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Web site helps with abusive relationships Heather Bowser Andrea is having "trouble" with her txiyfneiuJ. "I;s your partner lic(iienllv tell you what to wear'.'" read her computer com-puter screen I eelintf frihiened, the twenty-year-old Wisconsin resident, who wanted to Ix- known just as Andrea, nervously tin ked the "sometimes" button Andrea, like more than 100.1)00 others from across (he nlobe, turned to an Orem based Wet) site lor help because she believes her three year relationship took an abusive abu-sive turn "I found that this is not like one of those Wei) site that says. 'Of), we can help you,' but then doesn't. " she said " I his one actually explains everything ev-erything " I he local company, called (irowth Climate, began helping people like Andrea about live years ago when Kevin Skinner, a Incused marriage and family theiapis! in I'rovo. got together with friends for dinner at Local advocate programs aid victims Joyce Gunther When a vu tun's advocate walks into a home, she bas to be pi e pa red lot the worst , "It's always scary when you go on a home visit You never know what you'ic going to find." said lody, who asked her last name withheld lor seem se-em it v reasons "Wc receive the police reports, but sometimes, the reports aie not complete, com-plete, and we find llungs we weren't expei ting," she said, "We do receive training to deal with problems like ni'-th labs and things to look lor in possible di ug situations and suspected suspect-ed i hild abuse "We help the victim write up a predial pre-dial protei I ive oi der, which is either a i ivil order or a i riniinal order with criminal sanctions " I his protective order is filed through I he dist i ict court in I'rovo. I he criminal oi der is requested through an advocate, to the prosecuting prosecut-ing at tot iiev. on behalf o! the victim when a i riminal ( barge is at pre-trial status II the defendant violates the older, he is arrested and ( barged. "I like to priK ess orders on line, because the form v. alks you through the process, and helps the victim de Liuvi mm- 00 Ford Taurus SES Pwr. Everything! Nice! $5,995 Honda of Orem 800-783-4916 01 Dodge Intrepid SE Low Miles, Clean1 Must see! $5,497 Honda of Orem 800-783-4916 i '99 Ford Ranger XLT Super Cab, Red, Automatic, Blowout Priced, $9,897 03 Honda Pilot EXL-RES DVD, Leather, Loaded! $25995 Honda of Orem 800-783-4916 02 Ford Windstar SE Minivan! Only 51 K Miles' $11,999 Honda of Orem 800-783-4916 01 Toyota Camry LE Loaded' Only 64K Miles' $12,897 Honda of Orem 800-783-4916 : '95 Chrysler PT Cruiser Premium Alloy Wheels. 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Andrea took a typical 40 minutes to finish the relationship profile before be-fore deciding to purchase the test evaluation. Not all Growth Climate visitors are as patient. About 40 percent of test takers log off before finishing, and of those who finish, only A to fi percent pay for the evaluation. But with up to 70,000 people ac cide whether hisher circumstances meet the criteria for a civil protective order, or whether they need a stalking stalk-ing injunction," .lody said. I he criteria which must be met for a protective civil order to be filed includes in-cludes having lived with defendant, or has or is expecting a child with the defendant, de-fendant, or is related to the defendant. Jody served as a saf ety dispatcher for eight -and-a-half years before accepting the position of victim's advocate, where she has been for the last two and a half years. She likes it. although it does have its ups and downs, she said. "I'm not tied to a console all day, and I get to see the impact of what is happening. I used to only get the first of the story, and now 1 see the story through to the end. "I always ask the victims to keep me updated. It's nic e to know I'm making a difference. They don't know what's available for options, and I help them see those options and resources," she said. "I learn something some-thing on a daily basis. It has been a big adjustment, very humbling, and very gratifying ... Lvery case is different differ-ent and unique. It's very common for (each case) to have some new twist." Giristine Peterson, Pleasant Grove City Attorney, enthusiastically sup- 03 VW Jetta GL Silver, Manual! Clean Car! $13,995 Honda of Orem 800-783-4916 97 Dodge Grand Caravan SE, Minivan, White! $4995' Honda of Orem 800-783-4916 05 Kia Sedona LX Minivan! 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Johnson said a valid test needs to be reliable, which means it measures the same thing again and again. David Williams, a mental health counselor in Provo, agrees with Johnson and said Growth Climate is a good idea, but it is sometimes unwise for people to rely solely upon a test to make permanent changes in a relationship. re-lationship. "Even a validated test doesn't mean it's 100 percent correct, it just means Victim Advocate Programs AlpineHighland Police Department - 756-9800 American Fork Police Department - 763-3020 Lehi City - 768-7117 Orem Department of Public Safety - 229-7128 Pleasant GroveLindon Police - 785-3506 Utah County Sheriff's Office -851-8364 If you are someone you know is in a violent home situation, there is a Victim's Advocate Program near you. ports the victims advocate program. "I write a letter of support every year for the grant proposal. I support sup-port the program and rely on it," she said. "Victim's advocates are critical to the system for helping the victims get through it all, and for keeping the prosecutors informed on what's going on with the victims. "(Victims advocates) provide immeasurable im-measurable relief to the victims, helping help-ing them obtain civil protective orders and guiding them through the system," said Peterson. The only person who may not see the victim's advocate as a blessing is the perpetrator. And Jody has had a few uncomfortable off-site encounters. One recent accidental meeting with a defendant happened DOES YOUR CAR GET 40mpg? rsjjvr E ' '. ' ' JLatf.j-. w ' i 9 1 sm I i i 02 Honda Accord Special Edition! Must See! $15,497 Honda of Orem 800-783-4916 01 VW Jetta GLS Red, Auto, Only 55K Miles! $10,997 Honda of Orem 800-783-4916 '01 VW Beetle Sport Nice Wheels Silver, . Manual, Blowout Priced, $1273 that it has predictability value," he said. To "validate a test," according to the two therapists, Is a long and expensive ex-pensive process of deeply researching research-ing a test to prove that it can have a predictive value. Currently, Growth Climate has not been empirically validated but the task is underway. The Orem crew said their test was developed after they attended domestic domes-tic violence courses, studied relationship relation-ship tests and did other extensive book research. Although the therapists agree face to face contact is best, companies like Orem's Growth Climate continue to regularly serve online self-helpers like Andrea. For now, Andrea, who scored several sev-eral "red flags" on her test, said her future with her boyfriend is questionable. question-able. "I'll keep reading over my test results re-sults and taking some of the suggestions sugges-tions that teach me ways I can deal with him," she said. "Some things we don't share with each other. This test is just one of them." of abuse in a grocery store parking lot. "He asked for my full name, and not thinking, I gave it to him. The chief later said, 'You don't have to give him your name," Jody said. "No one has threatened me to my face, but I did get an unlisted number. You never know." Pleasant Grove Police Chief Tom Paul is very grateful for Jody's help. "We have our hands full with making mak-ing the arrest, and can't give our attention at-tention to the victim," he said. "I think society as a whole has become more aware of the problem and the effect it is having on the children in the home. (Violence) is a learned behavior. The victim's advocate is another help in breaking the cycle of abase." THE 2006 PA DOES 2006 CMC EL t ? m i 1 1 1 1 : t ' i m L I l H JT1 ' .1 ' MM 'III '2 '02 Toyota MR2 Silver, Convertible, Only 30K Miles. Blowout Priced, $15,797 04 Honda Odyssey EX Pwr. Sliding Doors! 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