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Show Monday. April 8, 1996 The Daily Herald Rap with a Dai snouia jar memory My husband appears to be confused about who. exactly, is the sports fan in our family. For some unexplained reason, he seems to think it's me. Last week, while Hubby was watching w hat he considered to be a very exciting baseball game. I was in the same room trying to work on the computer. He was yelling and screaming and I was doing my best to ignore him. It was pretty difficult. I"m not sure if he was more bothered by the fact that I was actually getting something done or the fact that I had my back turned to him. At any rate, he couldn't stand that I wasn't watching the game. Finally, to keep peace in the family. I went and sat by him on the couch and Shdly Ncnasa ( wA jl A Confession of a sports widow watched Cal Ripken drive in the tying run. Then I went back to work and the Orioles were on their own to win the game. Actually it did not inconvenience me a great deal to watch one play, and my husband, know ing that I don't really care for sports, actually thanked me for the two minutes of my time that it took to share that great moment with him. It's true lhat I'm not crazy about baseball, but I am rather partial to my marriage. I'm wondering, though, how far I'm going to have to carry on the sports charade to enrich the union. For example. I had an occasion to go to my husband's place of employment last week while he wasn't there. I was visiting with one of his and on the way out of the building noticed a sign-u- p sheet for a company sponsored co-e- d city league soft-ba- ll team. I told my friend that she should sign up and that it looked like fun. That is. until I noticed that my name was on the list right there next to my husband's then it didn't look like fun at all. Truth is. I don't mind playing sports but I'm no good at them and I do mind embarrassing myself in front of others. I especially hate letting down other members of a team, so I try to avoid joining up if I at all can. It's one thing to lose at golf or tennis because you don't let anyone else down. It's another thing to strike out in the bottom of the ninth inning of a softball game. Besides. I don't think playing on a softball team would do anything to improve the relationship between my husband and me. We play ed on a team the first year that we were married and it wasn't fun for either one of us when I would drop a ball in the outfield or stand at the plate and let the pitches go by. praying the whole time that I wouldn't have to swing. Hubby would try to coach me but I always took it as criticism. Then I would get defensive and then he would get mad because I was defensive. By the time we got home we were both feeling pretty crummy. In fact. I don't think most married couples should be play ing on the same team. At one game there was a man and wife on the other team and she was having an even harder time accepting "coaching" than I w as. or her husband was" less tactful than mine. All I know is that after she struck out. he said something to her and she took the bat and popped him in the shins. Tlie lesson I learned from that display of emotion was that married couples shouldn't play ball together. The lesson my husband learned from it was that you should always take the bat away from your wife before you try to give her any pointers. That little incident was five years ago and apparently my husband has forgotten about it otherwise. I'm sure he wouldn't have signed me up. However, I think I can jar his memory with a sharp rap to the shins. County has many ways tor sggu5f fr volunteer unti she became a foster grandpar- ent. "Her divtir described the program as a "miracle cure," Murray related. Foster Grandparent Program volunteers must be age 60 or older and must fall under a guideline. They must also be willing to commit at least 20 hours a week of volunteer service. For those who do not meet the above criteria but still wish to volunteer, the Retired Volunteer By LAURA GOLDEN Assistant Lifestyle Editor The Daily Herald Seniors with a little extra time on their hands might want to consider donating it to a worthy cause, local youth. Foster GrandThe 3 year-old parent Program is in need of volunteers. The program is federally funded and participants are asked to give 20 hours per week of their time to work tn public settings, helping children improve in a variety of areas including academic and sociallife skills. Local volunteers have served in places including the L'tah State Hospital children's unit. L'tah State Developmental Center. Kids on the Move in Orem. local schools, hospitals and centers for disadvantaged youth. f 'V "This (program) has really opened up the Cheri Murray Senior Program (RSVP) is for seniors age 55 and older who are looking for service opportunities in their communities. These volunteers put in up to 40 hours a week in public places including education centers, police departments and hospitals. L'tah County also offers a Senior Companion Program. Participants must be 60 and older, must be willing to commit 20 hours of service per week and must meet income requirements. Murray said senior companions help assist and befriend elderly individuals who are homebound and. for the most part, living alone. These volunteers help with tasks including chores and transportation to medical appointments. Senior companions help keep the elderly from having to enter nursing homes. They also provide live-i- n caretakers with relief periods. who spoke recently to the Women's Division of the ProvoOrem Chamber of Commerce. "It bridges the generation gap," she added. Murray said studies have indicated teens who are involved with foster grandparents are less likely to become involved in gangs, drugs or v iolence. These teens are also less likely to commit crimes against the elderly. Foster grandparents benefit from the program, too. The administrative assistant said some grandparents who are on low incomes have found additional through the program. "Some participants say this is what makes them want to get up in the morning." Murray commented. "Their minds become more alert and the aches and pains seem to just go away." She shared a story about a woman who was on her death bed Anyone interested in becoming d involved in one of the is programs encouraged to call the Foster Grandparent prothe Retired Volgram at 370-83Sunteer Senior Program (RSVP) at or the Senior Companion Procram