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Show iiii The Daily Herald Being sick different as the mom Ah. the cold and flu season. Remember when you used to get sick when you were little? Your mom would break out the chicken soup, the extra pillows and even let you watch TV all day? Sure, you felt lousy, but you were pretty darn comfortable under the circumstances. Ann Hicndort Diaper Diary Time flies, and before you can say "what's an epidural?" you're the mom. When your nose clogs up and your throat dries out. the last place you'll find yourself is resting comfortably in bed. After all. your baby doesn't know you're sick. In fact, baby sees the entire experience as yet another activity designed solely tor her entertainment. There are thermometers to grab, glasses of orange juice to medicine , spill and child-proo- f J bottles to test. Mom moves more slowly all of j. a sudden and baby is quick to dis- ji , cover she can get away with a little bit more. For example, she can get halfway through ripping out each page in the phonebook before Mom can drag herself across the room. Once a mother accepts the reali-t- y thai no one of her situation will be her chicken bringing soup tJ and urging her to stay in bed. it becomes a bil easier. It's best to slip " into "survival mode." which means baby gets fed, diapers get changed and everything else is on its own. (l Hopefully. Daddy is around to help, which is fine until he leaves for work. Still, he's a great asset ' ( until he comes down with the flu. too. At this point. Mom and Dad spend the day lying helplessly on the floor while baby plays happily i between them. Baby enjoys fami-I- v life on her level for a change. And just when you think it can't , get worse, baby gets sick. Now, not j , only are you not getting the rest you need by virtue of being a mom. you must spend your nights up with a sick baby. That's when the real fun begins as you go from aTew hours of sleep here and there to absolutely no sleep, Ha ing a sick baby also makes you realize what a sweet, adorable when she's child you have : healthy. It's hard to believe that cranky girl who screams each ;time you leave the room is usually i the world's cutest baby. Of course, since you are sick , too. you have plenty of empathy ' for baby. If it were socially accept-j- . able for you to express you truest , feelings, you'd cry loudly and spit ' "orange juice at everyone too. It's difficult to decide when your baby should see a doctor. However. ' w hen she eems to have a fever and the helpline wants rectal thermometer to to use a you ' check it. it seems like a good time to involve the professionals. Seeing the doctor can be quite ''reassuring. After all. would a seri-- ously ill baby chew on the stethoon the floor scope, dump the box of the and bandages? ' empty n So w ith the doctor's vote of confidence that baby w ill recover ' soon, you head home. It's good to know your baby will be fine, and ii that the doctor v isit included some free ad ice for you: "Get more rest." i' Ann H. Xieiiilorf i a , u iitfi: . ( i i I . 1 I Q-li- fivi'-Umc- Sign up for class on parenting ! Turning Point, a center for per- sonal and career development at "Utah Valley State College, is offering a parenting skills class ibeginning Wednesday, course will be The ; held from 6 lo 7:30 p.m. at the ii Utah County Health Department. ,58y S. Slate' Street in Provo. ,1, The class is designed to help parents increase their assertive communication skills, enhance t. improve discipline ,,skills and improve overall family .(.relationships. Cost of the course is $20. Sin-gl- e homemak-...jer.- s parents, displaced and low income may qualify will be ,(at no cost. Free child care provided. f or more information or to j' art Shoves in Age-ol- d Kite making still loved in land of c Tuesday, January 7, 1997 technology By JOHN LEICESTER Associated Press Writer BEIJING Just a few blocks from senior leader Deng Xiaop-ing'- s house, down a dingy alley crammed with coal bricks and drying red chilies. a hospital orderly makes magic. With wafer-thi- n bamboo strips, silk, string, glue gossamer-fin- e and skills passed down through China's turbulent history, he crafts kites of all colors, shapes and sizes that float on the w ind like a sigh. The Chinese may have grown to love fast food, mobile phones and other trappings of modern life, but they have not lost their passion for kites. Other traditions such as Peking opera and filial piety may be trampled in China's race for modernity. Not In China, and flylike ing are arts, and Leng Shixiang are artists. The Leng began flying kites as a hoy, learning from an old man he met on Tiananmen Square in the heart of Beijing. Since then, his kites have been featured in magazines and on TV. competed in contests nationwide and won prizes at home and