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Show rTW X V. . . , , . ' 1 V,H Value Speak - L Why marriages succeed t'iUCv the wav. But marriage can work. and it can be wondcrful-and wonderfully successful. No mater what the headlines say. 3 ' jV .,,( Page Six - The Springville Herald - July 24, 1991 I ) 11 I h 111. Ill" I i I 1 V-'1 II ,il 1 " .""XV. I V . I I v I 1 lip l by Joseph Walker I was scanning the headlines at the grocery store check-out stand the other day when I read something some-thing that really startled me. No, it wasn't the one about how a space alien was kept alive in an iron lung. Or the one about how you can "get fat as a pig and feel fit as a fiddle". Or even the one that claimed Elvis is alive and working for Roto-Rootcr in Fresno. Fres-no. In fact, this headline was on a "respectable" publication. It said: "Why Most Marriages Fail". I reread re-read it. "Why Most Marriages Fail"? Someone had to be overstating over-stating a point Sure, many marriages mar-riages struggle. But most marriages? marriag-es? No way. Then I looked at the article and read statistical evidence to back the claim. According to a recent study, slightly more than half of all first marriages are ending end-ing in divorce these days. For second marriages, the divorce rate jumps up to 60 percent. And I don t even want to think about the numbers for third and fourth marriages. It's sobering, really, when you think about the cost of all that breaking up from a human per-spectivethe per-spectivethe broken hearts, the shattered dreams, the fractured families. Reports indicate that more than half of all American children are living in single-parent homes, and only time will tell what that will mean for society over the long haul. The saddest thing to me, however, how-ever, is that it doesn't have to be this way. Call me Mr. Pollyanna and cut me adrift on the Good Ship Lollypop, but I see enough strong marriages to confirm my belief that while there will always be a degree of failure in any human hu-man endeavor-including mar-riage-the divorce epidemic is largely preventable. A big part of the problem, I think, is illustrated by that article I saw. We expend so much energy analyzing what's wrong with the institution of marriage. Why not focus a little more attention on what's right? For starters, I offer the following observations gleaned from years of watching marriages that work: 1. A successful marriage is not a 50-50 proposition. Just where does my 50 percent end and my wife's 50 begin? It can be hard to tell, which is why in the best marriages mar-riages both partners are 100 percent per-cent committed to the relationship. relation-ship. And a funny thing happens when you stop worrying about whose turn it is to give: you find yourself wanting to give more and, not coincidentally, receiving more than you dreamed possible. 2. A successful marriage doesn't does-n't consider failure an optioa A friend told me he and his wife never argued until he jokingly asked what she would do if they divorced. Her response indicated that she had given the mater some thought. That bothered him--almost as much as it bothered her that he would bring up the subject in the first place. They divorced within a year. Obviously, there was something wrong in the marriage, but they couldn't fix it after the D-word became an option. op-tion. v 3. A successful marriage features fea-tures honest com m unicat ion. That doesn't mean communication that is so brutally honest that it hurts. It just means that you don't play manipulative games with each other. If your partner says or does something that hurts or offends, you say something like "when you say (or do) that, it makes me feel ." Then allow your partner to respond. Chances are the offense was unintended. 