at 373-820above-mentione- 4: 377-226- 0. Day For April 9 ARIES March 21 April si The emphasis now in on providing for vour financial luluie Go over aeni sjuncs and checking accoum Maienientv vou could find an ernr A new addition to the tamilv will increase vour insurance needs Rl S i pril :il Ma Mi An unusual career or financial ppnunitv could anse this week You need to consult Iannis members hclore making a division Distant jfljirs can he lucrative ;EMII iMjn :i June Mi Your financial situation is changed bv a stride ol tood luck Vour coworkers' pessimism lails to dampen vour spirits phone call alerts vou to a tainiK crisis Tl C N(I.R June :i Julv 12: A joint ell on to please higher-up- s could fall shint ol the mark today Retrain from issuins ultimatums. Solo protects enjov tjvorjble influences. I.EO (Julv IV Aug. An disagreements are apt to center on the right wax to disperse lunds A compromise is the hest solution Questions of personal prestige assume new importance IRtiO i Aug IVSep, good dax to ask lor laxors and seek loans. Paxmg care-lu- l s attention to detail will prevent costlv Share a secret with sonveone m a posi- - ;;; lion to help vou LIBRA iSe,M 2UVt 22 Others will let go ol the past if vou do. A niemher of the opposite se could he wailing lor vou to take the initiative. Vour social life accelerates. SCORPIO lOcl :.VNox. 21 i: Allow things to settle down before vou take a stand on a dixisixe issue Mdilv vour plans if vou tear that vou aa heing overt confident. A second oh is one answer to a cash shoelace. SiNov 22 tVc 2ll: Put a hig nb aside while vou tackle the little ones that have been piling up A relatixe max gne vou the iold shoulder. Withhold judgment until vou have all the lasts. CAPRICORN i Dec. 22 Jan 1st,; Ronunce highlv promising Nothing should stop vou lnm earning out vour plans todav I'se the fax and phone to save valuable time Y'hi need to he prompt about paving bills and answering letters. AOl ARILS (Jan. ISt: Keep a low profile and avoid Irving to force vour views on others Home is a wonderful place to regroup when vou feel stressed. Be honest with vourselt Change can he exhausting Chi S(.i rrRll lks R Smm Judge was woman's nightmare Dear Ann Landers: Dear Ann lenders: Please help me with a problem that has been bugging me for years. It concerns my stepson. "Josh." Deep down in my heart. I feel that this young man is my husband s child. My husband is a medium-to-smaman. with fair hair and skin and blue eyes. Josh is large, to put it mildly He has dark hair and dark eyes. There is no trace of my husband in this boy. nightmare. I hope I can help. 1 spoke with a friend who is an excellent attorney in a neighboring county, and here is at least $500 worth of Tree legal I recently order a against a sought restraining who me in assaulted stranger broad daylight in front of my home. He works at a TV repair shop I once used. Despite the fact that my attacker was arrested by the police, there were two eyewitnesses and my injuries required hospital care, the judge said it was " a "he-saikind of case. The judge then slapped ME w ith a restraining order, told me not to harass my attacker (not only have 1 never harassed him. I am terrified of him), and ruled that my attacker didn't have to pay any court costs or attorney's fees. I was not allowed to speak or present the eyewitnesses. My sister left the court disgusted. I was in tears. My attacker was grinning from ear to ear. As part of his "punishment." my attacker was ordered to get d counseling one weekly block from my home. I'm a straight-- nt advice. Contact Legal Aid, and get a pro bono attorney to handle your case free of charge. An alternative is the Victim Assis- - ll she-said- d, husband's other children My NtR' look like him either in coloring or build Even his grandchildren bear some resemblance. My own child has mv coloring but mv husband's build." Josh has no ambition and spends hours and big bucks watching TV and playing video games. He expects his father to grant his every wish. My husband's other g children are and have goals for the future. It kills me to think that my husband has to live w ith this lie for the rest of his life and that he feeN obligated to the boy. Any suggesFlo tions' Lenders Advice Columnist hard-workin- tance Program run by the state. The phone number is The program will give you financial help with counseling and hospital bills. (The state pays for this.) If you want to speak with the Sonoma County district attorney, the number is Another alternative is Victims of Crime Resource Center. The phone number is A Deroscopa Hkj PtKc'MaRtw volunteers his time as a luster grandparent at Kids on The Move in Orem. Fredrick PasMy, known better to children as GrandThomas Clements as he pa Jack, reeds to tax-pai- -- By Ness U teenagers. It bridges the generation gap." that eases the pressure between the parent and child. "This (program) has really opened up the communication between parents and teenagers." Jeane Dixon 1C vl n communication between parents and Cheri Murray, administrative assistant over the local Foster Grandparent Program, recounted numerous experiences where older citizens have helped members of y ounger generations. She said younger people who have troubled relationships with their parents often find relief in having an adult figure who isn't a relative to confide in. Sometimes Murray, S low-inco- 1 -- observed '" uJ college student. I don't smoke, drink or use drugs, and I never have. I am now saddled with S7.000 in debt from this crime, not to mention living with a restraining order against me when I was the victim. Heaven help crime victims in Sonoma County, Calif. Audrey in Santa Rosa Dear Audrey: Thanks for yet another story about a judge who turns out to be a girl's worst Please let me know what pens. Good luck to you. Dear Flo: If you want to endear yourself to your husband and build bridges instead of walls in the family, reach out to Josh and try to motivate him. Raising the question of his paternity will only make trouble. It's apparent that you dislike Josh intensely and that is the real hap- problem. cathy no wou HOUR BA& WITH by Cathy Guisewite twiii TO THE please! i KWE INSTRUCTION TER H0U). CATHV SOFTWARE ...fiHO ? StUiPtW HtH WSTU N NEU) TA prep sorruwRE.- - STuraS the TO ACCOUNTANT WET. I THIS SfEAR. WTHER, SHOPPIW STUffEO RECEIPTS ! 800K....rirt HOTLINE THE ...DOWNLOAD IRS fl REP... WE8 SITE... 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