Show IT 1 lv I 1 i 1 t M MEN E N 1 y 1 PRET TY I D L' L E j t r 1 r I r Y v. v Just to Worship e Feminine Beauty Is a Q II JM t 1 1 ff Sad a Mistake Says Dr r Alfred re L. L r 5 t. t r t hr h y r r vI f fh fi Quest Hall Hall Hall- Quest and an Unless the e Genus enus I i h f rt I Kp S Y f 1 i j BYrt j S y r T Homo Applies More ore Reason in n Choice once t r Y h r rN K r j i r r o of f His S Mate His Wedding Bells v i f a ir i r r. r r 9 a x f ri r s r r nl Will Sound the a Beginning of i r i l r p. p Si VI t t. t r rt r His Marital Woes ft jf t I 15 rr t v. v ki l 4 r rn r f r i t J sf i rt 5 rl r yI i 7 d yr r G r Y l f r I A r N I Ifft I J I I F 1 1 tr r. r c r. r d r i I J r i t. t J f. f i 1 V d k s Y s Dr Alfred Lawrence Quest Hall Quest famous r 1 I I J t J. J educator and psychologist suggests that the f 1 t s l w most feasible remedy for the of youth I r r tc in n marria marriage ge would d be the a establishment s to bli s hm e n t of schools f x or courses for matrimony where family life in its social t f J economic and biological ical as aspects could be studied t ftC fr 1 J L I 11 f ri u 1 p rI r A s Arm A t s r ayos t 4 t g 1 0 l- l i I r rs w iJ r d' d I 4 i j jf f W Kf i v SJ i J i I 1 i y t a 1 By Lillian G. G Genn enn TT IS no no new idea that man Is a fetish- fetish i J- J worshiper per From time Immemorial he has been entranced by some distinctive f feature of a woman It It may be a dimple I i i or a shapely figure a pair of dazzling t 1 eyes yes or a captivating eyebrow whatever eyebrow w whatever 0 r it is that he has a weakness for Once I I. I he sees it Jie a is overcome by a powerful y emotion that he interprets as as' love lover The I owner of ot it may may have nothing else but J Y J. J the he dimple yet to his eyes she at once at once i- i becomes the most ravishing beauty in the i world and rand possessor of all the f feminine 1 Virt virtues es This worshiping of ot fetishes has j. j L' L t L' L J ted man to write music and poetry and andr r yr to create creat great works work of art rt and It has o oftentimes caused him to forth go to battie bat bat- 1 tIe tle But while throughout the ages he be has r been aroused and inspired by some part particular particular par par- t titular fetish he le kept his worship of It well t u outside ide t the confines of or marriage It i wasn't until he began to insist upon g gazing at the dimple across the breakfast breakfast break- break fast cast table for the remainder of his life that the matrimonial thermometer began to run a a. temperature For what men are doing now Dr Dra a Alfred Lawrence Hal Quest Hal Quest noted psychologist cholo gist and educator pointed out is marrying a fetish Far be It from me to advise them to smother their natural V desire to worship feminine beauty but 4 to make it the sole basis of ot marriage Is x bound to create create trouble for that worthy Institution There Ther must be mere to ones one's r. r life partner tier par than just a or a fair 4 skin ekin kin and unless th the genus homo applies 8 a little more reason to his choice his r wedding bells will sound the beginning of or hU hit marital w woes es Cy t means taking away awaya t- t a good deal of ot the romantic glamour from froin marriage but after all When you consider the facts this idea o ol 01 i romantic love L i. only about years old If It our ow forefathers were able to get along without without with with- out it there is no reason wh why we cant can't Ro Romantic love Is nothing m more re or les less s than an experiment and one must admit admi t that it has not been a success In man many y countries pf pt Europe and in Asia th the e t r family f still stilt selects the mans man's partner and while this arrangement has its faults a aman a man at least know knows w what t he h e is 15 getting r The French method of ot matchmaking g has haa much in its favor when compared compare d with the hasty impulsive marriages marriage s which are contracted in America It Is s of course true that romantic love do does ss 4 not play as big a part in the selection n Y l of at a life partner under the Fr French system i- i tem m. m but it does fairly well insure the th ie e r f v vr 1 tf if 1 oJ 1 y fj 1 h Ar d f io f d F l r gt r a r e f. f i I I 1 11 young people of suitable mates mate from a asocial social and financial standpoint It discourages discourages discourages dis dis- disI I the union union- of persons of wholly differ different nt tastes and environments who In America n might be momentarily attracted to one another and hastily wed Here a man man waits until he is jg in th the