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Show 14 Vernal Express Wednesday, May 15, 1996 Menial Ctttt t Family discipline revisited - Tyson McClellan McClellan earns Eagle Scout award Tyson McClellan, son of 1 Gary and Linda McClellan, received his Eagle Scout award at an Eagle Court of Honor on April 27. Brent Feltch, scout master of Troop 231, spoke and presented the award. As part of the Eagle requirement, McClellan supervised the painting of a stencil of the United States on the playground at Maeser Elementary. McClellan is a Varsity Scout in Troop 231, Maeser 2nd Ward. He is in 8th grade at Vernal Junior High. McClellan enjoys reading, computer comput-er games, horseback riding, football and scouting. 1 , 41 j o - ...-ft Josh Gondeck Gondek receives Arrow of Light Josh Gondek, son of Joe and . Rosemary Gondek, received the Arrow of Light award on April 29. Troop leader Cindy Rooney presented pre-sented the award to Gondek at a Pack meeting in Saint James Catholic Church. Gondek enjoys canoeing, camping, camp-ing, soccer, basketball, baseball and being a member of Troop 756. Uow Niflv. Look Mio's Love ou J Ml PERSON WITH ALLERGIES & ASTHMA DUANE HARRIS, WID FROM INTERMOUNTAIN ALLERGY & ASTHMA CLINIC Comes to Roosevelt and Vernal on a regular basis for the diagnosis and treatment of asthma & allergic diseases. He sees patients at the Roosevelt Clinic and the Vernal Basin Clinic. Appointments can bo mado by calling Salt Lake City 801-968-8685 If you have Questions as to whether or not you need to see a specialist, please consult your own physician. fx Jason Eric Sullivan Jason Sullivan receives Arrow of Light Award Jason Eric Sullivan, son of J. Eric and Janice Sullivan, received the Arrow of Light award. Sullivan, who is a member of Troop 232 of the Vernal 2nd Ward, received the award from leader Mark Helco at a Pack meeting on April 24. Sullivan enjoys drawing, camping, camp-ing, playing soccer, baseball and basketball. He has also earned his Faith in God award at a Pack meeting meet-ing in March. 1 83 graduate from LDS Seminary Sunday LDS Seminary graduation will be held Sunday, May 19 at 5.m. and 7 p.m. in the Ashley Stake Center 850 W. 100 N. in Vernal. The 5 p.m. session will be for graduates from the Glines and Uintah Stakes, and the 7 p.m. session ses-sion will be for the Ashley, Maeser and Roosevelt East Stakes. 183 students stu-dents will graduate in the two sessions. ses-sions. President Laird Hartman will conduct con-duct the 5 p.m. session and President DeArmon Batty will conduct con-duct the 7 p.m. session. Speakers at 5 p.m. will be Emily Schurz, Mara Reynolds and Joshua Cook. At 7 p.m. Blake Martinsen, Historical Society goes to re-enactment On the morning of May 9, a group of 23 members and guests of the Uintah County Historical Society chartered a Wilkins bus and headed to Promontory Summit for the Golden Spike Re-enactment. Bus driver Eric Hunting stopped at various places along the way, including in-cluding a stop west of Hcber City where James Winkler, who is the supervisor, showed and explained the buffaloes and the bccfalos that pastured there. From there they went to Bountiful and had lunch at the Golden Years Center where they were well received. re-ceived. The next stop was the Hill Air Force museum and then on to Ogdcn for the train museum at the depot. After a night at a hotel in Brigham City, they arrived at Promontory Summit for the celebration. A crowd of 9.000 were in attendance for the program. On their way home, they Mopped at Thiokol to see where the booster rockets arc made for the Space program. pro-gram. Dick Ufford, Earl Moore and Craig Caldwell entertained the passengers pas-sengers with their poems and songs. Preston "Scott" McMikell McMikell earns Arrow of Light Preston "Scott" McMikell, son of Stan McMikell and Liz King, received re-ceived the Arrow of Light award on April 29. McMikell is a member of Troop 756 and was presented with the award by leader Cindy Rooney of St. James. McMikell's interests include bike riding and wrestling. He is now enjoying en-joying being in the Boy Scouts and is looking forward to earning his Eagle award. Jesse Harrison and Ryan Hartle will speak. Kory Kunz, Seminary Principal, will present the graduates and the presentation 'of diplomas will be by Stake Presidents and Bishops. The seminary Choi will present the musical numbers,' one of them "In a Coming Day" was written writ-ten by Kory Kunz especially for this graduating class. Thomas F. Howells, III, will conduct con-duct the choir with Kenny Wilkins as accompanist. New Seminary council for the coming year will be announced. Everyone in the community is welcome to attend. maw -Mil" TVfrrwlM mI (wnwrnwy t MWurwaAt rA aufV 4VM 1 in tw I (1 ?v APR l II w fJ 110 I 4" At'RMM -wo rM4 112 t 4 .M'ti..lrrW4w.skJ AFPI TV miioim Am W. Kh rt a M m ,1 l ,Um.tv4 AH . m m m tt jw mwwM hnm t mm ArtwJ M f P"W YMI If will I ,tVHnl t" i mt t ) IJ.W WW Ask J"" f'llrl iJiiM ! ill if ( ititt. Some friends commented that the column I wrote on seven surefire ways to produce an angry teenager touched a nerve with them. By the time they finished reading the column col-umn they were rolling in laughter because they were doing most of the bad parenting practices written in the column. In their more serious