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Show k : Kathleen Norris Says : Let iitr Your Daughter Dan glitei Fmd Find Fl Fi eedom eeclom eeclomBell Ben Bell Synd eate- eate cate- cate eateNU cateNU - NU Foturea Fo tures t . t1 # ! "X X " ' r rN N / /1 1 / \ \ ) ! thaI that Lee and I Icome come 10 to her for d dnners nners III at regular regular6wd regularedsg mother sugge suggests My Mymother the old oldtTIOS oldecept "ould ould uould "ouldmean uouldmean markellng marketing and duhwashang dishwaahing on , but that , " mean 6wd 6wdog edsg edsgateJ og rate ateJ . ! . . orcl /tTIOS tTIOS / , eJtepl ecept : that It u e would be paymg paying more than we can off offorcl afford By KATHLEEN NORRISH NORRISOW NORRIS OW much claim have havean havean havean H SOW HOW an old father andmotner and andmotner andmotner motner upon the time timemoney timemoney timemoney money , youth happiness happmess of ofthen oftheir oftheir then their ' cluidren children7 children ? It s an oldquestion old oldquestIon oldquestion questIon never to be satIs satIsactor satistactorily satisSactonly actor tactorily tactorilyanswered ! y yanswered answered for even evenwhen evenwhen evenffhea when It its s all reasoned out outhuman , , human hearts will solve it as asaffectIon asIfection asaffection affectIon Ifection and weakness and andfihal andElial andHial fihal Elial obedience dictate dlctate and andtldedy and1der1y andilderly tldedy 1der1y tyrants will contImre contintre contintrehave continueto contImre0 \0 0 \ have things thmgs their own way wayNina wayNmais28 Nma Nina IS is28 28 she has been the themam theaiim themain mam aiim support of a family of offour ofur ofour four ( ur for eight elght years For SiX SiXo sixo o ! 0 ! those years Tears she has been engagedto engagedbe engaged 10 be married her husband to be beIs bea beIs Is i a young doctor with no very brIl brIlLant bril.ant brillant Lant .ant ant . prospects Nma Nina has no money moneymd moneyseed moneywed , md seed and they are wondering wonderingwhether wonderingchether wonderingwhether whether chether they dare take the chance chanceot chanceof chancef of ofobUganons ofUgations otobligations of f marrying with the possibility obUganons Ugations to his old people and hers hersstaring herstaring herstaring staring taring ( them in m the face'My face'My face Wj 'My My ' ' father died last May after afterycars afterears afterjears writes NIna NIna'My Nina'My NinaTSj ycars ears of invalid mvald ! sm sin 'My My ' ' mother is a strong capable capablewnan capableronan capableTiraan wnan ronan of 66 88 but she has bad eyes eyeseannot eyesascot eyescannot eannot ascot read and 1 I \ es in constant constantfear constantear constantfear fear ear that blindness will overtake her herlIy herly herMj lIy ly little httle s ster Bessy \ went v.ent vent \ . ent to State StateNormal Stateormal StateKormal Normal ormal ( college as I did and I exected ex expeeted expeeled peeted ected that her salary as a teach teachtt teachu teachr u r would help out at home but shenarred she shemarr shetarred marr narred ed edery \ very \ery ery sery young and now has hasthree hasbree hasteee three bree small babies though she iseily2i IS ISonIr23 isonly onIr23 eily2i onIr23Uncle eily2iUncle 23 Uncle Asslsh'My Assists'My Assists Asslsh Assists'My ' 'My My ' uncle pays taxes and msur msuranee msurace insuriace anee ace on our little cottage amount amountIDg amountag amountfai IDg ag to about $200 200 $2O 2O $280 280 $ { ) a year I pay payfiery payserything pay"erythmg payerythmg fiery " serything thIng else With my father s sInsurance sosurance sInsurance Insurance osurance money I have turned our ourtwo ourtro two 50 front rooms into a separate separateIpartrnent separateipartment apartment Ipartrnent with a bath and kItchen kitchenhis kitchenTUs 'lbJs lbJs ' his is already rented for ( or $40 40 $ a amonth amath amath month math . . Bessy cannot help my moth mothtr mother mothr er r Lee Lee , , my roy sweetheart , , makes makesI.soo makes(1.500 makes1.500 makes1500 ( $ I.soo Isoo 1,500 1500 . , . a year as a n res