abroad. Leng's cramped room in a bungalow he shares with his family is lined with shelves and cupboards crammed with kites. Bamboo strips for making kites are jammed under the rafters. His desk is littered with paints, glue, g twine and other materials. "Most of my money and time goes into this." he says. With obvious pride, he fishes out the prize of his collection: butterfly-shape- d kites smaller than aspirin tablets that fly on practically invisible threads. "Kites can take people out of this world, return them lo nature's bosom." he says. "By taking you back t ) nature, a kite helps you forget your troubles. The present fades awav." kite-flyin- g. kite-maki- kite-make- 1 .g-tAi- Enthusiasts agree Beijing's best g season is spring, when the wind is warm and constant. But even in winter, people bundle up against the cold and gather in parks, on highway overpasses, sidewalks, waste ground just about anywhere with space for a kite to come alive. Nearly every weekend brings a kite ballet in the sky over Tiananmen Square. Bright-colore- d fish, fashioned from fine paper and slim bamboo supports, wiggle saucily on the wind, as if battling a river current. Larger-than-lif- e cades, with painted wings and lierce cardboard beaks, swoop menacingly kite-flyin- ly, who has been making and flying kites since childhood, has won competitions in Chi- na and abroad. Chinese may have grown to oveihead. provoking excited yelps from the crowds. Most impressive are the dragbodons, their bamboo-and-clot- h ies sometimes stretching 150 feet or moie. Their proud heads look down on the world, mouths filled with rows of white cardboard or polystyrene teeth. Tilling the gaps are dozens of smaller birds, butterflies, dragon-flie- s, and even frogs that bounce in the w ind. their strings often tangling. Many are made of plastic and can be purchased for a few dollars mm peddlers. China's first kite, made of am I writ- response to the letter from man "Oak Park." the who is in love with a woman in her 30s. She wants a child, but he doesn't. He is concerned about being too old to raise another faming in ily and doesn't think they could afford to live comfortably if ihey had a child. I was married to an abusive husband and had live children w ith him. We divorced when my youngest A year later. I was met "George." I was 27. le was 57 and had three grow n children. After six months. George and I realized we were in love. My children loved him. too. and he was wonderful to them. He look them fishing and lo ball games, showed them how to plant flowers, and was a real dad. It took me five years to talk him into marry ing me. He thought he was "loo old." George passed away last year, alter our 10th wedding anniversary. I can truthfully say ihey were the best 10 years of my life. He treated my children as it they were his (. ". My youngest is now 17. and George raised her. My other kids are all doing extremely well, and I know George helped make them what they are today. My only I regret is thai had no children w ith George. I would give my right arm to have his child with me now. If that woman in her 30s under 1 stands that she might be raising the child bv herself, the two of them Ann Landers Advice Columnist would be foolish not to try lor a life together. As lor the financial problems, they will work themselves out. George and I had noih-in- g when we met. and we ended up owning a home, a boat and a car. if people truly love one another, the age dillcrcnce is no big deal and monev doesn't matter. Tell "Oak Park" and his Been sweetheart lo go for it. There and Done That in Mountain Home. Ark. Dear Ark.: Ymi told Ym and in a way I never could. There's no substitute lor having Been There and Done That. Thanks lor the autobiographical input. Dear Ann Landers: hov emperors. They later became popular among ordinary Chinese and spread to Korea. Japan and finally to the West. Leng travels to southern China to cut bamboo, avoiding plants that grow close to water because they are too stiff when dry. "The best bamboo comes from halfway up a hill, facing the sun." I you will allow me lo share an experience that made a tremendous impact on inc. Ycstcidav. I was at the gas sta let! in tears. By ROY H. CAMPBELL Knight-Ridde- A Grand- . -- please call 764-75K- Newspapers r Our attention span is so short that we embrace issues, products, icons and lifestyles for a while, drop them, then move on to the next big thing. And it seems as if events keep repeating themselves: only the names change. The year Wo was no different. There emerged a new major issue (sweatshops), a hot cause (breast cancer), a monster recording group (the l ugees). a blazing star (Jenny McCarthy), a Broadway sensation ("Kent" I. a smash movie ("Independence Day"), a tremendous flop "(Cutthroat Island)." a fresh sports hero (Michael Johnson) and