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Show Kathleen Norri Norris ; Says : Adopted Babies BabiesBell Bell Syndlcote Syndicate SyndlcoteWNU SyndicateWNU -WNU WNU - Futures Feature , (2 2 (2:1r't ( , ' :1r't 1rt : . ( Qz . r if ifr ifBe r/ r rZr / Zr t tif r Be grateful to God that you ) ou fan can tako take an unfortunale unfortunate ch ld Id ldor Idor or two mto into your home yourhome and Bite give a I/Jalf I Jalf waif IJalfwhose waifwhose / whose life mlghl might otherwISe be bllghled blighted blighteda 8 a beeT better ! chance By KATHLEEN NORRIST NORRISROUBLES NORRIS NORRISH ROUBLES take all sorts sortsof sortsof H T TOf sortsTOf of forms in m do this strange strangemIXed strangemixed strangemixed mIXed up world of ours oursthree oursthree oursthree three fourths of the wives of ofthe ofthe ofthe the world are in m constant ap apprehensIOn apprehension apprehension prehensIOn of having havmg children childrentoo childrentoo childrentoo too fast The other twenty- twenty twentyfive twenty-five twenty five - five per cent is even more moremIserable moremiserable moremiserable mIserable because the babIes babIeswon't babieswon't babieswon't babieswont won't wont ' comeBarbara comeBarbara come comeBarbara Barbara White is ! in n the lat latter latter latter ter category , her tragic letter letterI letterlIes letterlies letterlies lIes before me as I wnteBermy writeBenny write wnte writeBenny I Benny Bermy and I have been marrIed married11 11 years After five years with no nohint nohint nohint hint of a baby coming commg I persuaded persuadedI persuadedh1m persuadedhum persuadedhim h1m hum to agree to adoption We both bothhad bothhad bothhad I had hoped for tor children we had every evcry ev | _ ery cry other blessing life ille can supply supplyI supplyby supplyin I In by health friends frlends fortune devot on onI onto onto onto to each other but our hearts achedfor achedfor ached achedI I I for one moreSix more moreL L . Six years ago we adopted a dell deli dellI dellcate deliCate debcate I cate unwanted baby six weeks old oldtinder oldUnder , Under tinder my love and care she grewto grewto grew | to be an exquisite little creaturewhose creaturewhose creature | whose charm made even strangers strangersIn strangersI I in the street notice her When Bab- Bab Babsle Babire Bab-sie Bab sie - - sle ire was two we adopted a little ltttle sis sister sister sister ter for her Sonia Soma dark eyed and andviva andvivacious andvivacious viva vivacious CIOUS a lovely contrast to the theolder theolder theolder older girl For two years Ben and andI andI andI I revelled in happy parenthood thencame thencame then thenL thenI L I came the blow Babsie Babsle smother smotherI s mother motherhad motherhad I had married again was prosperous prosperousI prosperouswanted prosperouswanted prosperouswanted wanted her child cluld back Our stateo stateco staten state I co n j s v b s up div dlv enouel enougl m in mI mSIStS insists insists I SIStS that the real mother shall know knowwho knowwho knowwho who has her child chJld and Babsie Babsle smother smother s sL L mother came straight to us and andI andwe andwe andwe I we gave her upParting up upParting . Parting Parl1ng with her had all the bit bitterness bitterness bitterness terness of death especially as thereal the thereal real mother is a careless selfish selfishtype selfishtype type wholly unfitted tor for the care of a asensitive asensitive asensitive sensitive precocious child I have havenot havenot not seen Babsie Babsle since smce though I Iloved Iloved Iloved loved her as I believe few mothers motherslove motherslove motherslove love their own children'We children We 'We ' then appi appl ed for another anothercluld anotherchild anotherchild cluld child a long slow process for clul cluldren cluldren children dren ava lable labie for adoption are few fewFmally fewFinally fewFinally Fmally Finally we . were ere promised one boy boyor boyor boyor or girl we did dld not care nor did we wekno weknow weknow kno know . tor for this baby was