Show Kathleen Norris Says F t Ft f Ff Dont Don't Say a aG G Never Never- T 1 eve Dell Features b flit J Jil il I Ij t i Jr r gI J gri d i t V r Q 1 0 S c z- z zo o ev sa 0 i Qi t I f going the man of the house one kind of ofa a meal mealand and the en en my mother and myself another By KATHLEEN NORRIS 44 NE great trouble With all of us is that we dont don't know our own minds e may go along for years the firm conviction that we like something heartily e may cut a great deal of inocent pleasure and beauty t of our lives by tills this imag- imag imaged led ed dislike only to find In the thed thed d that it was that very ling that we needed most d would have enjoyed most all Henry James wrote a won won- short story many years go o about the man who was that some e was going to darken his Ius life lUe lifee e e felt it so strongly that when he hen n 11 m in love with Ith a fine woman he heId Jd Id her ot of it he said that a man mant t I sure of approaching calamity had right to ask a wife to share his career So she took her Token heart one w ay and he took another and they did not meet meeta r a long lone long time She was hap hap- hapy Iy y married then and the mother ot of but he was still alone his obsessIve tear fear still with m It It was as when they were talkIng gether gether ot of their long ago love that I suddenly came to him that It was wase e losing ot of her her beauty WIS- WIS tm m devotion that s the misfortune A lonely man who lived m a little studio in 10 California was as ire fc he hated dogs He could not er cr enough at dO lovers dog and at responsibility a 1 mIschievous dis- dis dog could be to his master e Christmas some friends as a ae e sent him a small polIce dog m in a crate intending to Col- Col Colw fol w up the gift with Ith a telegram in 10 a 1 or to 1 to say that the doS dog f uld be called for Immediately md and anden en back to his real owner O But owner had to buy another doS dog erro had scrambled with Ith his big puppy paws rIght into the haters hater's heart and md there he has n ii enthroned above aU all other af- af ever since y Children Can Dc Be Guided d so it IS with the child w ho hoE hoan hos s an a erSlon a to bananas carrots E e c creepy feel of cereals the lid ild who ho fusses over one t type pe of oC oCt oft t and doesn't object to another th children we may use authorIty lung thing the spinach spoon back and ek ck into the rebellious little mouth no blue hat no circus t ups grownups have delusions Just silly ally and some ot of them are arc housewives mad at this moment When your our husband writes rtha Williams of Troy pathetical pathetical- wont eat or salads sut like many sweets and hates vvs VIS minces roasts pot heavy ps and egg dishes what on earth you to do m in these difficult es Charles Charle IS amiability's self en there is steak for dinner with withed ed cd potatoes or chops or liver bacon or roast with nty ot of macaroni and beans and les lese But try to give him a ack ack ck bean soup a cheese souffle lug ing beans cornbread and baked pIes pies and he Sits back from the thele le ie sighs and watches the chil- chil chiland and me eat cat our dinner We are prospering now our In- In Inc I e c has bas risen from a month montha a little more than twice that but buten en cn so to have steak or fowl every ht for a family ot of six costs too ch Besides that I dont don't think a at and starch dIet is good for tor cries arlel Last year he be was moving nos hard work exercise that tight him home physically tired night and sent him off oa to tos s ep no matter what he be ate Now it ith different he be stands or sits in one h fiji I OPERATION COOPERATION The word operation co has become an important part of four o f our social vocabulary be- be because because cause most people learn soon soon- sooner sooner er or later that they cant can't sue sue- successfully tally live for themselves alone But there are still stilla a t few like Martha Williams husband who perhaps dont don't realize that they are being un- un uncooperative operative cooperative but who insist upon having their own nay In union there is strength Has never truer titan than it is to- to today day elay And we cannot afford to let caste and selfish indi destroy destroy tie t le strength It which tie cannot win the oar or build the foundation of ofa o f fa a just and generous peace r spot all day long rat at n a 11 lathe the get gets no exercIse and IS even more set than ever against anything except broiled meat coffee coerce and plenty ot of biscuits or fried potatoes Separate ls le Unsatisfactory I dislike the Idea ot of giving the theman theman man of the house one hind ot of meal mealand mealand and the children my mother and myself or Of course I could put what he likes before Charles every night serving the rest of oC us plenty of the green food chee cheese e dishes salads fruIt pastrIes wIth which we e American women are flU flU- 1111 In ing up gaps in 10 our fare of But ButI I hate hale to do It and it makes me mad to see other women in the market bU busing ing lamb shoulders beet beef tongue br brains pigs feet sausages fish everything that the limited budget suggests wIllIe while I go on prIC pric- pricing Ing roast beef and A big turkey ought to give us three meals roast stew and a thick soup but Charles only cats It once A pot pot- roast when we C were first married was the b basis of 11 fire e meals but not now Has any other woman Mar Mar- Martha's thas tha's letter leller ends ever written you of this predicament and If she did what hat did you say Charles now ought to prove his patriotism by setting letting a good ex- ex example example ample of war time adaptability to his children Let him lunch row on a glass of milk and a single small S sandwich md and then come home and settle down to clean his plate of frankfurters scalloped In Spanish macaroni creamed cab cab- cabbage cabbage bage COl coin n bread brend sliced oranges and oatmeal cookies Tomorrow let him lunch the same way and show his appetite for Cor a dinner of lamb stew baked sweets mashed cHow ellow turnip nf I He Hc may Indeed find he will find that the balanced rations are full ot of good flavors that he feels better afterward and that when hen Dad praises Mothers Mother's management and cooking the atmosphere at the din dlO- dinner ner table Is infinitely pleasanter than It has been All this nonsense about always hating boIled puddings and never having been able to touch anything WIth celery m in It ought to be swept away now be- be before before fore the realities of the struggle In l which ch we all are engaged Careful Preparations Necessary But for one thing Martha have havethe havethe the vegetables well drained and well well- seasoned and piping hot Have the less expensive cuts of meat care care- carefully carefully fully cooked a tough touch stew or a aI watery mince are enough to set an- an anone any any- anyone one against stews and minces for life Put hot crisp triangles les of but but- buttered toast around humble dishes garnish the Eggs Florentine With chopped bacon make Charles help help- helpIngs Ings Ines ot of the hated haled vegetables vory light to begin WIth Sometimes especially with children a too too- heaped plate will destroy appetite and tiny portions will be eagerly eaten from dolls doUs dIshes to the tho third and fourth helping |