4. A successful marriage pulls together to overcome difficulties. It's natural to want to give up when things get tough. But that s like walking out on "Gone With the Wind" a soon as the shooting starts-just when it's getting interesting. inter-esting. Life's greatest rewards go to those who have the courage to overcome. When husband and wife work through challenges together, an incredibly satisfying and binding-unity is forged. 5. A successful marriage plays to the strengths of the individuals involved. OK, so maybe your mate is a slob. While you work through that difficulty (please see No. 4 above), focus your attention on your partner's good qualities her clever way with words, perhaps, per-haps, or his kindness to the children. chil-dren. You may have to force those positive thoughtssometimes, but it's worth it if you can keep yourself from being blinded by negativity. ; Life has nothing finer to offer than an enduring, endearing relationship rela-tionship with a beloved companion. compan-ion. Such relationships don't al-;ways al-;ways come easily, and often there ;arc hurts and frustrations along trv I A 1L .J JLilillL ; L Chad Holmes, son of Glenn and Donna Holmes of Springville, has been called to serve an LDS mission mis-sion in Bilbao, Spain. His farewell will be held on Sunday, July 28, 1991 at 10:45 a.m. in the Spring Creek First Ward, 900 East 200 North. He will enter the MTC on August 14. Ji Jul Taun Barton, son of Karl and Marcia Barton of Springville, has been called to serve an LDS mission mis-sion in Portland, Oregon. His farewell will be held on Sunday, July 28, 1991 at 3:45 p.m. in the Spring Creek Seventh Ward, 235 East 550 North. George and Elaine Puckett of Springville have returned home from Vienna, Austria where they served an LDS missioa While there they worked as Institute of Religion Directors. Their homecoming will be held on Sunday, July 28, 1991 at 9 a.m. in the Springville Stake Center, 650 East 300 South. James Kent Jensen, son of Rex and Patty Jensen of Mapleton, has been called to serve an LDS mission in Madrid, Spaia His farewell will be held on Sunday, July 28, 1991 at 10:45 a.m. in the Mapleton Third Ward, 970 North 300 West He is the grandson of J. Fay and Beth Jensen of Mapleton Map-leton and Dice and Nina Armstrong Arm-strong of Orem. Serviceman's news Constructionman Don H. Curtis, son of Don E. and Goldie Curtis of Springville, recently returned from deployment to the Middle East in support of Operation Opera-tion Desert Storm while serving with Naval Mobile Construction Battalion-74, Golfport, MS. He joined the Navy in July 1989. His wife, RaNae, is the daughter of Dave and Joy Stewart also of Springville. Every year, the U.S. give out $18 billion in foreign aid. The Romans built more than 50,000 miles of road in their empire. em-pire. Some are still in use today. There are distinctive in that they run in almost straight lines passing over hills instead of cutting around them. lMBI)M.W)MMllW;.lW'l),WIIIIlllli e-J ' , i If ' ; "S :'; . Iv; ' ill ' J u L I m U . &m 0 1 -m4 Michael Sean McLay, son of Lawrence M. and Marilyn McLay of Springville, has been called to seve an LDS mission in Marseille, Mar-seille, France. His