Show Curb Child I Temper During Early Years By CAW CARY MYERS PhD Ph.D. THE abuse some mothers endure en dure from a son eon or daughter of eight twelve or fourteen Is truly pathetic Yet this ugly practice hardly began at these respective ages It probably started when the child chUd was three or four During the preschool years Is Ls the time to nip this outlandish practice In the bud I Very Angry Your child at lit three or four lour may occasionally occa very velY angry with you ou Let that be his right but not riot to do you ou violence with his hands feet or tongue If It he calls you an ugly name mme or says Ill kill you or matte some similar threat turn hIm over o your knee and smack hImon him himon on a 1 bare barc thigh before he knows what who t has happened Its It's the quickness and certainty of pun Ishm tt t that counts for most Decisive Pain Of course you wouldn't put pul soap In his mouth or shake him himor or strike him about the face or head But you should give him decisive decisive de de- de pain quickly If you are not rot sure you can do this effectively with your bore bare flat fiat hand use a paddle preferably a broad brod thin one Do this so well that you wont won't have to do It t often If you have not settled this problem when your child chUd was wasl three or four lour and If 11 he Is now I eight or ten you might not be able to paddle him effectively when he makes of vio w lence lance Yet you must mUt tt try In order to lo break this habit If you have reasonable control of the child at this age you can eMil easily carry out effective pan h. h by requiring him to tit nit un un- amused In a chair fot 30 or 40 minutes At this age depriving the of ending child of a cherished privilege lege might worK wort but It ft works worl s slowly Most parents would dowell do dowell well when faced with these violent violet vio let lent outbursts to control them selves until the storm has passed Then In a companionable moment mo nto- ment merit speaking reasonably and I gently to this child helping hits him to lie see hl hay I badly he has acted and appealing to the best In him could have a very powerful Unbridled Tongue One thing Is certain for the parent to lose her head and unbridle un un- unbridle bridle her tongue when the child abuses her always means defeat and arid usually paves the way for fora a repetition of the latter Let mothers of preschool children take note and govern themselves accordingly My bulletins bulletin How To Control Your Temper and Teach Tot Meaning of No may be had by byS by'S S 'S sending ending a self self addressed addressed stamped envelope to me In care careD D of 01 this newspaper e |