Show iI L What Do You Expect 11 By CYNTHIA GREY Having a good wife and cabbage soup other things seek not sa says s 's the Russian peasant And perhaps his simple formula for wedded bliss bUss bUssIs Is as good as any other For one of ot the big mistakes that people make about marriage is that they expect too much from It They think that it is going to be a sort of ot rosy that will change all their lives But it f t Marriage is an Investment that always pays dividends of some sort SO of either misery or contentment But seldom of ot delirious happiness after atter the honeymoon has set And right there Is the rock rook upon which man many a marriage has been dashed to pieces upon the mistaken Idea that it must be an earthly Paradise How can It be in this this' workaday worl aday world where no man lives by love alone We are like a lot of ol children begging for celestial candy Anatole France says somewhere And so we Ie are asking that life Ufe be sweet as sugar demanding that married life Ufe be wildly happy And It Isn't except for an occasional high spot or two The first ye year r of marriage to be quite honest lonest Is hi not particularly happy or comfortable It Is the the time when two two people must must learn to say we Instead of ot the selfish I 1 ot of the unmarried The sweetheart has become a It wife wife- Once she was mysterious and beautiful Now she Is beautiful beautiful beautiful beau beau- only She has become a mere woman who does not know as much about getting up a meal as her husband would like her to know possibly And the husband Once he was thrilling as well as handsome By the end of that first year he Is still good looking of ol course but its it's a rare husband who is thrilling to his wife She knows too much about him and she has seen him without a It shave besides besides' And so very often the twelvemonths twelvemonth's end emI finds I p two disillusioned people who had believed each other a god and goddess respectively during the I wonderful da days s 's of courtship They cannot become reconciled to the fact tact that all idols have clay feet They see only that each is a faulty human being dull at times quarrelsome upon occasion and addicted to colds In the head perhaps So this Is marriage the little wife says I scornfully to herself as she listens to the low snore ot of her ner former fonner Prince Charming asleep under the davenport lamp with a dead cigar in his limp Ump fingers This Is not love In a cottage as she had dreamed of It not by a long detour Where are the Idleness and the good time tim that she he had expected married life to give gl her Where Indeed l So this is marriage the young husband echoes at the first of ot the month looking over the bills that his crafty spouse had slipped into his pocket that morning as she kissed him goodbye Perhaps he had been told that two can can live e as cheaply as one and had believed that old sa saw But now he knows mows better He knows that thai It takes exactly twice as much coffee and cream and buttered toast for two breakfasts as for one and that Friend Wife's Wite's cobwebby stockings and deli delightful dresses cost every bit of ot their weight In greenbacks Oh easily that much When two people begin to feel this way about their mating they have reached the danger zone of of matrimony I |