Show o I 1 k l DUI tL E 4 Letters and questions for this department should be addressed to Miss Betty Blair Hearts Heart's Haven Salt Lake Telegram Write only on one side of th the paper It is necessary to append your name and address but these are held in confidence and will not be published Dear Miss Blair Last night at the Orpheum I en enJoyed enjoyed en- en joyed the spirit of Miss Gene Dennis Dennis Dennis Den Den- nis nis although I am so deaf that I couldn't h hear ar her and I am so af affected affected affected af- af in my speech that I couldn't make her understand But I 1 knew that she was just the kind I wanted advise advie from so I tried to have my little boy ask what I wished to know We waited for her twice but were disappointed so perhaps it was meant to be So I have come to you for advice for you are are are- I have been so unhappy health troubles and even domestic and business affairs are against me I try to be everything a woman should be and to forget it and look on the bright side I wont won't give up but smile through What hurts so is to be reminded constantly constant constant- ly of my affliction and to be told that people feel sorry for me Sympathy Sympathy Sympathy Sym Sym- pathy is all right but too much and no love is not My only comfort Is children childre I love them I have two I darlings I am all right as long as asI I am alone alon with innocent children They are much brighter than grown people but what hurts is for them to tell m me that I am funny as they call it As a child I wasn't so bad but as asI I 1 have grown older my affliction has grown worse I 1 am getting so that I 1 cant can't stand grown people to talk to me for it is nothing intelligent intelligent intelli- intelli gent Bent they way they talk I have some wonderful gifts or talents as yo you call t them em but ut I have aye never neer ha had a cnance tor for I paven t open been through the grades nor have I had any money only money only enough to keep my body warm and enough to cat eat I 1 Ih h have vc been a household drudge I Iwas Iwas Iwas was married not because of love just sympathy and people say Oh how ow on earth could he stand her It ended that my husband grew tired and committed suicide and left me land poor with debts to pay People were kinder to me then but always the kindness and help that they did they would throw up to me when I grew tired of work I could hardly keep on the go I married again only to jump from the frying pan into the fire and now I am worse than miserable Do you think that Miss Dennis would see me or give me an answer through the mail mail mail- I am only i I s young woman and it would please I some ome people too well if I 1 did die try I-try not to think t of myself and my rny troubles but I have always sacrificed sacrificed sacrificed sac sac- so much to make others happy but I am always forgotten when their other troubles have blown away I am not selfish and my only policy is honesty and that thatis is s the only thing that has carried me through But very little pleasure pleasure plea plea- pleasure sure is mine Miss Blair it you only knew half of my troubles This letter is long I know but I have one one- thing to say say say-I I have played my part and nd have done more fairly with i 9 others than they have with meNow me Now what I want i is Miss Genes Gene's s advice I would like to defy these thes people not hurt them them them-no no that tha would never do but without education education education tion I 1 am handicapped in every way but surely there is a way out S So p please help me Miss Blair I BASHFUL Indeed there Is a a. way out B. B You say that you are still a young woman wo wo- man then man then there is no reason in the whole world why you ou cannot remove re remove remove re- re move your our handicap and get an education I would not suggest sus-gest suggest that you ou get it for the purpose e of defying defyIng defy defy- ing other other- people that would not be worth while But Dut because it would open new vistas of experienCe experience ence enee and enjoyment that the un unlearned unlearned up- up learned do not even realize exist With a knowledge of where to look for pleasures of the mind you ou will keep all aU your leisure moments occupied pled pied for all your years to come and it may bo that your handicap In the matter of hearing and speech may turn out to be a bless blessing In in dis dis- guise I have talked with Miss lIss Dennis and amI If you ou write to her Immediately in care of the Hotel Utah and mark your Our letter personal she has promIsed promised prom prom- to answer you though she Is making an exception in your our case only because she is not supposed to do any private or personal work Be as brief as possible in writing I to her wont won't you ou because she is granting you a special favor and itis It Itis ItIs is not wise to impose too much ona on ona ona a per persons person's ons g generosity A 1 wish that you mIght come Inand in inand inand and talk to me one B. B and then I might point out to you OU some df tit the difficulties difficulties difficulties that are i e a really little more than molehills but out of which you ou are making mountains You say that you try not to think of yourself and yet et you are so SUPER-SENSITIVE SUPER that you feel that everyone everone Is always thinking about you OU and pitying you It Is YOUR attitude that makes maltes them do that Cant Can't you prove to them that just just because you cannot hear all the noise of the world is no reason for your our not being able to enjoy it Remember that hearing is only one of a number of senses through which we get our Impressions and that if it this is impaired It probably means that one of