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Show Decision to stay home or go to work Sunday, February 17, 2008 HERALD DAILY C4 r Carolyn: the year Dear to betaking at home with our new baby. My days are busy, but I'm pret ty good about tidying up toward the end of the day so my husband comes home to a dean house. I'm not used to this level of domesticity, so sometimes things get pretty crazy around noon clothes everywhere, kitchen dirty, etc. He came home unannounced at lunchtime the other day, and the house was a customary wreck. fried to laugh it off, but he's now "very concerned" that I'm getting overwhelmed at home and that we should rethink our decision. 1 can't wait to go back to work, but that's not why. Would our relationship take a hii, do you think, if I "let" him talk me into returning to work and hiring a nunny without ever explaining that I'm not the slob he saw in action the other day? Stay-at-Hom- ; e Mom If you're asking me whether you can use your husband's false impression as a way out of admitting the truth, then the answer is exactly what you think it's going to be. I don't mean to sound like such a scold. It just keeps coming out that way when I read that you "tried to laugh it off." and may " 'let' him talk me into" something you already want to do. Do you realize you are putting on a Carolyn Hax Tell Me About It back to work: Whether it makes sense to revisit your parenting plans (along with anything else you're hiding, dodging or trying to shift onto him); And, if so. whether a drastic change is called for, or whether an incremental change would do, like getting more support. Somewhere between the cave and the gated community, being home with small children changed from a team sport to an individual one, with teammates replaced by gadgets, stuff and more stuff. 1 From left DejaVu" I Continued from Cl the war. It's an assertion that his bandmates were quick to correct. "Imagine if one of pop stars had suddenly had an epiphany and started doing this," Young said. "That would've really been good. But that didn't happen." . Nash cut in, saying, "What about that great video (.'Mosh') from Eminem?" Young ignored his bandmate. He continued, "I was hoping something like that would happen. Because it wouldn't just be me. somebody from the '60s." Crosby cut in, saying, "It does happen. It just doesn't happen enough. That girl Pink. That little pop girl link. That song 'Dear Mr. President,' that's a good song." Young ignored him. too. "Nobody except the pop mainstream has guaranteed airplay ," Young said. "There are people that could've turned it around and forgotten about 'Shake Your Booty' for a few minutes. But nobody was moved to, and the people that were moved to were people that nobody would play." After recording. Young got Crosby and Nash into a car and played his new album for them. They agreed instantly .to tour with him. Stills found out later. impeach the president for lying ... abusing all the power that we gave him." Fans are shown storming out ripping up their tickets and threatening to punch Young's face in. This was Chicks, but before public opinion widely turned against the Iraq war. One of Young's stage props was a human-sizemicrophone that he leaned out over front rows. "This movie is about when people started talking again, when people started taking the country back, when people started saying well, it is patriotic to have an opinion," Young said. "That's what the time of that movie is. ... We were riding a wave along with everyone else. It was bigger than anybody." Young put together the "Living with War" album rapidly, and the result was a raw,, ragged sound full of passion and anger. He felt he had to make it because no mainstream artists had spoken out against mid-son- post-Dix- d stay-at-ho- www.cougarbluc.com 'Hii m m GM5 Bin SANDRA BUaOCK IS Crosby said. Young: "No, they'd just inwhen people started stall them at GM." Crosby and Nash, touring talking again, when together, continue to open their people started taking sets with the Nash's 1971 antiwar song "Military Madness." the country back, when But Young has moved on. He CD last fall, a new released people started saying "Chrome Dreams II," focused on love and relationships and well, it is patriotic to with nary a mention of Iraq. have an opinion." "The way I like to do it is if you're going to sing about Neil Young war, sing the whole album musician about war. Just stay on that and drive it into peoples' heads. And that's what we did. But and said he went along more you can't do that over and over again or it's like television. It reluctantly . "I would've told them we'd just completely bores you and ' numbs you." get booed out of the building," Which brings us back to Stills said. "We happened to the band leader's takedown of catch the country in the first Crosby's crack about Bush. stages of the argument. And "A lot of people have probthey'd have it on the way out of lems pronouncing words and the building. The kids arguing with the parents." spelling things correctly. It doesn't mean that they're not Nash nodded, adding, "I would like to have taped maybe intelligent," Young tells Cros1.000 car rides home from our by. "You've got to give the guy concert." credit. Do I agree with him? No. Do I think he's stupid? No. "That's why we need the Do I think he's a leader? Yes. reverse radio," Young offered. He led. He took this country "The radio that when it's off, it's recording. I got that idea where he wanted to take it. from the Bush administration." And he steadfastly stuck with it all the way." 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Marriages don't just "take a consider that, even though hit" when husbands and wives you aren't overwhelmed, you could still be lonely, isolated allow themselves to become die. and bored enough for these, They strangers. to be limiting your impression Since this involves a topic of on which biases run strong, parenthood. And if I'm right, letting your please make no mistake: I'm husband see life through your not saying you should stay home or should go back to eyes, then engaging him in an honest discussion of what work. I'm simply saying you to do about it, will probably should be straight with your be a lot more productive than husband. About: What your days are like throwing this whole year out with the bathwater. with the baby; How you feel during them; What he can do to underCarolyn at tellme(f stand his own family (hint: washposl.com, or chat with her online at noon Eastern Next Saturday or Sunday, Daddy cares for Baby all day); time each Friday at www. 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