a freak of the year (Dennis Rodman l. There occurred a fabulous comeback (Lddie Murphy ), a celebrated rite of passage (the wedding of JI K and Carolyn liessctiel. a celebrated passing ( Tupac Shakiu). a scandalous tall from grace (Dick Morris), a dangerous trend (heroin use), a sensational crime (the Amy Peterson baby Giossbcrg-Briacase) and a riveting courtroom murder diama (the n isconsin Dear Wisconsin: Thanks to you. thai young man may have u longer life and a healthier one. hal a sweet stnn. mother in W talk-sho- trial). Baby boomers, who think all hie begins and ends with them, stalled turning 50: another boom of babies began, thanks to by Cathy Guisewite cathy5 THE "GRAPE- THE "HEALTHS FOOD PLAN FOR FRUIT UfE": DIET": YEARS Of SALAD 3 WEEKS, AND IT WAS OYER. fcO the "HOLLY- mORE ORESSINCr. E WOOD DIET": M WEEK! AND IT iWAS OVER. f "THf FOOD THE "MFAlTMSf PLAN FOR. UFE": fcO mORE YEARS Of BONELESS, SKIN LESS CHICKEN BREAST "HEALTHY "FRUIT FOOD PLAN 3UIGE LIFE" : fcO FAST": :3i hours AND IT WAS OVER y FOR mORE YEARS Of MELON BALLS DESSERT. FOR f A DIETS NEVER WORKED, AT THEY aai nm BUT lST HAD cnr wit f tFn YEARS OF BRAN FLAKES AND wind-drive- look at what was in, out in pop culture cigarettes. Alter 10 years of biting my tongue every time I saw a young person light up. I decided I was going to say something. I looked at him and blurted out. "I hope what happened to my husband doesn't happen to you. Ten years ago. he died of lung cancer alter a lifetime of smoking." I then turned and headed I'or my car. The young man came running alter me. "Ma'am." he said. "I'd like to say something. It will take just a minute." I braced myself for what I was sure would be an angry outburst ending with. "Mind your own business." I was stunned when he said. "I want lo thank you lor speaking lo me as you did. I've been wanting lo qui) smoking for a long time, but I couldn't quite do it. When you spoke to me that way. something clicked. I no longer wanted to buy that pack of cigarettes. I'm quitting." Struck by emotion. I asked if I could hug him. We embraced, and he said. "I will remember you lor the rest of my hie." Needless lo I he says. "The point is to keep, the bamboo's elasticity." The bamboo twangs like a guitar string made taut when Leng splits it with a knife. He ties the splints together with hemp twine and covers the ensemble with cloth. Gloriously painted designs add the finishing touch.. One of Leng's latest creations n is a drum and cymbal on a bamboo frame that will 'he hung from a kite to make music. As he works, fish swim silently in two tanks he keeps nearby. Inspiration, perhaps, for his kites'.' "No. My other hobby is water weeds." he says. "I'm not fussed about the fish." A tion, paying for the gasoline at the counter, when a young man approached and ordered a pack of say. I fast food, mobile phones and other trap-hi- s pings of modern life, but they have not lost their passion for kites. love wood in the shape of an eagle, was recorded 2.100 years ago. Leng says. It took a scientist three years to build and flew for a day. Kites earned letters and were used in mapping, says Leng. who bases his knowledge on historical texts. At first, kites were toys of the wealthy, including China's Woman who's been there tells older man, younger woman to go for it Dear Ann Landers: a AP Ptiolo Kite maker Leng Shixiang displays some of creations in his crowded room in Beijing in November. Leng, a hospital order- - six-we- .jself-esieen- China ffastt-paee- d SKim U.I ft miuis:: I i record snows, ( )h. and the toy story of the year: Tickle Me Llmo. Since laws of pop culture decree that either you're hot or you're not. you're rising or you're Tailing, it's in or il's out. here's the score, at least according lo those who keep their lingers on the pulse of such things. In Out RuPml Dennis Kodinan Bunny Iviiergier Bugs Bunnv Kobe Bryant Grant Hill CK Be CK One Tan Tim Blue Timherlands berlands -- London Paris Sears Kmart Shiny shirts Stretchy shirts John Galliano Gianlranco Ferre First wives Rent "Rem" Flat rales Hourly charges Hospices Hospitals Mimi Roseanne Remakes Originals Pamela Whitney & Bobby k Tommy M ac a re n a M ac are n a Tattoos Piercing Religion Skepticism Ambient techno Alternative rock Sea bass Salmon Beh iving badly Manners Jenny McCarthy JennyC Jones Pentium Pro Pentium Butter Margarine Preachers Psychics Dalmatians Akitas Tickle Me Llmo Bert S. Lrnie dolls lugees "Friends" Nike Adidas Michael Johnson Carl Lewis Worklare Welfare . Tango Gucci Sweat Waltz Coach Sweatshops Internet TV Computet Internet Will Smith Bruce Willis Book clubs O.J. books Rosie O'Donnell Kathio Lee Gilford i Aliens Immigrants , Cigars Cigarettes Gay unions Family values , Michael Eisner Michael Ovitz Audio hooks Music cas: settes Anonymous Jix Klein AirpoM security Social Secuntv |