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Show THE SENTINEL Thundayjannaif 22,1911 Pag 8 Love, Honor... and Share the Load and turned the steering wheel over to his bride. She steamed! But his head didn't come up until he heard the siren. The speeding fine still is a hot subject 15 years later.' Assuming, however, that love has triumphed long enough for you to take up residence in your first abode and settle down to the business of living together, be ready for some adjustments. The way I figure it, on the housekeeping front there's a whole new day due, for even with most young wives solidly ensconced in the working world, there lingers the assumption that home is her responsibility and anything he contributes in the way of chores is a gift. We have to change the world's thinking, brides. Try to get across to Mr. Newlywed that housework is also his responsibility. He's not helping you; he's doing his half. But remember that if you succeed, hell expect you to do your half, too. In this regard, the worst trap, by far, is paying attention to the neigh- By Pearline A word to the bride and groom: If you think the joyous tones of the wedding recessional, the laughter as the rice flies and the excitement of speeding off for your honeymoon are but samples of the to come . . . And if you think you are well acquainted with that gorgeous person who just said "I do" to you at the happily-ever-aft- er .... altar hear this: All is not moonlight and roses from this day forward. Now comes the business of learning Well, to live together. And it ain't easy. Love won't carry you through. But cooperation will if combined with a sense of humor and the wisdom to keep your mouth shut at cru- bors. If you remark, cial times. The first crisis could come in a hurry. "Mr. Downstairs gets up first every morning and cooks breakfast," Friend Husband may counter with, v For instance, there was the bride who had the bad luck to choose a wedding date that coincided with "Mrs. Adjoiningapartment washes and waxes the car!" Or if you try, "Sam Southcorner does all the vacuuming," Playboy publication day. At the first gas stop en route to a seaside resort, Mr. Newlywed bought the magazine The wedding is the beginning of the most wonderful experience in a couple's lifetime. happy to be a part in the selection of that makes a house a home for many of furniture I I ;-1 inese nemy mamea peopie. Earl's is . m 1 We invite you into our store. We would appreciate your order for merchandise. There's, "Fran Pirstfloor insists that her husband have TWO nights a week out with the boys." If you use this bait to try to get some cooperative action, watch out for a mate with a snappy answer. Mine's rebuttal to my neighborly comparisons was, "Mr. Downstairs is not my ideal." And it turned out, neither was Sam Southcorner. The pattern was set early in our marriage. I heard voices outside. Mr. Nextdoor, a seasoned husband, was giving advice: "Now, son, don't start ANYTHING that you don't want to do the rest of your life. Why, once when my little cupcake had a bad cold, I did the dishes for her. Ever since, she sits on a kitchen stool and talks to me while I do the dishes. That's 23 years. Don't lift a hand, son! Youll be sorry for the rest of your life." That's the kind of man my husband chose as his ideal. One who thinks first and acts never. But all in a marriage is not work and the proper distribution of same, so, young lovers, let's take up another topic one on which you've probably made some assumptions that will have to be rethought. You expect no problem in the bedroom right? Well, there's more than lovemak-in- g goes on within those four walls. There's also the matter of sleep, a necessity. And there are rules to the game. And you do not both enter this marriage with the same sleep rules. Is it impossible for you to sleep unless the covers are cozily tucked in at the foot of the bed? Adjust, my girl. He kicks them out as a prelude to settling down to his dreams. Like to read in bed? Well, turn out the light. He doesn't. Snoring! Doesn't seem like a hearts and flowers subject, does it? But there is a 100 per cent chance that one of .... you will snore every night and it's 99 per cent sure to be him. My dear girl, there are only two avenues open to you: (1) Go to sleep first so you won't hear it. This may be difficult to accomplish, so there's the alternative: (2) Give him a nudge. This takes constant experimentation and adjustment of technique. You start gently, progress through shove, move on to punch, then a few well placed kicks, and hope it never gets to slug. The trick is to determine what it takes to stop the snore without waking him and bringing on a bellow, "What the heck do you think you are doing?" Meantime, try not to head for the marriage counselor when you discover that his mother never taught him to wipe down the wall after a shower, the sound of an emory board on her finger nails drowns out everything else. he simply will not hang towels neatly after he's used them, she is late for everything, there sometimes seems to be NOTHING on which you agree. Really, it's a wonder any marriage survives. But yours can. The secret is for one of you to have a wonderful disposition. Impossible? Not at all. You take turns. tfinstbt gofts m Alice rf Union Square CridslLsnd The Valley's Largest Selection Of Wedding & Special Occasion Gowns. You will be treated courteously. KCEEXttwfl- - 4MMI9 Something Extra91 en 571-521-101to 7 p.m. Mon.-Fr- i. 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