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By KATHLEEN NORR/S NORR S NORRIS NORRIS4A NORRS"AFTER / "AFTER AFTER " ' FTER TER 22 months overseas overseasmy overseasmy overseasyLJl 4A 4ATER my husband came homelast homelast home ' * A- A Alast - last October , honorably honorablydIscharged honorablydischarged honorablydischarged dIscharged , " writes wutes a Spring Sprmg- Sprmg Spring- Sprmgfield Springfield Springfield - field woman ' Carl is 24 I am am20 20 We have a boy who was wasborn wasborn wasborn born eight months after rus his rusfather hisfather hisfather father went away , Carl and I Ihad Ihad Ibad had known each other only onlyfour onlyfour onlyfour four months before we were weremarrIed weremarried weremarried marrIed , had only six weeks weekstogether weekstogether weekstogether together It seemed then as if ifit ifit It were the real thing thmg , we weloved weloved weloved loved each other deeply , and andour andour andour our letters never lost theIr theIrtone theirtone theirtone tone of passionate devotionS devotIonIUs devotionHis devotIon His IUs concern when he knew a ababy ababy ababy baby was coming commg tba the ndlculous ndiculous ndlculousJtlungS ndiculousthings ridiculousthings things be he bought for the baby ID m IDWales mWales mWales JtlungS Wales where he was aas v . as stationed his hisexcitement } excitement over a son s arrival arnval allJbelped allWhelped all Jbelped Whelped , ! helped to carry Clrry : me through throuh : that bad badJtlme badtime badi Jtlme time ? tune We lived l1ved with my mother motherJunior mother'Junior motherJunior ' Junior and I and waited for daddy'to daddysto daddy daddyto 'to to sto ' to come back to us Carl Sr was wasin wasiln ln in the first fast parachute attack on onFrance onFrance onJFrance France was wounded and hospital hospitalhed hospitalI hospitalIzcd -I I - Iized [ hed ized for some months went v.ent vent sent . backinto backinto back backinto into active service again agam and "as as aas aasdischarged "asdischarged " wasdischarged discharged because of an attack of of5tomach ofstomach ofstomach 5tomach stomach ulcers tor for which he is nowbeing now nowbemg nowbeing bemg being treated He has no v reJomed reJomedhis rejomedhis rejoinedhis his father and brother in m a very suc sue successful suetcessful suecessful { cessful tcessful ( catering catermg and pastry busl buss bussness buslness busi'ness business ' ness long established establJshed in m the family family1 family11 familyII /1 1 II IIam / ' 1am am employed in m this family faffilly busl buss buslness bussness busi'ness business ness calling on clients in m their own ownbomes ownhomes own'homes ownhomes , ( ' bomes homes and making makmg arrangements arrangements"tfor arrangementsIf "tfor tfor " for or v eddmgs eddings and receptions MyJfather Myfather My MyIfathpr Jfather Ifathpr father m in in law law and nnrl two twn brothers in m mlaw inlaw inlaw ( law are extremely kind kmd to me me and andthe andthe andthe ' | the whole relationship is pleasant pleasantand pleasantand pleasantand and easy easyCompletely Completely Changed ChangedNow ChangedNow ChangedNow Now Carl comes back a com completely completely cornpletely pletely changed character In the thefirst thefirst thefirst first place he responded very mdf mdfferently md f fferently tferently ferently to the baby naturally naturallyJunior naturallyJunior naturally'Junior naturallyJunior ' Junior was not won by a father fatherwho fatherwho fatherwho who glanced at him rom so coldly and andwill andwill and.will andwill . will not go to Carl at all Then Carl Carli Carldidn i d1dn didn t like my living 11ving with my mother mother moth mother er although he and I had never hada had a home here but only six weeks to together together to'gether together ' ' gether in California Califorma near a camp campWe campwe campiWe We have no furniture and housingf housmgis housingis housmg housing isscarce Is scarce My mother is very gentle gentleand gentleand gentleand and kind kmd and being bemg with her would wouldcertainly wouldcertainly