Show ome to l AVEN BETTY BLAIR I Letters and questions for the department should ba be addressed to Miss MissI I Betty Blair Hearts Heart's HavenS Haven Salt Lake Telegram Write only on one side i 1 0 of the paper It is necessary to append your name and address but these thesa I are held In confidence and will not be published Lett Loit and found notices I Ibe cannot ba be published In the column Or 0 Right of Way There are road hogs on every highway in life The epithet is a avery avery very ugly one but it adequately circumscribes the situations it de de- de- de scribes After a c collision between two aUn automobiles au aU- au- au n and while the driver of one one one-of of them lay dead theother was heard to say He had bad the right of y Dead right As dead right assir as iC he had been wrong And And thus it is that people sweep ng ng the highways of life Ufe In the assumption that so long as they achieve their ends It matters not nott t That at their competitors In the race h hv ve the right of way nor what the theOno 1 Consequences One Ono sees the farce often otten the tragedy working ut In the home the social group ness and professional groups in school and yes in the church y Have you ever seen one individual 1 In the he home simply craving all aU the attention all aU the honors and and good times that happen along In the Bourse urse oUrse of that family's life lite It Is sometimes the husband who wha leaves his wife to care for the home and family mIly while he takes his yearly vacation n from business in the as assumption assumption assumption as- as that he cant can't carry carryon on the they y year r round unless ho he gets away from everything wearing the old fa familiar familiar fa- fa face It never occurs to him Jv hare his vacation with his wife wIte alternate on-alternate years where both can- can hot afford to go Of course she's j at home there with the chil dren Nothing to do but look after things things- a little and rest when she tl feels ts tired And so th the tha situation n n goes on year ear after year ear and he wonders won won- 4 ders why she looks so old and wrin- wrin and is so easily irritated Sometimes It Is the mother who gathers all the family plums and often It Is a son or daughter in the I family as the popular song Poor i Papa Tapa so truthfully attests I Then there Is the little butterfly or butterfly or more rightfully flut- flut t who by r-by r who by-who who cannot endure that any girl other than herself should capture capture capture cap cap- ture and hold the tIle attention of allbe all yie be young joung men in the social group She would not willingly share one of her admirers with the more quiet girl who would give all she owned to know ju Just t how to sparkle and andal al- al y V lure ure Nor would she take the shy reserved one under tinder her wing and give her Just a taste of that light chatter and frivolity that would help the other to overcome her ler inferiority interiority complex If It she but kiew It she wo ld 1 Te be e the one to benefit the most in the long run front from contact with one of serious thought and the exchange would be good for Cor both There are tactics in vogue among some professional and business peole people peo- peo pIe le of ot crowding the small fry off the Jie market with which we ve are all too familiar Live and let live Is not the governing principle of ot such folk They are road hogs in every sense of the word And so we might go on Ing ng The occasions in high school and college where because of pull and ind influence of some order or fraternity fraternity fra Ira some less capable capture and hold the Important executive offices One would think the church to be exempt from such road crowding but we have even heard of high chur church h officials who believe with Andrew Jackson that to the victor belongs the spoils with the result that family and d friends benefit largely by the remunerative However we are still happy In Inthe inthe inthe the knowledge that the road hogs are in the minority that In most cases true merit wins that the Id ida a living for tor ones one's self has evolved two definite steps forward forward the tha live an and let live to the live and i help live platform and platform and that the spirit of savoir faire still holds sway Dear Miss Blair I read your column every evening eve ning in The Telegram and I enjoy it very much I 1 have a question which I have not seen answered in Hearts Heart's Haven yet Here it is If Ifa Ifa a boy 17 years old is taking a girl put to parties and school dances is isit isit isit it all right for the boy to go to this girls girl's house once in a while and arid visit her in the evening and sometimes play tennis or take her to a show Or do you think it a little early in life to do these things I hope I haven't broken any rules of the de department department de de- as I l would like to get your opinion on this question Thanking you for your answers to my other otner questions UNDECIDED No Undecided I dont don't think 17 too young for tor the kind of friendship friendship friend friend- ship you OU describe between a young man and his girl friends In fact just such friendships are necessary necessary to normal growth and the development development development develop develop- ment of normal emotions The