Show Three Stepping Stones 1 Of Successful Marriages By Sophie Irene Loeb HOBBIES AND HABITS In preceding articles I told about Three Rocks That Wreck Marriage I taking three of ot the tile most common varieties varieties varieties va va- va- va that bring about unhappy marriages according to the many letI let- let I I received on the subject from time to time i I These three articles dealt with Littie Lit I tie itle Straws ra Worries r The he ciu Outside That e r Become Influence ce Last taJ and andi i Th fiS 1 T rt l-rt of tb lb Third Put Pait At t the same time contrary to the I cynic there are many man happy happ mar- mar marI marriages I After considerable observation observation 1 tion it is a n safo that the I successful marriages are arc marked b by bya a few common sense attributes I Among these is the toleration of hobbles hobbles hob bob bles toes and habits of or either cither tho the wife or orthe ortho ortho tho the husband Many ran times the ver very verb successful marriage has been broken because I either one of the parties or ot orI otI I would not endure some little hobby 1 I or or habit of ot the other Often a little mannerism or idiosyncrasy has so grated on the tile nerves nerves- of the wife or husband that it formed a basis of I breaking up UI the union I know of a very successful marriage marriage mar mal I of or twenty five years standing I have ha talked with husband and wife I man many many times and I am confident confident dent that their continued enjoyment of or each ach other was tim the willingness nesB for tor I each to have ha his and her own hobbies hobbles and land habits I In speaking of oC this tho the wife said I Tile The trouble with most roost wives is that they are continually trying to change chango their husbands husband's habits I think this Is ft n. gravE mistake unless the habits are arc arcery ery very bad ones one Indeed Mo Molt Moat t women arc are unwilling to take a husband hUlban as tile they have found him Th They s' s are unable to overcome the re reform re- re form Corm or conquering spirit There are arc women who cause endless endless end end- less trouble b by tr trying to take away ana I I certain little pleasures that to th them nl seems unnecessary For instance his cigarettes his I pipe liPe ipe or his books she shema ma mat not hot approve of any anyone one but Who ahio has a t. t better right to them For instance m my husband has a I pot hobby hobb of puttering around Jn n the I carpenter shop He UP made things very I Ij I j I mussy at times but I did not discourage discourage dis dis- dis courage him To me some of th the i i iI I things seemed foolish but I gradually gradual- gradual I ly h and carefully got him to keep his I I things to together ether and let him enjoy his lila I experiment I Give a n. man plenty of room for tor tori i his little foibles and ho he will be careful care- care careful careful ful not to infringe in other places II He lIe ma may want a little place all his I own a so called den Why not I Sometimes it Is a g good od thing for tor couples to get away from each other I It If a man wants to smoke emoke In your yourI I best room let him Suppose the curI curtains curtains cur- cur do have to be washed oftener oftener- I I never try to read my husbands husband's correspondence unless he asks me to todo todo todo do so 80 I expect him to respect mine I as well welt It is the little things that one tolerates in the other that aler all are the foundation for tor happiness There is great worth in this woman's womans womans woman's womans woman's wo wo- I mans man's words I know of a n. couple that separated because the husband whistled whis whis- whIs 1 I tied out of ot tune and the wife wile had a I tuneful ear I know of another woman woman wo wo- wo- wo II I man who wIto became miserable because she found that she ahva always s 's reflected I her husbands husband's opinions' opinions and never had II III I any of her own Another woman has found round the secret of successful marriage mar mar- In keeping out any selfish spirit I Ion on either side neither one depriving de I the other of ot certain things but talIn taking tak- tak I j in ing turns In securing what th they I II j I wished i iOne One On o of th the great reat elements also in in I this connection is keeping up cour cour- cour 1 I tesy Let your husband open the thedoor j door for tor y yi i 1 as he would for tor any I visiting ll 11 lady tuest ruest Children too learn such courtesy by example of ot I their parents Do not forget to create cre cre- ate little creature comforts cornfortH for each I other as you ou did in the honeymoon I Idas days das It is Js another way of keeping the fire alive Create Crent the glow of ot i I I gladness i ii I II i It is these se seemingly insignificant I II II I I I things dall dally daily observed that continue I i peace and pleasure 1 I Man Ian Many a couple make the mistake of I believing that the tile marriage certificate i cate ate Is a license for fol letting slide all allI I the respect that men and women owe I to each other h In other h contracts t II It Ite is the tho tolerance e n at the l time f that I over O a 1 stepping stone in marriage marriage mar mar- marj j I leading to the wide road of happiness I Copyright its uis by the Press Publishing I Co tb tim UtA New Nw York J World |