Show S LOM writer makes strong argument to prove that the weaker sex Is the more steadfast in adversity LOVE RULES HER LIFE AND TESTS PROVE IT neither trouble nor disgrace ever drove true wife brorn her husbands side case brought to light Is only one of many that are hidden from the public gaze and too often her only reward Is ing tude why men in trouble inva seek the condolences of women women more or less loyal than ARE men they are less loyal in the little things but quite as steadfast in the greater they are less coyal maybe to the woman who happens not to need their help and friendship but infinitely more eo when the time cornea when a bister Is down and out and needs assistance asserts rita reese in the new york press abad strong as a woman can prove herself to be when another woman really needs her protection and help she Is infinitely stronger and braver when it Is a man she Is called upon to see through a period of black trouble and even disgrace we bear slighting things eald of the loyally of women that all women are cats with velvet claws sheathed until the moment comes when they are tempted to scratch some one has declared that a wom ans reason Is always because and usually that because hides her claws women contradictory woman Is a mass of contradictions I 1 grant you she says things she doean doesn t mean and usually means a lot of things she doean doesn t say but she very seldom means the trivial remarks she makes about trivialities of another woman i she may enviously comment on the style in which another woman lives on her motor cars and pearls and even her popularity and accordingly withhold her friendship because of this petty envy but it the other worn an happens to lose these possessions and with it hera former happiness and position ehe seldom finds anything but a sympathizing sister in the worn an who formerly held aloof from her we can bear with our friends in their adversity but where Is the strong enough to stand an over dose of their prosperity women feel strongly this way they dislike to be pitied commiserated by a woman more fortunate than themselves whether they really feel pity is an open question but most of us know what it Is to be commiserated because we lack either time to do the things wed like to do or the money that might make it possible tor us to enjoy pleasures that are given to women no more deserving than we are stronger than words but once the barrier of prosperity Is removed all women are free and equal and most of them meet on the common ground of understanding and come to see that friendship Is something stronger than pretty worda for the friendship of true women lord that hath been elace the world breath since a woman blood by a woman iu to comfort through birth and death tou have made ua a bond of mirth and tears to last forever and aye for the friendship ot true women lord take you our thanks today the above lines by theodosea Theod osla gar rison are from her exquisite poem called A thanksgiving in these verses she expresses the bond between women so beautifully that I 1 am tempted to quote her further now much have I 1 found to be glad ot much have I 1 borrowed tor but naught Is better to hear than the foot of a friend at the door and naught Is better to feel than the touch of a alster hand that ays ahat are words between us I 1 know and understand only a woman can understand the of a woman and only a woman can truly comfort another woman back to the arms of our sisters we turn tor our comforting what loyalty means there is an old story that I 1 think illustrates a woman a loyalty as compared to a man s once upon a time in a fair land there was a man who after his fash ion loved two women and in turn had every reason to believe himself beloved by each of these now disgrace came upon the man and a court ordered that he be ban fahed from the country in which he had held a position of honor and am the woman whom he thought loved him best turned hei face away from him and bade him goodby forever she declared that could love no man who could bring disgrace upon himself the man pleaded with her to believe that he aa innocent but she waa cold and iia him the judges had decreed him guilty the other woman the one whom he loved least declared that she did not believe him guilty though the whole city should rise against him that if he were banished she would go with him and accordingly when he set forth an exile she journeyed beside him to the desert here they lived many months and only the comfort and courage of his companion kept the man from taking bis miserable life and often be marveled that she should have sacrificed so much for bis sake and every time she reminded him that she could do it gladly bo cause she was the woman who loved him woman sends him away and time went on and the judges in the city found that they had made a mistake and that they had unjustly exiled their former companion and friend and messengers were cent forth in the desert to bring him back in all honor and his return was celebrated as a holiday and all his old friends gath ered around to welcome him but it was the woman who had sent him away that rode with him in his triumphal procession the other worn an had hidden herself in the desert thinking that he would turn his back on all the world to find her but be did not and the man justified himself attel this fashion to the woman who had turned away from him when she believed him guilty lo 10 thou art that which all men worship in a woman thou embodiment of honor and purity and the woman in the desert never came back but the man so the old fable reads lived happily or unhappily with the other all the days of his life the woman in the desert typifies ther