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Show DAILY B2 HERALD Wednesday, Match 21. 2007 Wl leaving sister out lead to hissy fit? i. Carolyn! I m trying to choose my bridal party. I would love to have my three best girl friends, but my dad insists 1 include my sister. 1 I She and I do not get along. She is extremely bossy and throws hissy fits if she does not get her way (she is college age) ... my wedding plans included. I have read several etiquette books and none seems to mention siblings. My dad is calling me Bridezilla now, even though I Tell Me About It have been calm in explaining myself. Also, if I include my it may upset you but it needn't sister, do I have to include affect your resolve. my fiance's sisters? Va. For what it's worth, courageous serenity works if you have no bridesmaids (a trend Etiquette won't tell you how to deal with a sister who, aching to be set); or just your when it comes to playing well three preferred bridesmaids; or your sister as one of four with others, learned everybridesmaids (yes, you can thing she knows from your father. Hissy fits? Extremely spare the other sisters). You want to exclude your bossy? Sound familiar yet? but she is The way to deal with them sister, I know still pretty young, along with both is to summon whatever and serene courage hasn't been nurtured out of you, and do maybe could use aamilial what you think is best. Less example of gracaunder social pressure. Not a guilt trip, I boundary conscious family members can boss, hiss and swear it's really just a sugname-ca- ll till their veins bulge; gestion. H Carolyn Hax -- Caroryn: J am getting married and I really don't want to invite my brother and his wife to the wedding. They h everyone in my family and have treated my bad-mout- parents terribly I have been banned from their house for confronting them with their behavior. We recently hosted an anniversary party for my parents and they told us they did not want to participate in the party or contribute to expenses. My brother did show up but his wife did not. My parents said I need to invite them but the thought really upsets me. Anonymous People who ban you from their house can't expect to be guests at your wedding. You can't expect to make everyone happy. Your parents can't expect you to invite someone who is openly hostile to you. However, parents can expect their children to exhaust all means of making peace before declaring war on each other. Have you, in good conscience, done that? Depending on your answer, you either Studios play the dating game for future films reach out to your brother, or make it dear to your folks why you wont. Dear Carolyn: I just received a wedding invitation and it says "Dress: Formalcasual"! What does it mean? Everyone I have asked seems as stumped as I am, Wondering in N J. It means either you dress formally on top, and get progressively more casual en route to your Chuck Taylors; or you decide the couple is being ridiculous and wear whatever makes you comfortable (but would meet your mother's approval); or you just call the bride to find out. Guidelines like that mean the usual ban on pestering the bride has been lifted. "Tell Me About It": tellmewashpost. or com; fax: write: "Tell Me About It," co The Washington Post, Style Plus, 115015th St., NW, Washington, D.C. 20071. Chat online with Carolyn each Friday at , noon Eastern time, at www. washingtonpost.com. 9; -- Josh Friedman Up," starring Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn, onto the same date. So Paramount "Nacho Libre to June 16, when it opened instead against the street-racinsequel "The Fast and the Furious: Tokyo Drift." "We had to ask ourselves whether it made sense to open against another comedy albeit one that skewed a little more female or against an action movie that felt more urban and ethnic and had less star power," said Rob Moore, Paramount's president of LOS ANGELES TIMES Jeff Blake's day is already spoken for on Nov. 7, 2008. That Friday; the Sony Pictures Entertainment executive will open another James Bond movie starring Daniel Craig, who four months ago debuted as the British spy in "Casino g - Royale." - Which is about all Blake knows. As of today, there's no finished script arid no title beyond the generic "Bond 22." In fact, some of the teenagers he hopes to entice with Bond's signature action and suaveness arent even teens yet. But, Blake, said, "two things are definite: Daniel Craig is returning, and we're going Nov. 7. After that it gets com- worldwide marketing and distribution. The shift paid off : "The was a hit, but "Nacho Libre" and "The Fast and the Furious" both drew enough young fans to also be profitable. plicated." In the pressure-cooke- r In Hollywood jargon, the world of opening movies, studios scheduling practice is known are reaching as far as three as "planting the flag," which years into the future to grab gave rise to the term "tent first dibs on the most desirable poles" for the industry's bigweekends. gest films. The competition for With an average of nearly 12 calendar spots is keenest when movies opening every week, it comes to these costly movreal ies, as each studio seeks ideal claiming prime estate as far in advance as launch dates such as holiday weekends for its heftiest bets. possible is crucial Studio production and marketing costs Few had obsessed about have soared past $100 million release dates before opening a movie on average. How a weekends became so crucial film performs on its opening to the industry's economics. " weekend at the box office can Two horror comedies, determine whether the studio and "Gremlins," turns a profit. opened the same day in 1984, And studios increasingly and both clicked. In Jury 1998, Warner Bros, rely on corporate partners d such as chains to turned heads by taking out shoulder promotional costs trade newspaper ads claiming and to sefi mer1999's Fourth of July weekend chandise. Those partners can for its Will Smith movie "Wild require two years to craft cam- Wild West." The studio was paigns and products. warning rivals to find other dates for their summer flicks. 