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Show -- FRIDAY, MARCH 10, 8 THE DAILY UTAH CHRONICLE 2000 Dear Ann: Play ing The Field Could Hurt Loved Ones I WAV ANN VARANAKIS r - A. . HI Wj 1 UMulWHli Chronicle Advice Loiumnisi Dear Ann: have recently been seeing three different girls at the same time. I am physically active with all of them. The problem is, they don't know about each other and things are getting seri- mi ous with two 1 with one cf these women, then you need to pick one and tell the rest goodbye. If you don't want a relationship and you just want to date these women then I suggest you tell them the truth. As much fun as it is to meet new people and fee! that excitement, you don't want to hurt anyone. I know that this woman is the best lover of your life but relationships can't survive on physical attraction alone. If things are getting "serious" with the other two, you best be telling the truth before things go too far. I know thai: you feel like the right now, but you won't be much of anything once word is out that you have a plethora of women all waiting for ycur next move. That is what us ladies call a player. This is a reputation that takes at least a relationship to cure. If you don't want that, don't be fooling with an abundance of girlfriends. As far as your roommate is you blame him? No one likes it when they have to hear you and the greatest lover you have ever had. ..especially if your roomie is not so lucky. Take your "guests" somewhere else. It is only March; you still have to live with this person for two more months. He may be the only one you have left after all these women find out about each other. Try to work out a schedule of when he will not be home. I know that might be the solution that you were looking for but I don't think that your "guests" should come between you and your room- " don t want tc dump any of them but I am running out of excuses. My constant visitors are bothering my roommate who sleeps in the bunk below me, but I can't take them anywhere else in fear of getting caught, i really care about two of them, and the other is the greatest lover that I have ever had, but I know wc are not meant to be. Should I tell the truth or just wait and see what happens. Help. Anonymous Taxi c O imiiimi 1 1 I I J Dear Taxi: You have more problems than getting caught! First of all, if ycu are sexually active with all three of these women, I have one word for ycu PROTECTION. You better be using it! I am glad that you are getting some good luvin' but you might want to reconsider. You are in danger of really hurting these women. I assume that you have not committed anything to these women, meaning you have not said something brilliant like, "Sure babe, you arc the only woman in my life." If not, good...don't. You need to make some decisions and fast. If you want a serious relationship an mate. Good luck Taxi! I know that telling these women the truth is not going to be easy but it is the best thing to do to avoid a very bad situation. Hang in there! can most of the time since my accent isn't that strong. However, I have a problem with the English idioms. My friends here at the U, all from the U.S., deliberately use a vocabulary full of idioms such as, "you will bite the dust today" and they say that I am a "bull in a china shop," just to make me confused and have someone to laugh at. What shall I do? Quit my job and go home? Ask INS to deport me? I don't Swedish Fish feel like I belong. Dear Swedish Fish: I don't think that your are intentionaSiy teasing you to hurt you. It sounds like they are just trying to be funny. However, that does not make it OK. Don't ask INS to depert to step you. Tell your talk to them let harassing ycu. Don't Be like that, anymore. you with them the next time they say something, Don't joke about it either or they will not take you seriously. You deserve to be happy with your job but you don't have to like your coworkers. Be honest with them. If it continues, have a little chat with your supervisor. It is their responsibility to make sure that employees ?.re treating each other well. I know that Americans use a lot of slang and other forms of language that confuse people learning English. Don't let it get you down. You might want to try and meet some other students here from Sweden or Other countries. At least this will give you a group of people to hang out. with that know how you feel. Try the International Center in the A. Ray Olpin University Union Building. They might have some support groups for students who are new to the U.S. Good luck! Don't let them push you around! You can stand up to them! up-fro- Ann Ann v1"" Ylf university nt " h energetic tail of the party." BREAK am not from the United States, and therefore English is not my first language. It's usually not a problem. In fact, most people take me for Ameri1 ds 1 5 continued from pg 7 Ogilvie also mentioned the struggle inherent for those students or faculty members like her with kids. "My daughters and I have Spring Break zl different times," she said. "They have their week oft of school the week after we do. So, in the ead, Spring Bve.k will not be much of a v acation." LUCKY PEOPLE WHO WORK AND PLAY AT THE SAME TIME While some students will be busy studying both here and abroad, and others will be partying in the likes of New Orleans, there are the illustrious few who planned it right so they could do both at the same time. "My Spring Break trips always tend to be a thing...mainly because the trips are quite expensive," said Eric Ro!ph, a student in visual faithro-polog- y who makes his money by doing freelance writing and photography, and who also is an employee of The Daily Utah Chronicle. "Ycu always have these elaborate trips planned