dent at the thehop theSip thehoil hop Sip ! tal tal tat , , and is beg niung nnmg nning to have havel havea haveI a I lew few private pat ents not a very veryeood Verysod Veryt eood sod od chance that I co Id help my mymother myfather mymother mother father either In n a any nycrlsls crisis ' 1 'I I am sick with l longing ioighig ging tor for myown myOwn my myiro own < iro home the letter goes on It ItIs ItIa It1 Is Ia Ism ffi m sery [ tor for or a man and womanwho womanWits woman womanho who Wits ho love each other to put oil off agam again agamand againand againand and again agam the time of o ( the r ha happi happileSO happicess ppl pplness ness leSO together and we have grov'Il grovIl grown grov'Il'Neary grownWeary grownfeary . ' 'Neary Neary Weary ' and impat en sometimes to tothe tothe totte the point ot of almost breaking V.ltheach . with V.lth Vlth uth withach utheach each < ach other during these long years yearsI I have not tact hadmoney had money tor for prettythlOgS prettyth505 pretty prettyMBS thlOgS th505 MBS tor for the hoi hol days we might mighthale mightbate mighttiait hale bate had together I have wo n my my0o myt \ 0o ( tousns OUS ns ins clothes schemed and wor worned worTied wortied ned Tied to make ends meet until I feel feellike feellike leelIBw like likean an old womanMy woman womanMy My mother says now that she sheCanno shePossibly shef 'anno anno Canno ' possibly manage on $40 40 $ a'Ofth alIonth a a"lonlh ! "lonlh lonlh lIonth 'Ofth Ofth " ' that I must go on teach ng ngImhl ng- ng ng"itil - "itil itil Imhl 15114 ' " Lees Lee s income warrants ourleafing our ourleaving ourleaving leaving leafing her Lee says that a doc doctor's doctot'8 doctor'i doctori tor's tors tot'8 tot8 ' ' ' wife cannot carmot poss pass biy bly be ateacher a ateacher ateacher teacher that It is too much of artraln aour a rtraln rtralnon ala on our nerves There is fs no rio riofliobey nolIoney nomoney lIoney fliobey ! tor for a trousseau and even1Vlth evenli even 1Vlth li the most modest modc.st modcst . 1 I ttle apart aoart Illent " 'it it ' , . there mjst m.lst mlst mist . be good manag managtog managIng Ing o oa on our small Income IncomeI beloved I want so 50 to be happy to be be"ved beved loved " and tree free and able to rest In Ui InDl Uitoy inInT Dl toy ) ' home as other women do ' I IWant ISO I"int Iint Want ' " so to pay Lee back lor for these theseeenerous theseZenerous theseMnerous eenerous Zenerous onthe years ot of waiting waitmg ' But on onOth on"e one the ' " Oth other hand there is my moth mothtr mothand mothtr tr thatthe and my aunts assure me thatWOUld that I"cy Icy the ' " ) ' would not be surpr sed tt if shewere sheWere she sheere were ere to be taken token ill and d e as areSUlt aeandt a atault reSUlt ? tault eandt ot of the shock of my leavingN leaving'acatjon leaving leavrng , Noacation N No Vacation \acation acation 'acatjon acatjon \ ' to In rive FIve YearsIt Years ' K It Is 13 . five 1I.ve 1Ive years since I have hadan hadSny had hadi i an any Sny Christmasvaeat ) ' vacation except the ChristmasOfl Christinas Christmas Christinas'acat 'acat acat vaeat vaeaton ' on Ofl tor for I teach in summer atWoman at , woman 'OIDan OIDan " ' a coUege college My mother is a good cook and she suggests that thatLee thatLee thatLee Lee and I come to her for d nners nnersat nnersat nnersat at regular boarding boardmg rates but that thatwould thatwould thatwould would mean market ng and dIsh dIshwashmg dishwashing dishwashing washmg washing for me on the old terms ex except except except cept that we would be paying payrng $60 60 $ a amonthmore amonthmore amonth month-more month more - more than we could afford affordunless affordunless affordunless unless I went on teaeh ng rig I am so 50 soperplexed 50perplexed soperplexed perplexed between them all Idon I Idon Idon don t know what to do I long to get getaway getaway getaway away from everyth ng and w sh Lee Leecould Leecould Leecould could get an offer from some far faraway faraway ( araway away city and I could s mply walk walkout walkout walkout and drudgery re