3," May 4's "Spider-Ma- n which is loaded with such s, Its movie turned out to be a dud. was scheduled a full three For their tent poles, studios years in advance, during a conference in 2004. Sony's pro- can pitch camp and expect motional partners on the sequel rivals with similar projects to steer clear. But with most films includeBurger King, General Mills, Kraft, Activision and they look for a cushy weekend Hasbro. with little competition- - a task DreamWorks Animation complicated by the fact that evSKG last fall snagged Nov. eryone has the same idea. Another strategy is to 20, 2009, for its young-Vikin- g such as opening fantasy "How to Train Your a film aimed at women the Dragoa" same weekend an action movie Complex special effects, such as creating a believable being marketed to youths premieres. Last June, 20th Century Sandman for "Spider-Ma- n 3," also can necessitate working Fox launched the hit "The Devil Wears Prada" two days after years ahead. In its strategic moves and "Superman Returns" opened. inevitable showdowns, the When two major films aimed film dating game can resemble at the same audience end up on a collision course, the question chess, poker or chicken. Paramount had planned the is whether either studio will blink. If one does, a chain reacJack Black wrestling farce "Nacho Libre" for last June 2 tion can result. New Line Cinema scheduled until Universal plunked its n romantic comedy "The Break- - "The Golden Compass," a fantasy in the style of The Lord of the Rings" trilogy, for Nov. 16 of this year. But when Paramount picked the same date for Robert Zem-eckversion of the fantasy epic "Beowulf," New Line switched to Dec. 7. "Our picture is going to be huge," said David Tuckerman, president of New Line Theatrical Distribution. "And I'm sure they feel the same way. It Break-Up- " big-scre- Talking to the wind MISS MANNERS DEAR what manner a person act, in a conversation, when the other person tunes out of the talk for a brief time because they are distracted? I have a male friend I meet with for coffee. If an attractive woman comes by, he will stare at her and ignore our conversation for 10 or so seconds, and then resume. If I happen to be talking at the time, I'm not sure what to do. I usually keep talking, until my friend rejoins the conversation. But I find it embarrassing. I feel awkward talking when no one is listening, and I think his behavior is rather rude. This has happened to me only a few other times in my life, when a person is distracted when I am talking, and I never know what to do. But it mostly happens just with my friend. I work hard at being a good conversationalist and listener, trying to steer the conversation in the direction If he has any sense, he will retreat hastily, saying, "No, I was mistaken; I don't know her" and return his attention ' f to you. You will probably have to do this on more than one occasion, but Miss Manners is confident that he will eventually learn that having that exchange yet again is not sufficient compensation for those fleeting glances. DEAR MISS MANNERS I'm writing about a argument among Miss Manners friendly my friends. Raymond, a superb host and our late friend, would offer a toast in honor of the other person's interests. of any new guest at his dinner But in this situation, it doesn't table. However, that guest seem to help. was never allowed to raise GENTLE READER his or her glass and sip, since Because Raymond said it was in the you are not steering the conversation in the direction of guest's honor and one should your friend's immediate inter- not drink to one's self. est. Others among us say that You might try that. Not one should be allowed to drink ogling ladies, of course, which to a toast in his or her honor. . is a nasty habit. But asking Still another friend hedges the him brightly, "Who's that? Do argument by asserting that you know her? Should we go one doesn't drink to one's self, over and say hello?" but should immediately return a toast to the host andor hostess and may then drink. Judith Martin or FanDe-U- fi Wrinkle Creams? SPECIAL love to have who points out that the graceful way to catch up on the drinking is to offer a counter toast. DEAR MISS MANNERS GENTLE READER long-runni- GENTLE READER Ray- mond was entirely correct: One should never drink to oneself (bridal couples, please take note), as is your friend I have a colleague who consistently forgets to include mes"attachments" to sages. How do I politely reply to this person (repeatedly) and request that they resend the message with the attachment? Yes, between those people and the ones who send attachments that can't be opened by the recipients, or attachments that take forever to open and are not worth it, we are all going mad. Yet Miss Manners urges patience and a polite reply of "Please resend attachment." Manners alone mandate this, but forgoing snapping back will protect you against counter-snaps on the inevitable day when you forget to attach an attachment. 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