woman with a soul above conven alons whose love rules her life and whose loyalty only asks tor a test to prove it in modern life we otten see cases that are very similar and very often the woman meets the same fate as the woman in the fable she is forgotten when the time comes for the triumphal crowning comans womans love strong the love of woman far a man truly often basseth all understanding many waters cannot quench it and disgrace and poverty touch it not at all even neglect and deliberate insult have often failed to destroy it I 1 know a man who has achieved a certain fame from a book that his wife helped him to write she not only practically rewrote the book after he bad finished it but bad it published out of money she had saved penny by penny from her housekeeping allowance supplemented by what she received for doing fine needlework she starved with that man and nursed him through an awful period of dell alum cremens tremens tr emens she kept him out of jail and out of the lunatic asylum the loyal woman a never too poor to give her help and sympathy and she was rewarded when fame came to him by having him turn bis back on her and go off with a younger woman time passed on and bis luck changed again lie lost out a second time and waft in the gutter again she went to him for h was deserted of course by the one who had been his companion tn more prosperous days and took him home and nursed him back to life and decency again and with her assistance he wrote a second book this too was a success and from it he received enough money to get him going again and in all haste be abandoned his wife a second time down and out again the lesson he had learned had not sunk in for before a year had elapsed be was down and out again this time bis case was more sordid and beastly than before he was living in a bow cry mission when ats wife found him and tor the third time carried him to her home and there he lies today an invalid with bla mind halt gone but tenderly nursed and looked after by the woman on whom he has no claim having outraged every bond that once held ithem together if any man ver had such loyalty to another man I 1 ve yet to hear of it some say the wife in the case by hep actions proves clearly that she has neither sense nor pride I 1 don t think BO she has both but greater than either Is her sense of pits city for the man who has only her to turn tn when the world goes blach him now athla a brief or the loy aty of woman in little personally I 1 think the word loyalty la the wrong one to use in such a con loyalty Is a word that la better connected with the bigger things and women as a sex are not loyal to other women in petty things women have petty jealousies that men do not understand because the majority of men are BO busy they haven t time to even think about the trivialities that crowd into the idle brain of the average idle woman man has much more liberty man has a great deal more liberty than woman and a great deal mora money and a great deal more in teresta naturally he Is indifferent to trivialities he may wish he wera financially in a position that his neigh bor across wall street Is in but the she Is forgotten when the almo cornea for triumphal crowning thought doean doesn t tester in his mind and lead him to make unpleasant remarks about the better business man no he knows that his neighbor has worked harder and been more awake to his opportunities he is wise enough to know that with the his own business may assume the proportions ot his neighbor a business A woman who doean doesn t work and who has no way ot acquiring the things she wants except by having them given to her by a chance of fortune as it were naturally Is envious when another woman in her set Is more lucky and gets them A comans womans petty envy may be aroused by a motor car or a sealskin coat or a pearl pendant but these are trivial things that are swept aside when the real issues of life death and sorrow and human needs stare her in the ace survival of race instinct again there are those who say that there can be no euch thing as loyalty between two women where both are interested in the same man or in any man this it seems to me ten t an andl vidual trait but a survival ot the race instinct from those tar off times not BO far gone either when man represented to woman all the indulgences independence and freedom that waa given to her from him she received favor and all other women naturally were rivals as she saw them it they interested him it la not such a far cry to those days many women today live quite as dependent on the most high nod 0 some most high jove and because they are human not because they are women they jealously guard ever privilege and every possible encroach ment upon such liberty because a woman Is a woman she Is interested in the sorrows of other women few men can bear the idea of condoling with a friend they want to fly from a woman in trouble and while they 11 give materially to help any man friend its asking pretty much of them to give spoken consola alon and companionship to such an one A heart broken man never hunts up a man to pour his troubles out to but aldaya it Is some woman friend who tries to hearten him up A woman who Is brokenhearted never thinka of blurting out her grief to a man it would only annoy him she instinctively knows that her first aid Is another woman in prosperity she may not have been able to see that many women were around waiting tor her favor but in adver alty any old woman will do tor the universal woman be she a deposed queen or a widowed charwoman with a large family to support such an one is never too poor to give her help and her sympathy to any other woman who really needs it |