unborn unbornThe unbornThe unbornThe The unmarried mother 18 had hadcome hadcome hadcome come a long way from home to tohave tohave tohave have her baby in secret and had haddetermmed haddetermined haddetermined determmed determined ne\ ne never neer \ er to look upon Its Itslittle itslittle itslittle little face nor know . who .ho ho took ItOne itOne it itOne One whole burn ng summer day dayI dayI I wa led ted at the hospital for my mychildand mychildand mychild child-and child and - and when it came the young youngmlther youngmother youngmother mlther mother ) drew it to her heart hedrt and andsaid andsaid andsaid said w th tears that she never would wouldpart wouldpart wouldpart part with it cost the tell ng rig of her hersecret hersecret hersecret secret what it might Seeing Seemg my myd myd myd d sappomtment sappointment the hospital authorl authori authorlties authorities authorties ! ties prom sed me another baby soon soonto soonto soonto to be born But here again agam the themother themother themother mother another young > ) oung girl refused refusedme refusedme refusedme me and I came home empty armedThat armedThat armed armedThat That was a year ago Once smce since smcethen sincethen sincethen then I made an attempt to find a achlid achild achild chlid child A friend In another city told toldme toldme toldme me of a poor woman . who .ho ho already alreadyhall alreadyhas alreadyhas hall has five small children who Is IsobI isobi isobi obI ged to accept charity and who whodreaded whodreaded whodreaded dreaded the burden of another asIt asit as ast It t means the sacrifice sacnfice of a good job jobBut jobBut jobBut But she merely laughed at the idea ideaof ideaof ideaof of adoption and said that somehow somehowshe somehowshe somehowshe she could manageThe manageThe manage manageThe The effect of this on me has been beenvery beenvery beenvery very bad I have everything everythmg now nowthat nowthat nowthat that I ever had including inciudlDg a boau b auti autifat autitul ! ful fat girl of tour four But to know my myself myself myself self sterile and to be obliged to beg begof begof begof of these luckier women the price ; > : " ! 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( 1 ! : ( ( . 1 ; Jlr ! , - ul ulisct rt , I ti ; isct isctf ; > . f Q Ir Q"You Ir'You " "You You 'You " ' call can giv give e toy ] oy a o idas Id Idauld auld as jtty ' | RESENTFULChildless RESENTFUL ( Childless women generally generallyyearn generallyyearn generallyyearn yearn for children clllldren Barbara issuch IS ISsuch issuch finehome such sucha a . one She has a fine home anda and a loving lovmg husband husbandStX husbandStx husbandStx StX years ago they adopteda adopted a ababy baby adoptedbaby satisfiedBarbara's satisfiedBarbaras girl Babsie Babsle Babste who satisfied Barbara's Barbaras ' maternal desires for fora a time ttme Then TheIl she wanted wantedan another an another another other They obtained obtamed littleSonia little littleSOnia littleSome SOnia Some who was ! { , as also very loveable love loveable loveable able With two children chddren Bar Barbam's Barbara's Barbora's Barboras bam's bams bara's baras ' heart was filledAfter filledAfter filled filledAfter After two years howeverBabsie however howeverBabsle howeverBabste Babsle Babste mother smother s drmanded dpmanded d"mended dmended " her herchdd herchild herchild chdd child chddand childand and Barbara reluctantlygave reluctantly reluctantlygave reluctantlygave gave her up Ever since smce Bar Barbara Bartiara Barbara bara tiara has been trying trymg to get another an another another other unwanted baby Several Severalhmes Severaltimes Severaltimes hmes times she has come close buteach but buteach buteach each time the mother changedher changed changedher changedher her mind mmd mindThe mmdThe mindThe The unsuccessful quest is u af affectmg a affecting f fIectrng fectmg Iectrng Barbara s whole uhole out outTool outlook 1001 Tool . . She is envious andre and resent/at resent at re resentful resentful sentful sentfulof / ofwomen of women who achieve achievemotherhood achievemotherhood achievemotherhood motherhood motherhoodaltllough motherhoodalthough although altllough theyare they areobviously are areobviously areobviously obviously obviouslyIII obviouslyill ill III fittedand fitted andoften and often oftenundeSlrous oftenundesirous oftenundesirous undeSlrous undesirous So bitter is n l > she shebecommg shebecoming shebecoming becommg becoming that she falls intofits mto into mtofits intofits fits of o f despondency She isashing IS ISas1.mg isasking as1.mg as1mg asking . Miss l\1us l 1us \ Norns NorrIs for advice advicein adviceto In to this personalcrzslS personalcrises personal crisis crzslS crises crisesless crisisless less joy of motherhood has roused rousedIII rousedin rousedin III in me so deep a resentment so sopamful sopainful sopainful pamful painful a sense of the injustice Inlustice of oflife oflife oflife life that I am becoming becommg unbalancednot unbalanced unbalancednot -not not - not that really but g ven van to fits fitsof fitsof fitsof of despondency I cannot seem to tobreak tobreak tobreak break For the sake of a wonderful wonderfulhusband wonderfulhusband wonderfulhusband husband and a lovely child I askyour askyour ask askyour your helpThat help . . . That help must come from wlthm within wlthmBarbara withinBarbara withinBarbara Barbara only yo yoj yon . ! can cure your yourself yourself yourself self But I am sure that a wider widerlook widerlook widerlook look at the situation will help you youto youto youto to philosophy-or philosophy or philosophy - or rather to simple simplecommon simplecommon simplecommon common sense The world is m In a abad abad abad bad way it w will l take mill ons of ofcapable ofcapable ofcapable capable and warmhearted women womenlike womenlike womenlike like yourself yoursell to cure it Countless Countlesswomen Countlesswomen Countlesswomen women have been roughly separated separatedfrom separatedfrom separatedfrom from their children countless oth 0th others 0thers others ers suffer the agony of seeing seemg those thosechlldrcn thosechildren thosechildren chlldrcn children bew Idered ldered hungry home homeless homeless homeless less Mothers are working workmg in m men s sjobs sjobs sjobs jobs homes are broken by d vorce vorcethe vorcethe vorcethe the sum of juvenile Juvemle delinquency delmquency has hasreached hasreached hasreached reached unprecedented heightsTrue heightsTrue heights heightsTrue True many women who bear chll chil chlldren children children dren constantly are totally unfit for formotherhood formotherhood tormotherhood motherhood and many ch Idren lIv lIvmg living livmg mg ing in m underprivileged homes are areless areless areless less fortunate than those you might mightadopt mightadopt mightadopt mightadoptBut adopt adoptBut But take a wide far look at the theSltuat thesituat thesituat Sltuat situat on and be grateful to God thatyou that thatyou thatyou you can take an unfortunate child or oy ortwo oytwo ortwo two into mto your home and give a asmall asmall asmall small waif whose life We might other otherwise otherwise otherwise wise be blighted bl1ghted a better chance chanceForget chanceForget chanceForget Forget your own humiliation in hav hay havIng haylog having Ing log humbly to beg tor for children cluldren from fromwomen fromwomen fromwomen women tar far inferior mlerlor to yourself re- re remember remember re remember - - member only that you can give glve joy joyand joyand joyand and safety love and care to the thehelpless thehelpless thehelpless helpless creatures who so need ItWhether itWhether it itWhether Whether the woman who actually actuallybears actuallybears actuallybears bears a child does that child a fa favor favor favor vor is a disputed question But there thereIs thereis thereis Is no question of the benefit be bestowed bestowed bestowed stowed upon some forlorn 1 I tile We the dere derelict derelict dereUct lict by a woman can give it a safeand safeand safe safend and nd sheltered childhood |