wouldcertainly certainly solve my housekeepmgproblems housekeepingproblems housekeeping housekeepmg housekeeping.problems .problems problems . and enable me to go on onbelpmg onhelping on1 helping belpmg with the mcome income incomeI i * , With me Carl 13 15 is silent sUent and dls dis dlsagreeable disagreeable disI disIagreeable agreeable shaking off all affection affectionate affectionate affectionjate ate overtures telime teilmg telling me brieflythat brieflythat briefly [ that he wants to get away sayingthat " , paying saying aymg aymgthat that his bis father fathers s business busmess makes makes111m makeshim makeshim 111m him 2 S ck sneering at our optimistic optimisticremarks optimisticremarks optimisticremarks remarks concerning concernmg the war v.ar var oar . and at atthe atthe atthe the same time refusing refusmg to tell us usanything usanything usanything anything of his own experiences on oni I the ground that he is sick unto death deathof deathof deathot ; of the whole thing He refuses to toI tohave tohave to'have tohave I ' have the stomach operation operatJon the doc doe > tors think thmk advisable but not urgent urgentand urgentand urgentand and 11 18 is altogether unmanageable unmanageableand unmanageablea a and miserable Of course that makes makesus makesus makesU makesa a us all sad I am so willing to be a agood agood agood I good loving lovmg wife wlfe to him and could couldso couldso couldso so easily love him hum again tor for he wasa wasa was a wonderful wise good natured man manwhen manwhen manwhen when I married him but I cannot cannotmuch cannotmuch cannotmuch much longer buckagainst buck against this con conatant conslant atant ! > tant attitude of being bemg bored or dls dis dlspleasedl displeasedt diepleaaedl pleasedl pleasedt Would you advise me andthe andthe and andthe > the baby to leave him would you ad advise advise advise youI ; vise a divorce or what would you youadvise youadvise1 I advise ' ' . . . ' Dear Lisa LJsa I would advise you togive togive to , give Carl time and to employ emplo , . that thattune thatttme thatI thattime I tune ttme time with every means in yours yourl your yourS s l a Lr Lrrrdl 'p p 'pPy ' _ rrdl Il "De De " S * w a tilent silent and sagreeabte sagreeable dsagreeable d . " Py Py"De i , RECOVERY TAKES TIME TIIIlE TIMEThe TIMEThe - The terrible impact of 0/ 0 0war ofwar / waron war waron waron on a soldier's soldiers ' nerves is some sometlnng something something tlnng thing people who staff sta ) at homecan home homecan homecan can never understand This TIns Thus IS ISpartIcularly isparticularly isparticularly partIcularly true of 0/ 0 0a ofa / a sensItIVe sensItIVeyoun sensitiveyoung sensitiveyoung youn young man who ttho siho has lies been exposed ex exposed exposed posed to some extremely edremely hor lior hornble liorrible hornble nble rible experience expenence experienceSuch expenenceSuch Sucha Such a case is relatedIn related in thisarticle thIS thISarticle thisarticle article A young wife wl/e wl e / tells MISs MISslorns MissAorris MissMorris l\orns l orns Aorris \ about her husband husbandCarl , Carl Carla a parachute trooper ivhoteas who whowas whowas was released because of ofstom fstom o f stom stomach stomach stomach ach achulcers ulcers Carlwas Carl tvas was devoted devotedand devotedand devotedand and andaffectIOnate affectionate until he returned re returned returned turned from service Now he heseems heseems heseems seems coldand cold and detached detachedshowing , shoulng showing little httle interest in hIS hISbaby hisbaby hisbaby baby babyson son or his wife wl/e wl e / Every Everything Everything Everything thing seems unimportantTIns unimportantThus unimportant unimportantThis This TIns Thus difficult phase says saysMiss saysMiss .llss llss Miss ! . A \ l\orns l orns Aorris orris is a common expenence ex expenence experience penence perience of oj ojcombat ofcombat combat veteransThe veterans veteransThe veteransThe The shocJ shocl shod shoclof of battle lingers lmgers for formonths formonths formonths months There is nothing not/ling