e throes ol of love which love which is nothing but ea a sort of ot intoxication intoxication and ami then overwhelmed overwhelm over over- whelm whelmed by emotion he chooses h his When a man is emotionally ups upset t he Is certainly in no lit condition conditio n to use his Judgment or his brains It Itis I t is no time for him even to begin to tl think thin k k of establishing t bUshing a p permanent relationship Not only does mans man's fetish worship P prove to be his undoing but his vanity as well Dr Quest Hall-Quest who thoroughly understands his own sex believes that tha t so vulnerable Is man on op this point that tha t with the proper handling he can be made mad e te to think he is 15 marrying mal the very wom woman n not of ot his bis dreams whereas In actuality she falls falls far short of filling the bill Woman realizes that it is more re- re to be than honest Since vanity Is 15 his weakest defense why not mount to the throne of his heart via that route Certainly it is the easiest and quickest way to win him Not that I blame the woman So long longas as it Is impossible to be honest with the theman theman theman man and he shows preference for the woman who Inflates his its ego the only thing that is lef ref for her to do is to develop to a superlative degree the art of flattery and deceit While It is true that she may go so far as S s' to pursue the man nevertheless he is the one one who does the proposing and the responsibility re Is fore on un his shoulders No one would woula say that he has used his prerogative with any degree of wisdom or foresight Dr Quest Hall-Quest was asked whether he thought that women would do any better were they to propose I I tl think they would he smiled Women are not worshipers fetish-worshipers and they have never entertained the idea that mans man's failings are commendable traits trait Rarely do they look f for r the beau- beau i vr s Ca f. f tl y it 4 iti f y t 1 4 i J 1 I r f 0 J jI s. s J s. s l' l 4 jo N Ii tr 7 n y Iii 7 S Sunk k b E Eti Emotions ti lr x J f un n nr by y mo ons p r c kt j 7 l j fi r i ar SEX EX appeal PP ear snappy dancing Z l 1 f g i V r and a looking good-looking face are arc I not enough to make for a ha happy Ii 4 wedded life says Dr Hall Hall Quest 1 y Your o r avela average average a man man waits warts aits un until il he is is in in n the tl throes roes of love ove a a a state of intoxication Intoxication and and then i f ove overwhelmed whelm d b by Y YIt emotion n he chooses choos s his It would be better were women to do the proposing Rarely do th they eY look for the beautiful but dumb male They w want nt men lien who are courageous coura coura- strong kindly and good providers What we nee need d is is to have pe people given more more- information about t th the he psychology of love the love the difference ce bet between w ee n love and sex J. J We must not be influenced too too much mud by the divorce statistics tics There There are are plen plenty y of of happy unions unions and the very fact that they they- do exist should enc encourage r ge those who contemplate matrimony ny Make no mistake e abo about t it the good old- old fashioned marriage institution ti n is is he here e to stay st y and and will not be replaced by y any newfangled plan but dumb male They riney wan men who are courageous courageous strong Kindly and ana good providers Many a a. stunning beauty has married a homely man merely because became because be be- cause came he be possessed these qualities Since and women are naturally more practical keener psychologists they would not be beso beso so easily misled That is why In in my opinion it wo would uld be a fine thing if it it were socially permissible permissible permissible per per- for women women to propose as well as men As Asit it it is a girl frequently has to sit around and wait while the man wavers and perhaps walks walks' off with someone someone some someone one else Possibly if she could propose at a propitious moment she n might have him On the other hand it is by no means unusual for a a. man to want a splendid girl and yet be so 50 seized by an inferiority complex that he will never summon up enough courage to ask her There are many circumstances when it would help the woman to do the pro pro- posing However because of at precedent as well as the fact that man has always enjoyed being the conqueror I I. I doubt whether r women will win take the initiative in proposing At l leas leas' as' as not for a w while while- for there is is' is no n saying what women will I do h as they become more independent I HOWEVER dont