farewell will be held on Sunday, July 28, 1991 at 11 a.m. in the Kolob 27th Ward, 840 South 400 East He will enter the MTC on July 31. An open house will be held at his home, 591 East 1250 South following the meeting. Mark Roberts, son of Jeanette and LaMoyne Roberts of Springville, Spring-ville, has been called to serve an LDS mission in Lisbon, Portugal, north missioa His farewell will be held on Sunday, July 28, 1991 at 9 a.m. in the Springville 23rd Ward, 355 East Center. All friends and relatives are invited to attend. He will enter the MTC on July 31. ? An estimated 700 million persons per-sons till the soil in China. One of the popular dances at the World Folkfest was the hoop dance done by the group " Morning Star." Many of the dancers and musicians from the visiting countries have never seen native American dancing and they are especially intrigued by the Indian dances. Plans are already underway for next year's festival which will be held July 11-18, 1992. Photo by Charles Lowery I In 1984, it became illegal for cab The Boy Scouts were started in drivers in Greece to chat with Great Brian by General Baden-their Baden-their fares. Powell in 1908. Attend and Support Your Church Draw nearer to God 5 He will draw nearer to vou. Allen's Super Save Foods & Drugs 340 South Main Springville 489-4377 Sneteon Pnoiojtotor BO West Center Springville 489 32 If 489-3698 m -7I7 NORTH MAIN A little less of me, A little less of you, and a little more of us. AUDIO visions DJ Dance Systems Member of Dacn Wot Record Pool 489-8235 1S1 South Main Springville The mind forgets, but the heart always remembers. State Farm Insurance Co Auto Life-Fire & Health I. Dean Brian 52 East 200 South Springville 489-9444 WING ENTERPRISES Little Giant Ladders Scaffolds, ladder access., Tool & die machine & Mfg. 1325 Industrial Circle Springville 489-3684 HOBBLE CREEK STAKE SIXTH WARD Sacrament Meeting 11 :30 Sunday School. Primarv 12:50 YW.RS.PM " 1:40 Bishop J. Neil Strong 489-6833 ELEVENTH WARD Sacrament Meeting 9:00 Sunday School. Primarv 10:20 YW.RS.PM ' .11:10 Bishop John F. Strong 489-4069 FIFTEENTH WARD Sacrament Meeting 11:00 Sunday School. Primary 12:20 YW.RS.PM. 1:10 3ishop Fred Huff 489-5536 TWENTIETH WARD Sacrament Meeting .1.00 Sunday School. Primary 2:20 YW.RS.PM 3:10 Bishop D. RavReutzel 489-9111 TWENTY-FIFTH WARD Sacrament Meeting 2:00 Sunday School. Primary 3:10 YW.RS.PM 4:10 Bishop Dennis Ward 489-9631 TWENTY-EIGHTH WARD Sacrament Meeting 9:00 Sunday School, Primary 10:20 YW.RS.PM ...11:10 Bishop Larry K. Johnson . . . 489-3714 KOLOB STAKE FIRST WARD Sacrament Meeting 1:00 Sunday School, Primary 2:15 YW.RS.PM 3:10 Bishop J. MackBoyack . . ..489-6642 SECOND WARD Sacrament Meeting 1:00 Sunday School, Primary 2:15 YM.RS.PM 3:10 Bishop J. Michael Dauis. . . .489-9110 TWELFTH WARD Sao-ament Meeting 9:00 Sunday School, Primary 10: 15 YW.RS.PM ...11:10 Bishop Robert Jones 489-4214 FOURTEENTH WARD Sacrament Meeting .11:00 Sunday School. Primary ...... 12:15 YW.RS.PM 1:10 Bishop Steven Jackson 489-4205 TWENTY-FOURTH WARD Sacrament Meeting 9:00 Sunday School. Primary 10:15 YW.RS.PM 11:10 Bishop B. Lynn Crandall . . . 489-7161 TWENTY-SEVENTH WARD Sacrament Meeting .......... 11:00 Sunday School, Primary 12:15 YW.RS.PM 1:10 Bishop Scott Creenhalgh . . . 489-4234 MAPLETON STAKE FIRST WARD Sunday School. Primary '':00 YW. RS. PM 10 00 Sacrament Meeting 10:50 Bishop B. Ray Anderson . 489-3259 SECOND WARD YW.RS.PM.. Primarv 9:00 Sunday School 10:00 Sacrament Meeting 1(.':50 Bishop Men M. Kendal;. . . . 