not ling / to todo todo todo do but to be patient andcan andcon and can con canslderate considerate considerate consideratepower slderate siderate sideratepower power to convince convmce h m that love and andpeace andpeace andpeace peace and home l life e are the normal normalstatus normalstatus normalstatus status of American Amencan husbands and andfathers andfathers andfathers fathers and that after a while he hewill hewill hewill will begin begm to realize realJze how much he hehas hehas hehas has leftHe leftHe left leftHe He has had an o\erdose o erdose 0erdose overdose 0\ 0 \ erdose of cruel cruelrealJty cruelreality cruelreality realJty reality loneliness 10nelJness guns danger dangerpam dangerpam dangerpain pam illness Iliness cold He will win gradu gradually gradually gradually ally come back to his ms old cheerful cheerfulness cheerfulness cheerfulness ness of outlook outlookPut Put Him FirstBut FirstBut First FirstBut But while this tros slow curabve curative curabveprocess curativeprocess curativeprocess process is going gomg on help him mm by bybeIDg bybeing bybeing beIDg being completely reasonable That ThatIS Thatis Thatis IS don t look for rational or nor normal normal normal mal conduct in lD him rom If H he feels the thebaby thebaby thebaby baby is spoiled agree with him rom and andbe andbe andbe be a little lJttle hard on the baby It If he IS ISsick issick issick sick of meals in your mother s scompany scompany scompany company take him out to d nner rifler or orencourage orencourage orencourage encourage him hun with talk of ot huntmg hunting huntmgfor huntingfor huntingfor for a 1 ttle apartment-or apartment or apartment - - or better a alittle alittle alittle little farm of your own It If he glooms gloomsabout gloomsabout gloomsabout about the war gloom with him im immedIately tm tmmediately 1mmediately medIately afterward conceding concedmg that thatvalor thatvalor thatvalor valor courage defense of o/ o oj oAmericaare / Amenca America Amencaare Americaare Americaare are splendid things thmgs however theyare they theyare theyare are evokedAbove evokedAbove evoked evokedAbove Above all all , , put him rom hum first Make him himimportant himimportant himimportant important At any cost be always alwaysfree alwaysfree alwaystree free to walk with him rom plan with withhim withhim withhim him buy architectural books and andstudy andstudy andttudy study them with him h1ID Give him h1ID a alittle alittle alittle little responsibility responslbllJty about the baby babylet babylet babylet let Carl see that Junior Juruor gets disCI disCIplmed disciplined disciplined plmed plined and isn t always first Meet Meethis Meethis his look with laughter iaughter and affection affectionstart affectionstart start every sentence with his nameCarl nameCarl name nameCarl Carl and I want to-Carl to Carl to - - Carl was say saymgCarl saymgCarl saying mg-Carl mg Carl - Carl thinks- thinks thinks - I Two factors are working workmg agamst against againstyou againstyou you One is the frivolous nature of ofthe ofthe otthe the family business busmess sure to jar on a aI aman aman man just returned from facing facmg such suchghastly suchghastly suchghastly ghastly realities The other is stom stomach stomach stomach ach ulcers These come nearer to todnvmg todriving todriving dnvmg driving men insane msane than any other otherpurely otherpurely otherpurely purely physical ailment I know ofBut ofBut of ofBut But you are not the only woman womanwho womanwho womanwho who has had this thJs coming commg home prob problem problem problem lem to solve Lisa You will soon be bejoined bejoined bejoined joined by a million others this IS ISgomg isgoing isgoing gomg going to be our real postwar prob problem problem problem lem And a good marriage marnage is worth worthsavmg worthsaving worthsaving savmg saving There is a very special sense senseof senseof senseof of triumph tnumph and joy m in the happinesswe happmesswe happmess happiness we win WID through doubt difficultyand d1fficulty difficulty d1fficultyand difficultyand and pain paID |