mistake mistake mistake mis mis- take occurs where two young people monopolize each other and permit their emotions to overwhelm them Tennis dancing an occasional show calls at the young ladys lady's ladys home where you properly meet the other members of her family tho though gh the calls should not be too frequent nor of too long duration are the contacts contacts contacts con con- that should be developed be between between between be- be tween boys and girls In their late teens Your Tour suggestions for out-of- out doors activities especially meet with approval for tor there comes with these an invigoration of body which means an Invigoration of mind when coupled with self control and a high sense of honor You Tou are very ery welcome welcome welcome wel wel- come and no rules broken Dear Miss Blair I have a 50 cent 50 cent piece made In 1853 Can you tell me if it is of any val value e and if there is anyone in in Salt Lake who buys old coins Thanking you for any information you may give MRS M. M B B. B There is a premium value on the 1853 half-dollar half without rays am and arrows With arrows it Is w. w worth rth only Its exchange value Mr Callahan Callahan Callahan Calla- Calla han of the Callahan book store willbe will wll willbe be glad to examine your coin am and make you ou an offer on It The Nu Numismatic company of Fort Worth Tex makes offers of from 50 to for tor the 1853 dollar halt without rays ays and arrows Very welcome and nd best wishes for Cor luck with your coin oln Dear ear Miss Blair I 1 am wondering if you can tell us anything about goats Early this spring my father took a goat on a abill abill aill bill ill a person owed him and he gave it to us Can you tell us about bout how much milk a good goat should hould give etc My husband wants to get rid of her as we know nothing about goats but thought I would try the only way I know of of getting etting information If you dont don't happen to know dont don't bother to find ind out Many thanks MARY Th There re is a certain special ot of goat that I know much more about bout than the kind you mention However perhaps the following data ata may help some A milk goat gives gives' ives from to 1000 pounds or from rom to quarts of ot milk durIng the lactation period The milk of the goat has a a. high percentage percentage per- per of butterfat often otten excelling Jersey ersey milk The butterfat ran range eb from rom 3 1 2 1 to 8 per cent Goats Goat's I milk illk Is often used for tor bottle babies where cows cow's milk does not agree Some ome physicians recommend it ahead head of cow cows cow's milk There are goats goat scattered throughout the he different counties of Utah A circular Issued by the California educational extension service on the He Care and Management of the Goat may be had by writing this service ervice bureau in care of the College Col- Col lege ege of Agriculture University of California Berkeley and asking for or circular No 6 Always vel vel- come ome Dear ear Miss Blair I have read your corner often but ut have havo never written before so I hope tope I am welcome Now for or my question I think but I am not sure that I read in the papers not so soong long ong ago that Einar Emar Hansen Hanson was dead ead Is he I hope not because I Iwas Iwas Iwas was just beginning to lil like lice e him as asan asan an n actor I hope this will not find the he waste paper pager basket as I am waiting for an answer I wish you s of success WAITING Always welcome Waiting No doubt you read of the automobile accident which occurred about three weeks ago when Elnar Ethar Hansen Hanson was killed Many who liked him will miss him t too o. o Thank you for tor the I kind w Ish sh I Dear Miss Blair Will Wll you kindly give me a recipe for or cooking boiled beef Spanish tyle stylo style style- Also what part of the beef beefs is s used to make it Would like also if you would give me a recipe for or making layer cake that may be used for any kind of filling Thanking Thanking Thank- Thank ing ng you In advance DICKIE Do you mean Dickie the chile con carne caine recipe If It so so It follows Soak 1 pint of dried lima beans over ver night In the morning place In Inthe Inthe the he pot With 1 pound of solid soUd lean beef beet that has been diced 2 ounces of f sweet fat or suet a red p pepper cut cutin In in rings 1 onion Cover with water season with salt 2 12 2 teaspoon mustard wet up with vinegar and a a. d dash sh of tab tabasco sauce Bring to a boil boll and let simmer simmer sim aim mer slowly three or four tour hours Many housewives add seasoning to taste aste such as diced celery stalks or celery salt Worcester sauce paprika paprika paprika pap pap- rika and a a. few cloves For Fop your layer cake suitable for any iny filling tilling Take Tale 3 2 cupful of buter butter butter but- but ter er sugar 2 cups 4 eggs 1 cupful milk 3 2 1 cups of flour 4 teaspoons teaspoons teaspoons tea tea- spoons baking powder lowder and 1 teaspoonful teaspoonful teaspoonful tea- tea spoonful of vanilla Mix your dry Ingredients together add yolks of eggs ggs milk and seasoning and fold told In n the beaten whites of egg last You are very welcome Dear Miss Blair Will you please give me the ad addresses addresses ad dresses of the following movie movie stars Constance Talmadge Greta Garbo and Laura La