459-97J6 THIRD WARD YW.RS.PM.. Primary 9:00 Sunday School 10:00 Sacrament Meeting 10:50 Bishop Leo Thomsen 489-6891 FOURTH WARD Sunday School. Primary 1 :00 YW.RS.PM 2:00 Sacrament Meeting 2:50 Bishop J. Reed Hansen .... 489-5011 FIFTH WARD YW.RS.PM., Primary 1:00 Sunday School 2:00 Sacrament Meeting 2:50 Bishop B. Taylor Harper . . .489-3931 SIXTH WARD Sunday School. Primary 1:00 YW.RS.PM 2:00 Sacrament Meeting 2:50 Bishop Jo L. Knight 489-5945 EIGHTH WARD Sunday School. Primary ..... .11:00 YW.RS.PM 12:00 Sacrament Meeting 12:50 Bishop Kenneth H. Jones . .489-3113 NINTH WARD Sunday School, Primary 1 1 :00 YW. RS. PM 12:00 Sacrament Meeting 12:50 Bishop Burton K. Ols'en 489-6025 TENTH WARD Sunday School 11:00 RS.PM 12:00 Sacrament Meeting 12:40 Bishop HalL. Black 489 9674 SPRING CREEK STAKE FIRST WARD Sunday School. Primarv 4:00 YW.RS.PM 10:00 Sacrament Meeting 12:40 Bishop Ridge Phillips 48V-4132 SECOND WARD Sunday School. Primarv 1:00 YW.RS.PM 2:00 Sacrament Meeting 2:50 Bishop Nicholas Crank 4S9-6238 THIRD WARD Sacrament Meeting 11 :00 Sunday School, Primary 12:20 . YW.RS.PM 1:10 Bishop Frank Nackos , . 489-3068 FOURTH WARD Sunday School. Primary 9:00 YW. RS. PM . 10:00 Sacrament Meeting 10:50 Bishop Ray Bartholomew . .. 489-9536 FIFTH WARD YW.RS.PM ' 1:00 ' .Sunday School .... 2:00 Sacrameni Meeting 2:50 Bishop Leslie Dee Mired . . . 48-9763 SIXTH WARD Sunday School. Primarv 11:00 YW. RS. PM . ' 12:00 Sacrament Meeting 12:50 Bishop Reed Argyle . ..... .489 5830 SEVENTH WARD Sacrament Meeting :00 Sunday School. Primary 2 15 YW.RS.PM ..........3:10 Bishop Dale Black 489-9892 EIGHTH WARD Sunday School. Primary .' 9:00 YW.RS.PM 10:00 Sacrament Meeting 10:50 Bishop Arden Pope . 4S9-536 J NINTH WARD Sunday School. Primary . . . : , 11:00 YW.RS.PM...... ... . ;, ... , .12:00 Sacrament Meeting 12:50 Bishop Berton Andreasen . . 489-9185 TENTH WARD Sunday School, Primary 9:00 YW.RS.PM 10:00 Sacrament Meeting 10:50 Bishop Stephen Rogers 489-9823 SPRINGVILLE STAKE FIFTH WARD " .. Sacrament Meeting .......... 1 1 :00 Sunday School, Primary 12:15 YW.RS.PM ....1:10 Bishop Alan L. Croshaw . . . 489-4932 SEVENTH WARD Sacrament Meeting 1 :00 Sunday School, Primary ... 2:15 YW.RS.PM. .3:10 Bishop H. Jerry Smith ..... 489-6974 EIGHTH WARD Sacrament Meeting 9:00 Sunday School. Primary ...... 10:15 YW.RS.PM ...11:10 Bishop Kent Walker. ..... .489-9078 TENTH WARD Sacrament Meeting .......... 11:00 Sunday School. Primary 12:15 YW.RS.PM 1:10 Bishop Alan Curtis 489- 74 72 SIXTEENTH WARD Sacrament Meeting . . . . , . . . .9:00 Sunday School, Primary ...... 10:15 YW.RS.PM 11:10 Bishop Martin Palmer 489-5328 TW'ENTY THIRD WARD Sacrament Meeting 9:00 Sunday School. Primarv 10:15 YW. RS PM ' 11:10 Bishop Alan M. Bird 4S9-9082 FAITH BAPTIST CHURCH Pastor John Rogers 489-8082 Office Phone 798-9470 Meetings held at 730 East 800 North. Spanish Fork Mail P.O. Box 49. Springville Sunday Services Sunday School 9:45 am Morn. Worship 11 am Eve. Worship 6 pm COMMUNITY PRESBYTERIAN CHURCH ' Rev. George Lower .489-8501 245 South 200 East Sunday School 9:30 Worship 10:30 Fellowship Hour ...... After Worship Kitchen Cabinets, & Formica- , Counter Topi !Nortai6C0W rMaoiesDa. LT 84664 489-9351 There is no better exercise exer-cise for the heart than reaching down & lifting someone up. Steiner's Flo 460 North Main Springville 489- 4219 When it rains, look for the rainbow! 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