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Show 8 FRIDAY, FEBRUARY MENTAL HEALTH continued from page THE DAILY UTAH CHRONICLE 23, 2001 7 (Critical Incident Stress Debriefing), where staff members or trained individuals on campus outstaff are side the counseling-cente- r available on the phone to assist in emergency events. In situations recommends referring the Espinoza the to counseling center, person and telling them about its confidentiality. "When a person is first going through a depression stage, he or she goes through denial, or it is so gradual other people will notice first," he said, "It is helpful to point out to the person what you are seeing, how they are acting differently, like if they are not as social. You must let them know you are concerned, and help is available." According to one student who had a depressed roommate, a good reason for referring someone that you think might need help is that many people with problems affect the life of friends, family, roommates and others who spend time with them. "It was really hard living with the depressed person," she said. "It made it hard to study because she was always in the room. She followed me around because she needed someone to cling to, so she put her problems on me." The student said her roommate always put herself down and would hardly leave the room, except maybe to go out to eat. She would also make fun of and be rude to others, presumably to make herself feel better. She even physically harmed herself, making slits though not complete cuts on her wrist and then other parts of her body. Almost nobody would tolerate her. They didn't know why she acted the way she did, and when she would make fun of others they would respond with similar comebacks. "I was the only one who knew the reasoning behind her behavior, and I didn't want to spread rumors. I would just say 'Be careful about her,' but I didn't want to say any more," the student recalled. When she couldn't handle her roommate anymore, she finally moved out. She told her resident assistant in the dorms about the problem. When the resident assistant contacted the roommate, she seemed upset that somebody she hadn't told knew about her condition. "I didn't know what else to do. I left some counseling-cente- r brochures and fliers around so she would see them, and then I moved out. Our RA tried to involve her in more activities, and now she seems to be doing better, although not completely recovered." She thinks talking to a counselor would have made her roommate realize her "I didn't think she went to the counseling center, since she was upset that someone besides me knew her condition," the student said. "She didn't want to seem helpless. She thought she could handle it alone. She didn't think she had a self-wort- h. problem." TAMMM Anthropologist and primatologist, pioneer and leading authority on the study of maternal behavior in animals, Sarah Blaffer Hrdy is the author of The Woman That Never Evolved and the recent Mother Nature. Tanner Professor Hrdy's two-paLecture will first explore evidence about maternal ambivalence in humans and related species, and then turn to a discussion and debate with the Tanner sarah blaffer hrdy THE LECTURES February 27 & 28, 2001 f The Past, Present & TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 27TH 12:00 p.m. Michael Lamb. National Institute of Child Health and Development "Eliciting Information from hild Sexual Abuse Victims " WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 28TH Gould Auditorium Marriott Library Gould Auditorium, Marriott Library 4:00 p.m. E. B. Keveroe Kings College, Cambridge "Genomic Imprinting, Brain Evolution and Materialism " 210 ASB, Biology Seminar Room Tanner Panel Discussion 2:00 4:00 p.m. Martha Fineman, E.B. Keverne, Michael Lamb, Sarah BlalTer Hrdy Natural History Museum Tanner Lecture, Part I 8:00 p:m. Sarah Blaffer Hrdy "Mother Love and Ambivalence: Reconciling Future of the Human Historical and Family Evolutionary Perspectives Gardner Concert Hall " Tanner Lecture, Part II 12:00 p.m. Sarah Blaffer Hrdy "Cooperation, Empathy and . the Needs of Human Infants" THURSDAY, MARCH 1 12:00 p.m. Martha Fineman, Cornell Law School "Care and Contribution: Caretaking and the Creation of Social Debt" Borchardt Conference Room, School of Law flJggBMBBS Sometimes I have this horrible dream that I'm back in high school. I push through the freshman-infeste- m a. in shock as he. told me the chain of girls who had spread long the rumors, none of whom I had ever met before. When he was done I sat silent for a moment, and then I burst out laughing. My friend looked surprised as I sat there snorting, and I sat 801-944-31- Saturday night pondering how I could find dog poop and some Of course, as my friends found out about it, they stood up for me and even confronted some of the girls. Some of them kept saying I needed to. be more upset and stand my ground, but it didn't matter to me anymore. In fact, T was actually glad it happened. I never realized how easy it was for gossip to travel. I mean, everyone does it, but I had never experienced first hand what it's like to be the center of it It wasn't pretty. In the end, I actually met one of the girls, and she was really nice. We didn't ride off into the sunset singing 1 Salt Lake City, Besides, anyone who knows me knows the rumors could never be true. (Not because I'm moral or anythingI just don't have the time for an exciting life with 17 credit hours.) As my shock and indignation wore off, they were quickly replaced with anger. I had never done anything to these people, and they had no right to run my reputation into the ground. I figured my friend was right; I needed to stand up for myself. Better yet, I could get revenge! So later that night, my best friend and I found out where the girls lived and tried to come up with a plan. We thought about everything from doorbell ditching to placing smoking paper under their doors to set off the fire alarms, but nothing seemed quite right. We thought about it for over an hour, when it suddenly dawned on me how ridiculous I was being. There I was, wasting a perfectly good 18. 6360 South 3000 East Suite 310 54 I suppose I laughed at first because it seemed so impossible. Of course I live in the dorms, so I expect word to spread fast, but I always assumed outright lies and gossip were relics of the past. matches. I stood back from the situation and thought about it for a while. Then I laughed again, this time because it was honestly funny. I didn't care what these people thought, and I couldn't change what they thought about me. So why should I bother? I wasn't going to let them turn me into Brenda. I was more like the girl with the glasses you know, the one who was actually 30 years old but playing We are looking for volunteers to participate in a clinical research study to treat these symptoms. Contact us today for more information about how you can find relief. ' "S2b. I I Ml I'f.J a stuay-reiateuanriea participants win receive pnysical exams, study medication and compensation for time and travel. Call us today! d hallways, and all around I can hear the mindless giggles of a drill-teadancer, the bathroom jokes of a football player, and my gym teacher saying, '"Let's have the girls do one more lap alone." I always wake up in a cold sweat, but soon I realize that I'm safely back in college life. The other day, however, my nightmare became a living reality. I was eating with a friend when he suddenly announced that he had heard "bad things" about me. As he explained the rumors, ranging from me being a prostitute to a raging lesbian, I suddenly saw my life turn into an episode of "Beverly Hills: 90210." And the worst part was, I was Bren-d- you feel Bloated? Feel full shortly after eating? Stomach pain? Nausea? Vomiting? I even harder. Chronicle Feature Columnist Do . finally he suggested that I confront the girls about the rumors. His actual words were, "bitch-slap- " them, which made me laugh CASSANDRA HARTLEY rt Panel about tthe implications of these findings for the future of the human race. I Hklls Jfyark ,MooI Playbacks Rumor UT 84121 the "Rainbow Connection" or anything, but we were civil. I just hope if she spreads more rumors in the future, she will dress them up a bit, perhaps say I'm having President Machen's love child or something. 1 1. - 1- |
