Show 7 j BY AMY ADAMS I f I SAY IT WITH A MESSAGE Dear Amy The other day I asked my mother if I could buy my boy boy- boyfrIend boyfriend frIend a sweater for Valentines Valentine's Day and she said that It would be In bad taste and that It would be better if I didn't When len I asked her why she said that we haven't known each cach other long enough and well vell enough Weve We've liked each other oilier ever since last October I a ni m 17 Should I walt wall One of my girlfriends boy bob boyfriend friend had bought her a beautiful green and white knit bulky sweater and I thought It was very nice of him They haven't been I going together very long in fact not much longer than Bob and I I have I If It does show bad taste Why I If a sweater Isn't suitable then Bonnie Dear Bonnie Your mother Is right Teen Teen- Teenagers of agers shouldn't exchange gifts any real monetary value For one thing they fall In and out of love so often It can get getto getto to be an expensive pastime and a 1 Utile lIttle embarrassing My Myson sort son and his friends give token gifts for special occasions and send bend cards card for all occasions This way everyone's happy in- in including eluding the Moms C C S Dear Amy I em am married and the youngest of 4 ch en who are arc also alsa mar mar- married ned ried Our parents are up in years n nOt t well and rarely leave their apartment This past Christmas my 2 sisters my brother and I decided to chip In and buy them a TV set to help pass their time Instead of other things they wouldn't en- en enJoy enJoy Joy much My Iy brother and sisters didn't have their share of the money so I paid for It with the understanding they would pay me so much a week till they paid off their share of the cost They each gave me 4 payments then my brother lost his Job one sisters sister's daughter d n ugh te r needed an operation the other sister called me lab crying the blues about her financial problems When we planned this I didn't get et it in writing for the money they owed me but who would d dream rea m your own sisters and brother would back out Now I dont don't mind paying for it myself but I want my parents to Know lenow I I I I the thc truth if I do What hat should I do Do you au think Im I'm right Amy Stuck Dear Stuck Your sisters un a is th d brothers brother's problems sire ure unfortunate I doubt if they planned to back out hen a the purchase vas planned If you are arc not pres pressed ed for the money gIve ghe them a few months to get buck back on their feet s then they will be in a better jiosi lion to pay their share Have a heart Theres There's time thue enough to tell your our parents arents use tit truth I S II S S IDear Dear Amy you eon can help me I II Iam am already a nervous wreck and ani under a doctors doctor's care I 1 feel that if things dont don't get better soon I Imay may end up in the nut house This concerns my m my children I have always tried to stay close to mother and dad but It seems Impossible anymore My Iy mother is is err cry stubborn and doesn't agree with the way Iam I Iam am bringing up my children 1 set certain limits for them and believe there are some things they can do without My Iy mother be- be believes I should buy them ever every every- everything thing their hearts desire and if I dont don't she does It is getting so that my children wont wot listen to tome tome me I cant can't seem to get it through my mothers mother's head that what sine she is doing is wrong She at it What can be done Vexed Dear Vexed Every young couple should raise their children the way they see fit without parental I arc n t a I Inter Inter- Interference ference The Thc spoiling Is natural but to oppose your discipline of your children Is wrong Make your visits to Mom 1 and hers her's to you few and far between and tell her why In her well well- meaning efforts to be a do gooder she Is creating a trouble trouble- some sonne situation C PERSONAL TO Hugh St Louis Success s no as YOU see It Is one who gathers a fortune he doesn't need to leave to people who dont don't deserve it 5 Address all letters to AMY ADAMS o c do TillS NEWSPAPER For a personal reply enclose a stamped self addressed envelope envelop |