnture are over, and very ofteu motherhood serious thing, youth the lovely part of it is over, too. The son is established in his own home, aad the daughter ii a business woman, and has a beau. Very probably the children, love their mother the way you and I to have a middle-ageperson always loved ours, when we were young 'n vour home, even if that person women. weet, good, loving mother, They love her, but" they don't need her, and that fact is the From the hour that the arrives Mary in deep water; for Jim married ever had to bitterest truth bear. She'toek eare of them through Mary, he didi't marry her mother, their babyhoods, she steered them "jJ before the guest has been with into first acbool days, and packed 'ben one week Mary discovers that their lunches, and took their skates ov'r n4 over again she is being down o get new keys, and bought forced to side with one or the ether, their achool auiti and perty dresses, H" loyalty goes to Mother, aad btr to Jim, and love ia a stronger and buttered sandwiches and nude loyalty, qnarte gallons! of hoeelte when '0K .tn Besides, Jim it young, vital, the yotugsterg began to eome in far at Saturday nighta, and she Infi modern. And mother,-evei belongs to another generation, planned Mary'a wedding, every de- approve of bobbed tail, and was "the greom'i mother Mother doesn in gray valid crepe ac 10m a. Ana "'i1" wuwp, nvoirn nuiaiag jobe after marriage, aad equal ufthat'i all. It'a terribly hard for her, this frage. And the can't help hinting feeing outworn. And it's more than pretty frequently that young eon- cniidren. thtt, it 'a really difficult and cruel g" o nave r perhsps it's just the other and unjust if, added to that, the Mother is the modern, be WTPerhaps widowed, along about ksppens to n,l Mary the quiet, this time, and finds herself depen- it is Mother who dent on the children who are too type. Perhapt young to appreciate all the has done, k'pa orging the young persona to out more, to have fun, not to and too old t6 need her. themselves down with babiet too Perbapa Dad left $10,000 life in- surance, and she has that. But on- - oon. Either way, friction begun, n't Mother who part. less she eats into her capital, and both Mary and Tom, and Mary 'a Xot long ago, dining with a newly husband and Tom 'a wife, think it married pair, I found their fine would be crary of her to do that, hardy, capable mother also at the that sum will bring her in only table. She had cooked the dinur, about 500 a year '.est than 130 a and it wat delicious; she had She can't live on that, and aged the girl for all her twentv-bu- y clothes, and eat, and have any- - five years, and was quite prepared: thing like reasonable comfort in her to manage the man, too. The latter old age. Old age! She it 54. There happened to ear that he hoped iwould be re- may be thirty years ahead, and noth- - certain aenator-elee- t ing but dependence and obligation nominated. in which to endure them. " Brown 't a crook, and oueht to After theftrnrrai , Mary, sayi he run out of the atste!" the old Of course, her quietly to her friends: "Mother ia lady said calmly. And the eon-ilaw flnshe'd np, and defended coming to live with as.' friends aay delicately, "Won't that his candidate, and of course she be rather a burden!" And Mary came back at him with a scathing light and eaya eourageonsly, "Weil, allusion to events that had talten what else ean we dot Dad only left place before his birth, ami erentual-hi- s insurance. And of course shell ly the young wife waa weeping Tom 'a wife, I suppose. Poor reptitiously over the dinner became Mamma and Jim never Mom!" Poor Marr, too. It reUy ia hard seemed to hit it off. Kathleen Xorris . she-ha- art Even when the mother it a saint and there are many her position in her daughter's hon is unenviable, and in her son s borne almost insufferable. Even the fact that she is sweet, silent, affectionate, useful, doesn't save her from a son-ilaw who is completeor daughter-in-laly unable to appreciate her. In the old days, with easier business hours and conditions, biggpr homes, bigger families, visiting cousins, garden, chickens, a hundred domestic interests we havc.loRt now, Mother's situation was different. But homes are small and childless today, and b,us'n,,ss conditions nervously trying a yoflng man comes home tircdJnwi jaded, he wants his wife, and nobody else. Now, knowing this, why are women of 30 and 3.5 and 40 not looking ahead to the day when