to Mazatlan or somewhere like that but they never materialize and you wind up settling for' so much less." Rolph said that he sees the main problem of trips never materializing comes down tc not wanting to fork cut the money in the beginlast-minu- te THOSE FEW PEOPLE DOING THE LIVING FOR YOU Dr. David Knowiton, a visiting associate professor in the anthropology department, plani on spending the break like any good anthropolodo would getting yery far gist from away campus, "Fin heading to Peru, to a village Called Pampa Iiacta. It is a rural, rather peasant, traditional community located in the highlands near the Sacred Valley," he said. f . Along with students from various fields that are going to the place, there is ning. mysterious "The problem is that after a long also a number of professional members of the academic commusemester, you really feel that you nity heading down with a group need to go somewhere." he said. called C.RO.I.C.E. "But, because of the money issue, "We are going down to spend you never solidified any of your some time in the village to do big plans. I think end up spendsome smJJ development working ing just as much, if not more, on a school house and the stumoney on my spontaneous trips dents will receive some real than if I would have broken down hands on experience with rurai and paid for a nicej planned one." This year, Rolph bought a plane problems working in a health said. ticket Kiiowlton to London, England. clinic,' h will be the "For me, going to London is just area "So, the group five for a short or six days. After something 1 really need. I have that, the students will go on to hike been working straight and I alrfJLe trail at Machu Piccbu and Put eady to go vacation." You would think that while in going to hang out. vis.it some friends, do some anthropological London, Rolph would busy himself staff, read, write and sit in coffee seeing all the tour ist attractions: Big Ben, Windsor Palace, the shops; you know, important things Hkcthat." Thames But Rolph is more interWhen asked how he hooked up ested in the various pubs arid the with t)ie excursion, Knowlton said culture that comes with their. that one of the directors of Besides, it seems more appropriC.H.OXC.E. asked him to go and ate for Spring Break. check out what they were doing. "I'm interested in going to the asked me told me to go, "They pubs because it has always fascifund I nated me to go to a bar and check my way, so they would thought 'Why not; Hi go see what out the type of people who come C.H.O.I.C.E. is doing'," he said. there often and feel a sense of ' Students can join such groups community. as Alternative Spring Break or "For me, it all started when I experience excursions into the was reading a lot of the Beat writers." nether; regions of Peru and such After Rolph finally turned 21, he places although very rarely are such adventures going to be fundstarted going to various bars in the ed like Knowlton's. At ihe same Salt Lake City area, an activity time as seeing a new part of the many V students who can't afford world, students and faculty can plane tickets will find tnemselves also do some good by helping peodoing. "Here in Salt Lake, we really ple with daily needs. but don't feel terribly guilty if have some neat bars like the Twimsread of passing our. vaccinations light Lounge or My X Wives Place. in Africa, you have planned to be There is this whole total culture passing out yourself induced, by a going on and these bars seem to be rather large consumption of alcoat the middle. Basically. I just hol- for you are not alone. wanted to go to where it all This year, things are a bit differLondon." ent for students involved with the As a sign of just how serious university's dance department. The Rolph is taking this American College Dance Festival is in London adventure, he went to the I. Willard Marriott Library and being held here at the U during Break. In an to effort the read books on the different areas Spring get dancers to attend the festival, the of London not for tourist information on the best time to see department has given them Thursday and Friday off of this week in a "what attractions, but father on sort of compensatory move. where the local haunts are at. " The festival costs money," said Rolph ultimately demonstrated Angel Herbert, a senior in the the spirit that many students and modern dance department. "So, faculty have guiding them during instead of sttending, I decided to this time of year, when time is precious and there seems to be a little go home for almost the entire vacation, including my extra two extra that is not burdened by the days. Tm also bringing a lot of likes of school. friends home to Baton Rouge, La., "While in London, I have little with me. My mom is very excited to no interest in seeing die changthat I have all these people coming of the guards, I just want to go I loves to drink." entertain. ingshe just hoshas this she Southern While Rolph and Knowlton are guess some of the lucky ones, most U pitality thing going for her. "h really is too bad because students will be putting to extra : Mardi Gras will have occurred a hours at work. Still, rest assured few days before we get there," Herth?.t for a week, your brain can bert ad jed. "But we booked a hotel atrophy and maybe .skip off to Lonroom in New Orleans for one night don or Peru for at 'east a and to ride die anyway, hoping go indiana-Jones-styl- ed far-o- ff 1 -- ; : Gen-eratio- n ; Manufacturers and Stnic Piovifais will be here at (lie telOrV schtiuktl fees to 12 Top Inch yoi pub-hoppin- aioif Mir fecfiiologies, Ifien, slick aroind for spzcki values from each vendor for (he hour Mediafely following (fie presentation. 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