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Show 1 all n being "fiood providers." Ihey may foil to supply the most important possessions of TV 1 By IQHN A. ROSE, M.D. surf Driving fc DirectoiyPhiladelphia Child Guidance Clinic r "family seems impoRaHTairdTKStfnL I do not . find it surprising that the neighborhood children, most of whom come from more ouse as one iouhlifulhomesrs in the country last week, we to admire a low white houseUiati:Overlox)kedriveriInthe driveway-stood-a-new-tatiomva- dshdterigomaarestorm. so preocctipied-mai- gon Manyofthe neighbors and on the lawn a resplendent English bike and a beautiful doll's prarju. I taining the scale of living they have set for themselves that they emanaterah atmosphere of hopedthattheparentsind children of this- insecurityrJvvorryI-and-fatiguei--Theirchildre- ' : A '1 V r vts I : v. s doctor suggested to the mother that she was not giving the boy sufficient attention. v Horrified, she invited her son to sit down with her from 4 to 5 o'clock every Thursday and talk r Af the boy, affronted at being expected to turn a sense of closeness on and off like a faucet, began expressing resentments he may not have real ized hhdandrfinally told his mother that she word. was a selfish YeiaTiy-pToblem-heh- The Family Service Association of America, celebrating its 50th annual conference ast No-vembeiTaTIedr'familybreakdown America's No. 1 social problem." What causes this state of affairs? Many things. But often far too often it is the result of undue striving: a . " . s er father strivingtoget-ahea-d striving for social importance; thejncessant striving for possessions a bigger house, a' betfaster-a-jnoth- TfP-':- ' capacities. Such overextended parents lack the merana energy to givelheif children adequate companionship or understanding. PHOTOGRAPH BY II CHARD CHECANI . v J I f Easter 'wouldn't be complete without a saucy "liwtrctiapea JValtererstatl$aJ)rimniedJ.urquouQ straw by Betmar, bound with black velvet around the croicn. More on hat$t"page 16. w , - That should y. fix companionship, not ostracism. It is ironic tjiat m this age, which provides jpursuitofhappiness, so of know us don't how to pursue many Children basically need very littler to be a loved and loving part of their parents lives, not relegated to the side lines. But in the striv- ing atmosphere that has become part of our leisure-iime-for-- ihe it cultural climate, parents often cheat thir chil- dren of these basic needs. And inpvitahlv the rentr more ambitious, uhA.wA;wiwfKA are to make this serious mistake April IS, 1362 LEONARD S. DAVIDOW DREYFUS WAITER PATRICK 1. OKOURKE C Prvmfmt rf Publisher Vice President Board of Editor ' AdrcrUmng Director JAOXJltkNlLrcctorfhlUkJUhti Send oil advertising communications to Family Weekly, 153 N. Michigan Ave., Chicago 1, III. Address all communications about editorial features to JomjJyeekly.JKLIt 1H2, FAMIir WEEKLY .,.r. onef thosewful she wept, boys who get him!" What this boy needed was understanding and is important for young people to know that IT someone strong and able is on their side. Boys and girls of all ages who get the feeling their parents an more concerned with other things-- r become frightened, lonely, resentful. The most competent family I know I'll call them the Bryans consists of a mother, father, and three children of modest means. Occasionally, I'm sure, they wish they could afford a new dress or suit, a new rug or lamp. But this never seems to upset them. They're too busy enjoying what they have. Whether making Christmas cookies or project in the Bryan, decorating Easter eggs COVER: -r the doctor. J unior, relationship loses its thread of meaning and a boy of girl proceeds to identify within his age group and to reject adult&taiidariis That evening the boy's father visited the doc- tor. Bitterly, he told of all the things he and his wife had given their son: "He's just more 4han weucan handleWe're entering him in a mil- itary-academ- t talkecUike The doctor tried explain that juvenile delinquency almost always- occurs when an adult-chil- d Only a slothful family does not aspire to have things. What is to be deplored is striving what-evit is for which pushes parents to the --spiritual brink of their omental, physical,-an- d - . he flew to ntotrogbjetlhElicgy to er -- C-i ter-fevsessi- ad. five-lett- er ter car, appliances, sports equipment i n- sense this, family stress, Down the road from the Bryans live a very successful executive and his wife and son. Their house were not paying too dearly for their possessions. For parents who extend themselves to give their children advantages most likely, ad- vantages thev themselves Tie ver knew some times cheat their children of that which they need most: closeness, love, and understanding. As if in answer to my thoughts, a boy of about 12 came barging out of that house and shouted, - ViitA n MAGAZINE, INC, 153 N. Michigan A ERNEST V. KEYN Editor-in-ChiBEN KARTMAN ErtcuU're Editor ROBERT FITZCIBBON Editor. MARGARET PHILLIP DYKSTRA AH Director MELANIE DE PRO FT Food Editor ef Mnging tm.FcatureJiditorzzz Eosolyw Abrevoyo. 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