they will be and superfluous and dependent alone, and making seme provision for it? All this money that is handed out so easily for ice cream, chocolate bars, movies, taxis, beauty parand lors, unnecesfary telephones, short cutt through the delicatessen store to a quick meal all this money it going to look very much more important to van fifteen or twenty or thirty yean from now. You're going te remember bridge losses and 13.85 transparent stockings then. Plenty of honsewiveay could ssve II day. Plenty of mothers hand out that njuchjto their children, for meviet and cones and msgazinet and carfares and' candy. Yes, $365 a year is wasted in this way by hundreds of mothers, and another $365 nn themselves. Seven hundred dol' lars a year and for nothing! Who is going to thunk you for all those wasted movies and rones and nut bars and candy and gum? They Certainly not the children. are only going to foci a profound, impatient pity when the dark hour comes that finds you sitting facing them, perhaps in mourning, waiting for Tom to say courageously, "You are coming to us. Mother!" and Mary to protest dutifully, "Oh, not until she's had a good long vist with us!" uch kind, good, generous children. Only you don't want their kindness and goodness and generosYou want to be the one to do ity! things for them, as you alwayt have been. And now is the time to begin. There are two women in the little town where I live in the winter, whose experience is typical. One of them, old Mrs. Smith, is about 58 and looks 70 at least. She brought up three children, as a widow, worked and slaved them, spoiled them, of course; iwfd their party dresses 'and eooked their metis, never made them pav her any regular beard, never saved a cent, and it dependent on them now as a result. $he lives with Anna, and Lucy and George each give her $10 a month for incidentals. Lucy 's hmband is a nervous, ungracious man who "won't have the fr "round"; George's wife his mother. Anna gets full credit from the neighborto her hood for her1 hospitality mother, and Anna says something about it almost every time sho have Mamma, you know speaks. you can 't keep a maid when you have someone home for every meal I would, Ethel, but Mamma gets so nervous if she's alone there nights" and so on and on through a long litany of obligations to Mamma. Jow, I ask you, is this fair! Of course it's not! It's outrageous that this saintly, gallant, intelligent old lady should have no better harbor than this offered to her in her age. But isn't it partly Mamma's faultl Contrast her experience to that of Old Lady Wilkinson. Mrs. Wilkinson it about Mrs. Smith's age, hut she doesn't look more than a handsome 4$ or 50. She began more than twenty yeara ago to arraage for this happy, pfespcrout old age of hert, aad well, you can de anything in twenty years. She was keeping house for a- hitshaud and when two little, daughters, the fire and earthquake came, and, whther that general unletting stirred her into 'sensible thought or whether the weuld htve done it any-wtI don't know. Anywty, the did it. Mr Wilkinson's salary wat about $200 a month, and thtre wert fa.ur. cab of them. he took a old lady "can't stand" "I , - four-roo- ' eur-vis- it di4-.es- , F7' ia-su-re her old fashioned cabin for a business site, and banked exactly $S000. In the bank already she bad more than $9000 more. Enough to assure her, with her rentt, over a hundred dollars a month interett for the rest of her life, and something to leave when she dies! But that isn't all. There it an orderliness, a businesslike sense et cause and effect behind her, that gives her youth gives her a rest for life. She levet te remember her fight for independence, her first talkt with her amazed husband, when the wtt t eemptrttively young woman of 35, about, insurance and tavings, and the fun the girls used to snake of Mother's finances! She is assistant manager of quite a chicken farm today, and it paid $80 a month and expenses, and begnn with one. There's no understanding, from mere ttatittics, how a great fortune melts twty under wrong handling. One morning I read in the paper ef one of the "multimillionaires" of just a few years ago, not more than fifteen, who it btnkrupt now. By the tame law, no woman knowt how ftst money accumulates until she begins to ttve it. Dollars, and then more' dollars, and then tent of dollart, hundreds of dollars end then eleven hundred dolltrt to invest in a really unutual