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Show o o 3 8 By JAJV ANDERSKN Although Mother's Day is- traditionally for recognizing and pampering moms, it can be a trying time for many people peo-ple those who have lost their mothers and mothers who have lost children for example. What a wrench it must be also, for those women who have never had the benefit of a loving, caring relationship with their mothers. However, most of us have someone in our lives to whom we have turned in times of crisis upon whose shoulders we have cried. They can be recognized as moms too! Mother's Day can be for anyone Those who have shone a ray of hope upon us in desperate times those are the people who should be remembered on Mother's Day, irrespective of their gender or their biological bio-logical connection to us. Mother's Day is for anyone any-one who has mothered someone and for anyone who has carried a child, whether that applies to biological mothers, adoptive adop-tive mothers, stepmothers, foster mothers, care providers, childminders, mothers who have lost a child, single mothers, single sin-gle dads, grandmothers, aunts, sisters or close friends. Mothers who have lost a child In January 1990, a friend of mine, Sarah, tragically trag-ically lost her first baby a few hours following the birth, due to an incurable heart condition. On Mother's Day, four months later, she should have received her first Mother's Day card. None came. "Does it mean that I'm not a mother, just because my baby has died?" she asked me. "Of course it doesn't," I said but I too felt guilty for not having had the forethought fore-thought to recognize the fact by sending her a card. The love for her son was still there but no acknowledgement acknowl-edgement that she had ever given birth. Her husband, hus-band, who was still grieving griev-ing himself, felt that it would have been cruel to give his wife a card under such tragic circumstances and I presume that her parents felt the same way. Two years later, my friend gave birth to a healthy baby girl. The following Mother's Day, she received a card from her mother that said, "Take it easy on your very first Mother's Day." Her mother wasn't consciously con-sciously being insensitive and yet my friend was mortified. It was not her first Mother's Day, but her second. It was as though her son had never existed. That experience taught me that even when someone some-one has lost a child, they have a right to celebrate the fact that they have been a parent and this should be recognized by everyone close to them. While it may not be prudent pru-dent to send them a card that says, "Happy Mother's Day," there is no harm in sending an innocuous blank card, inside which you can write your own special message to let them know that you are thinking of them. They might even appreciate appre-ciate a bunch of flowers or other gift that makes them feel acknowledged, included includ-ed and respected. Motherless parents When I use the term motherless I don't just . See ANYONE, Page 9 Just in time for Mother's Day Multi-Purpose Building Juab County Fairgrounds 410 West Center St., Nephi Boutique Hostess: Terry Kay (435) 623-0880 ABBY CHIC - ART POTTERY - VINTAGE CHINA - ESTATE JEWELRY - FURNITURE a. O EE Q UJ 5 ow your much you love her! LU CC z a: ZD u. Z UJ Q (3 z O CO X f z UJ X o Orchid corsage $ 7.9 Spring bouquet $ 20.00 up Hanging baskets $20.00 Sterling earrings & lockets 20 off to o Z UJ I co CO co Q o CO SSV10 Planted! Flowers, Antiques, 440 S. STATE, - syoayiiM- siNawaoNvyav Spring (Boutique Friday, May 2, 10 a.m. - 7 p.m. Saturday, May 3, 10 a.m. - 6 p.m. otker li ow ner! we deliver! Earth Plants, Etc. OREM 225-4510 xtis - siod w3moij - SHivgyM aai - sasoy o 1M m 6 co. o X z o m rz m xi co 7i co I co H rn r; Z Q o z co I CD o co |