moments, they wondered what they could do differently. They asked for a sequel on what to do instead of what not to do. 1. Really love your children. This means going out of your way for them - meeting their needs and being dependable in your concern and attention. Take time to teach them what they need to know and stay connected emotionally with their lives. This foundation of unconditional un-conditional love starts in infancy, continues all the way through childhood and can cushion the teenage years for both of you. Too many parents are too wrapped up in their own lives. They don't put in enough energy to get involved as they need to be with their children. Children need a backdrop of loving attention and sacrifice to develop an attachment bond. This gives firm discipline a chance to work without harming the quality of the overall relationship. relation-ship. 2. Give respect and freedom. Another way of loving your child is to respect their individuality and opportunity to make choices for themselves. Parents can be too intrusive, in-trusive, bossy and controlling of children in order for their own lives to go smoother. Not everything has to be done the parents way or to meet parents' needs. Allow room for thinking, privacy, negotiations and discussion. Be willing to be influenced by reason and allow the child to make their own decisions within basic outside limits. Explain and reason with children instead of ordering or demanding. de-manding. Help them explore their own interests and talents without taking over and pushing them for your sake. . Ik 5 is sr Bo (I IM V't'l t' lit Ui v . Im m 1 1 If o)if i? oilitlkr ihUI i ft Wx. AwmmI Pmw I APRl TV l . J. tm ipm tmh 4m I I fi 1-9 AW M-tPK Be a good listener, recognize their valid points, be willing to explain yourself and negotiate with them. If you are a good listener, your teen will not be as reactive when you don't agree. 3. Be a team player with your spouse. Form a united front when it comes to discipline. Support each other's discipline in front of the children even if you disagree with your spouse's approach. Work through your differences in parent-' ing style, rules and consequences in private. Don't side in with your child against your spouse. Use your spouse as a resource and sounding board for parenting issues. You'll need all your eyes, ears and wits about you if you are going to keep up with problems that come up in the family. If you're a single parent, find a trusted trust-ed confidant with whom you can discuss parenting issues. 4. Have a system of discipline, not your temper. You are human and are bound to lose your temper occasionally while raising children. However, it shouldn't be a part of the discipline process. Temper outbursts out-bursts used to control behavior are self-defeating. They usually lead to an escalation of hostility and further fur-ther displays of temper by both you and your teenager. Don't allow hitting hit-ting between siblings and follow the same rule yourself. Physical punishment or aggression is wrong for teenagers. Don't apply consequences in anger. Take whatever time you need to calm down and think through a situation before starting the discipline disci-pline process. Think through your basic family rules and consequences conse-quences and discuss them ahead of time with your teens. Allow their ideas to help fine tune a system they fully understand. With common understandings, your discipline can be matter-of-fact without emotion getting in the way. You don't have to think on-the-spot or allow your emotion to be a part of the punishing process. Tolerate their emotions without es 00 $ o WfwW mU mh calating the conflict. Teenagers are inventive and will discover any loopholes and new situations sit-uations you haven't thought about When they confront you with something new, take the time to think through the consequences and the new rule before you give any on-the-spot discipline you may regret. re-gret. 5. Be consistent in your follow through. A rule isn't a rule when the consequences aren't applied. Exceptions should be rare or your teen will expect every time to be the exception. Have as few rules as possible, keep them simple but be willing to back up the rules you do have. Don't be afraid to be the "bad guy" and incur their displeasure for a time. 6. Expect courtesy and respect in the way they talk to you. Understand the difference between legitimate expression of feeling and back talk. Have clear understandings understand-ings that certain demeaning forms of address such as profanity, sarcasm, sar-casm, contempt and name calling will not be tolerated. Follow the same rules of courtesy and respect you expect from them. 7. Have fun as a family and keep the overall tone of the family fami-ly positive. Make time for the family. fami-ly. Do fun things together. Make memories. Don't save up your interactions in-teractions for when they do something some-thing wrong. Admire them. Find good in what they do. Encourage them. Compliment them. Take interest in their accomplishments and activities. activi-ties. Notice and thank them for what they do well. Enjoy them as much as you can so that conflict is only a small part of your relationship. relation-ship. I hope my friends are happy now. 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