opportunity and then an offer for that investment of fifty fiTj hundred dellara , "Joe," says the wife, "is it henett to sell that lot for wide-eyed- 1943. , But believe thit, at a consolation. This butinest of providing1 for your own old age, heroically, bravely, joyously, may be the pleuaateet adventure of your life! 1928, by the dicate, Inc.) (Copyright, F It yn Bn tVv ITS km FBS Proof Fit, rstllaf tlekuMa Kpllpr. ao er Cagraiuoa mattat kn bed writ m Attack today without taU. Trnlrbt ia atiir cam. KO KaacOTlca na karafal emfs. litlstaetlo uniy ttd back. r. a x. srwrsov co., CLETILAVD. w. list OSIO. teek at flour-ishin- From Youth To Old Age THERE are three trying periods in a woman's life: when the girl matures to womanhood; when a woman gives birth to .her first' child; when a woman reaches middle age. At these times Lydia E. PinkhamV Vegetable Compound helps, to restore normal health and vigor. Countless thousands testify to its worth, man-mont- " -- foolish-l- it Ml v vC"; ooking 'f ' : the tellt me eeriously that the would seven thousand t We only paid x be just at poor and helpless at many thirty-on- e hundred!" of btr contemporaries if it wasn't Joe burttt out laughing. "'Wiy, for that splendid tense of having darling, that't the way rick people money in the bank. get richer!" And in conclusion, there are ei- For, remember, you young women who read this, it isn't' the women ceptional eases, of course, of real who plan and save who are "eternal- mothers who find real tone ia the ly worrying and tcrimping and men their daughteri marry, aad of thinking about money"! No, just lonely men who feel for that the opposite it true. They are the headed woman at home only a little ones who ean forget it. The free- lesa than Mary doet hertelf. An $3S. Every additional cent the, could dom, the happiness, the vitality that gelt of the household, eome of them, save, she saved. Into the bank it a plan instills into your heart will and fortunate enough to find chilwent; her little girls, and the sis- wipe out all the little sacrifices dren who appreciate angela. ter's child she boarded for $5 a within a few hours. But that isn't the rule. Aad yea week, never had nickels to waste, Bills and waste beget bills and may be one of the women who, waste them. For waste. Thrift hat itt own strange, through no fault of their own, tuf-fe- r and never saw her a while she had chickens and eggs secret, too; that bewildering, deendlest yean of shame aad fail to sell, ami for two years an elderly lightful minute when two persons ure, in a child 't home. man boarded with her, and she and look at each other, over their acIt takes a man of character, courthe girls occupied a tleeping porch. counts, and say in an awed whisper, to build vp The old man paid $15 a week board. "Where doet all thit money eome age and t business, in these dayt. In 1920 her husband died, and the fromt" It takes a woman of courage, older girl married. Two years later Nothing could teem more futile character and ta the younger daughter also married. than to one thousand wonderful Mrs. Wilkinson was delighted in her dollart take glimpse the future, and to tee Iter them into that and put self alone, elderly, penniless the daughters' happiness why should piece of paper that rep- years of plenty gone forever." It she not bet She had teen the time But all taket nerve to resent! bonds. first your of change coming, and was ready deny the children the great fortunes Rockefeller's what they don't want aow, to for it. Mellon and and Ford't 't Aster's, to them what they win want ia Her houses rented and she sold in, after the fire, and paid $22.50 a month for it. It wasn't in a particularly fashionable part of the village, but she wasn't trying to get into society. - Out of that salary tho saved $600 a year. And with that $600 the bought two lots, intured them, borrowed and built two houses. Also she began to buy the cottage the lived in, by an increase of rent to n " why? " How to be healthy and wealthy and wise . , ." Why be constrained to ambitious endeavor ? If you are healthy and wealthy enough Why should you wish, try, or need to be clever?, . r, IV 4. I. M Nt f4 ' , tiin the is being forced to tide Her loyalty goes to toother, and her heart to Jim, aad love it a stronger fore than loyalty. Mary discovers that over and over with one or the other. VaiX-.- . Ltjdia E. PiiildiairfG 1egetable CompDiska LYDIA E. PI.VKHAM MEDICINE CO, LYNN?, MAS. |