your our oth other r senses possibly that of sight is that much more keenly developed When you begin to get gel discouraged discouraged discouraged aged remember Helen Keller who was not only deaf but totally blind as well and think of the marvelous things that she has accomplished I am afraid that instead of thinking about what you are able to do and what you do enjoy and what talents talents talents tal tal- you ou can develop you let your mind dwell on the unpleasant and unfortunate aspects of ot your life In all probability it was your own super-sensitiveness super that influenced influence d your husbands husband's point of view Dont Don't be so silly as to b believe lIeve that men me n have a habit of marrying out o oa of ofa ofa f a sense of sympathy or pity You u must shake yourself out of this un un- happy happ state of mind and plan fo for tor r your future There are any number number num num- ber of opportunities for getting a an n education and these are classes classe s right In your oUr own town If It you ou u wish to know more about these let le t me know Dont Don't think that I a am m scolding too much and that I a am amnot m not sympathetic I am But it i inot is s not sympathy that you need Le Leme Let t me hear from you ou again and well we'll tI I try to find a a. concrete way out Dear Miss Blair Can you please give me a list o of f beautiful words when spoken an and d when written I have to have the them m for school Can you put them i in 7 MAC You must allow more time flex flextime next t time Mac lac or we cant can't grant your You r request And have you looked i ithe in inthe Inthe n the dictionary Start going through h the p pages es saying the words ou out I loud and choosing those that have hav havea haea hava e a musical pronunciation That i ithe U I. Uthe d the only way to compile such a n list as It will be largely a matter of ot personal choice after atter all But here are a a. few pointers 11 n h making your selection Meanings of ot words undoubtedly have a decided de decided decided de- de influence on your reaction to them For example Would the word horrible ever strike you as being beautiful and yet on the other hand wouldn't you choose melody or fragrance for their beauty Here are a few other comparisons enchantment fanciful charming I opalescent rhythmic graceful graceful and and I then harsh terror frightful gruesome gruesome gruesome grue grue- some grubby menacing etc Words make pictures that must appeal to our sense of sight or feeling as well as ns to our sense of ot hearing with rare exceptions and you are likely to choose words as beautiful if they create a pleasurable sensation in your consciousness with the mental pictures that flash Dear Miss Blair I have taken pleasure in reading over letters in Hearts Heart's Haven and andas andas andas as this is my first favor of you I l hope that you will give me some same in in formation Should a woman with brown hair and eyes and an olive complexion ever wear green I surely will appreciate a hint or two in choosing becoming clothes How Now many inches from the floor should my skirt be I am 38 years old weight pounds and my height is 5 feet 8 inches I would appreciate ate your help so much MRS N N. N B B. B We Ve are happy to have you in Hearts Heart's Haven and hope you dont don't think of any little thing we may do door door f for or you as being a favor Hearts Heart's Haven is as much your column as ours so write in whenever you like There are several types of the olive complexion Mrs l B. B so It makes makes us us hesitate to say definitely yes or no no about the choice of ot green If your skin is clear and your color good you OU n need ed have no worries In choosing almost an any shade of ot green But if u you have a tendency toward be oh so careful about any of the Culler duller tones that may have too much yellow In them then as they will vill emphasize your lack of natural brilliancy of skin coloring Jungle green should be fairly safe but before purchasing either the goods or the dress try it ft against your face or under your chin In a abright abright abright bright light then you'll be abl able to see what effect It has From rom 12 to 14 inches from the floor should be a conservative es estimate estimate es- es but again try it out 01 oil yourself as proportion is the thing to be desired far more than a a. set following of a style edict Dont Don't wear wear car your skirts too long but re remember remember ye- ye member that there Is as much charm in dignity and carriage that tha t fit the age and size Elze of the In Individual individual In- In as there Is In an abstract t ts smartness of attire that loses it Us Its s appeal If worn by the wrong per per- son Study yourself and experiment experiment ment meat a little soon you'll be able to tomake tomake make distinctions and will find that you ou are choosing clothes that en enhance enhance hance Nance your Individuality rather than those that are picked because of the attractiveness of ot the dress itself Dear Miss Blair I have been a r reader ader of Hearts Heart's Haven for a long while but I have never ventured to ask a question I have an 1868 nicker nickel and want to know if there is a premium on it it On one side it has the letter 5 surrounded by thirteen n stars star On the other side is a shield above which are the words In God We Trust I 1 also have a nickel but the date is rubbed off OLD COIN The premiums on such a coin as you range from face value to 25 cents but your our coin with no date would have to be appraised by a coin collector and it is doubtful doubtful doubtful doubt doubt- ful if It t there would be a a. premium without the date Venture Venturo in again I wont won't you |