respons respons respons out on the routine routme spons b h 1 ty and worry that have havebeen havebeen havebeen been mine so longThe tongThe long tong longThe The chances arc are that the capable capableaffectIOnate capableaffectionate capableaffectionate te tea tea tea affectIOnate mother is as making makmg qu a martyr ot of herself just w do ved vedand vedand vedand married marned and now nowN nowN and . with v.lth vlth Bessy N na deserting her ' And the chances chancesare chancesare are also that she would tell youthat yoU yoUthat youthat that her whole purpose in m living lIvmg was wasto wasto wasto to make hte lIfe eas er tor for her g ris rls and andcontnbute andcontribute andcontribute contnbute contribute at any sacrifice sacnfice to the rhapp rhapp r rhapp happ nessSuch nessSuch ness nessSuch and andremember andremember andremember Such mothers never look took back remember lust Just 'ust ust ' how little the r 0 a ovnmothers vn vnmothers vnmothers mothers plans and des res mat mattered mattered mattered tered to their own youth Theystepped Theystepped They | stepped oft off happ ly into matrnnony matrimony matrnnonythey matrimonythey matrimonythey they took it tor for granted that everyyoung everyyoung every everyyoung young woman has a right nght to her on o 0 'IlllJ'e - 11 'Il Il -n n ' 11Liu nlife Liu llJ'e llJe life ' ' _ And so she has If 11 Nina Nma s motherhas has to take boarders let them be beboarders beboarders beboarders boarders other than - . Isma r-.ma r.ma r .ma ma Mna and Lee Leer.ma LeeMna LeeNina r-.ma r.ma r .ma ma Mna - . and Lee have a r ght to prvacy pr prvaey prvacy vaey vacy to the del ghts of the rom romhome r o on onhome vnhome home no matter bow how small and andpIa andpla andpla every day to tothe tothe tothe pIa pla n it Is Coming Commg for d n nner nner nner the same old d n ng rig room ner hearing the same old problems problemsof of leaking faucets or broken w n ndow ndow ndow dow bl binds nds . what v.hat vhat , freedom is N na nago nago nago go ng to enjoy ' ? She will WIIJ wipe thesame the thesame thesame same old dishes answer the old tele telephone telephone telephone phone s t do vn om via to the same two twogames twogames twogames games of cnbbage cribbage ) just ust as she hasdone hasdone has hasdone done tor for yearsMother yearsMother years yearsMother Mother Owes Apology ApologyNma ApologyNina ApologyNina Nma Nina has given enough of her lIfe lIfeto lifeto lifeto to her old people It is her mother motherwho motherwho motherwho who ought to be grieving gneving who ought oughtto oughtto oughtto to be apologet c e that she has man managed managed managed thts this thtssplendid thissplendid thissplendid aged her affairs so badly that splendid daughter isn t to have a apretty apretty apretty pretty wedding an outfit outlt ! ot of lovelynew lovelynew lovely lovelyI I new clothes with which to go to herhusband herhusband her herLhusband I Lhusband husband : My advice to is iried rled ned at once and let her befpless herpless befplessmother herplessmother helplessmother mother her criticizing cntIclzing aunts and andher andher andher her generous cous ns and uncle set settle settie settie tle tie all the problems that her mar marrlage marriage marnage rlage riage causes at home Doctors Doctorshave Doctorshave Doctorshave of prospi-ring prospi ring prospLlIng prospiring and nnd doc doe doctors doetars doctors have a way - tors tars wives are fortunate women womenbecause womenbecause womenbecause because the incessant traged es and andrespons androspons andrespons respons rospons bilit bllit cs es of the grea greatest test professlOn profession pro proItession value at of athome ofhome ofhome fesslOn fession teach a man the Itession home life lile serenity affection atTection child childhood childhood childhood hood The years ahead will be k nd nder nder nder er to r- r - . rna 1 I ' < na than those that have havegone havegone havegone gone hers has been the sort of girl girlhood girlhood girlhood hood that makes tor for a happy and andgrateful andgrateful andgrateful grateful maturity |