Plante Thanking Thank Thank- ing ng you in advance MERLE I Constance Talmadge is at United Artists Studios Santa Monica Boulevard Hollywood Ca Cal Greta Garbo Metro-Goldwyn Metro Studios Culver City Cal Laura La Plante Universal Studios Universal City Cal al Glad to serve you Dear Miss Betty Blair In reading your corner I read a complaint of A Mother and I know a family exactly like that I just have to put in a word for the tho father in the case I have in mind This man is a very hard working man and his home conditions are not o othe of I Ithe the He is not allowed to speak to his children to compe compel obedience without his wife jumping all over him This innocent fun fun- loving daughter is a good enough girl I dont don't doubt and the father should associate with her company and appreciate the tho fact that she brings her boy chums home He appears like a a aman man that would be beso beso beso so jolly and full of fun under the right conditions But this girl has hasa a steady string of men after her and is out riding car and dancIng dancing dancing ing till 2 3 and even 4 a. a m m. She doesn't work but borrows clothes from all her girl chums that are working and supporting themselves What should be spent on the the- tw two young girls goes on the older anc and she is always dressed up while the others go without I think if the mother would spend more time watching the welfare of the younger young er ones it would pay her Whenever I go to the neighborhood neighborhood neighbor neighbor- hood store and th these se children are there you can hear them laughing and talking smart to all the men over there and it is really disgust disgust- ing Now Miss Mias Blair I am only a neighbor and my opinion is only that of an outsider but I can se see unbiased what is going on through these unclosed blinds so to speak and I say lets let's not blame the father fathe for all the wrongdoing Hope thi thiis this is II not too long to be printed as this thi mother should see that some of th the neighbors are on the fathers father's side sid in some things Thanking you fo for your time A NEIGHBOR Do you know Neighbor I have a suspicion that this father who whose cause you so valiantly champion knows just about what he is doing and Is going to manage his affairs in a very nry satisfactory manner Als Also that though he be appreciates fin fine friendships he will not thank you ou for taking his part In public Men len Just have that way about them that I if they dont don't suc succeed d In on onway one way they are going to try another and they resent interference from the outside I believe too that the themore themore more the neighbors keep their eyes eye peeping within the circumference o otheir of J their own walls the better all things thing will work out There w was s a c certain r x lawyer awyer asked a a great teacher once the he question Who Vho la is my neighbor neighbor neigh neigh- neighbor bor And that teacher gave a ft parable arable In answer that has come comedown comedown down own to us and can be applied to our most modern age The spirit of that hat parable is tolerance and kindliness kindliness kind kind- liness iness love and charity Which one of f your neighbors is really In the greatest need of these Search him ilm put and let this spirit of ot fair fairplay fairplay play lay and friendliness which you have ave tried to exhibit here be spent In n another direction The parable of which I speak Is found In Luke 1029 Very welcome Dear Miss Miss Blair Would you kindly give me a budget budget bud bud- budget get for a a month income There are just my husband and myself my myself self In the tho family Thanking you youn in n advance NEWLYWED It Is a difficult matter to budget the he income of another for the reason reason rea rca son that tastes and alms aims In family goals differ Some families prefer preter to o spend more on ore rent and less on food and advancement others spend more on clothes and food and less ess on rent The six main divisions of living expenses are arc Shelter or rent food clothing operating sayings sav- sav ings advancement l Following Is a aplan aplan aplan plan for fr a income that may ay be altered to suit your particular alms aims and tastes Shelter 15 per cent food 15 to 30 per cent cloth clothes s 15 per jer cent operating expenses gas lights fuel etc 15 per cent savings sayings sav- sav ings 6 to 12 per cent Suppose you paid 15 fo for rent 34 for food 13 for lor clothes 15 for operating expenses ex- ex 17 for advancement and 6 for tor or savings Suppose you are going to buy a washing machine and vacuum cleaner These items would be counted under operating expenses and the expense would be distributed ed over the entire time of its service and ind usefulness though for the time being allowance would have to be bem m made de for the monthly payments under under un un- der operating expenses and less during that period would necessarIly necessarily Ily ly be paid on clothes clothes' or advancement advancement advancement advance advance- ment or wherever It could best be spared A strict keeping of accounts will I enable you each month to know which divisions require more and aud which less of the months month's income The keeping of an nn automobile also comes under operating expenses and provision Is made for |