don't believe that t this his would by any means solve our various marriage problems What we need is to have people given more mati mation on about the psychology y of love They must know for fore example wherein love differs from the physical attraction The e Average person does not realize that one has nothing to do with the and t t is becaUSe he other considers them the same thing that later difficulties arise disillusionment and The only feasible lish schools remedy is to to establish or courses for LC r matrimony and where biological bioSi family v life lite fe in ln its ocial economic aspects can be studied They must be takings sincere ic for which must mast young men and women enroll as part ot of their At the education possible present such a venture is impossible im- im since I it would meet with t too o i fi 7 t- t 1 I t I r. r rf f J tA A t l. l i f t. t t A r. r 1 t i t i V much ridicule and opposition We Weare Weare Weare are not sufficiently open We have just begun to emerge from a long bleak puritanical era and have only now discovered that there is such a thing as sex sex ex That is why we talk about it so much Our books plays and movies are filled with sex It Is the reason too for the many inconsistencies and hypocrisies While on one hand we will not permit a afrank afrank afrank frank discussion in periodicals and in schools of sex themes yet on the other hand we we find an almost indifferent attitude attitude attitude atti atti- tude toward matters that until ref re recently were blushed over The younger generation genera genera- I tion does all sorts of forbidden things and scarcely any one ohe is shocked Pornography Pornography Pornography Por Por- Is thinly veiled as art and di divorce divorce divorce di- di vorce and love scandals are aired to the public IT CTT T IS IS' IS all very confusing but yet it is is' J- J Jonly only to be expected e when you consider consider consider con con- sider that a repressed long-repressed people are now beginning to think a little on matters that affect their happiness and welfare It will probably be a long time tune before we will be able to relegate sex to its its' proper place as Europe has There they take the whole subject very much as a matter of course They view with no little wonder wonder wonder won won- der and amazement our almost avid interest Interest in interest In- In terest in hi anything that pertains to sex But doubtless Americans wont won't go so on forever in this manner After a while our Interest in the subject will be exhausted and it will be no more to us than an old cookbook Then when we treat sex ina ina in ina a matter fact way we will wiIl be able to tackle our marriage problems more Inte intel intel- Meanwhile we have to work out the he tangles as best we can f Make no mistake about It the good old old fashioned fashioned marriage institution is here hereto to stay and will not be replaced by newfangled newfangled newfangled new new- plans that every once in a while sprin spring into the limelight It will continue to exist for the simple reason that there is nothing the matter with it It is only the people themselves who are ailing Instead of asking ourselves wrong with the marriage institution we should ask wrong with married folks Then we would come closer to the root of ot the trouble II But as Dr Quest Hall-Quest admits In his Ilis book Its Not Our Fault in many cases people just j st cant can't help misbehaving 1 I Its It's a a. heritage from poor misguided ancestors right back to to the time of ot caves and big he men Not all the ailments therefore are peculiar to our our times However the psychologist smiled we must not be Influenced too much by the divorce statistics There are are plenty of ot happy unions and the very f fact ct that they do exist should encourage those who contemplate matrimony Too many young people are beginning to be timorous They are wondering whether marriage Is ts worth while at all With the bachelor apartments and clubs making everything comfortable for tor them and with the various arious influences at t work that tend to cheapen love they keep postponing postponing post pose the day and finally evade it al al- al together Yet when two people know how to live together and understand the tasks and the responsibilities that marriage imposes it can be the most beautiful and the happIest relationship in the world Nothing Is loveli lovelier r than a hom home e ethe where husband and wife both know how to play the game In discussing some of ot the mistakes that th the players make ake Dr Sat Quest Hall t thought that the most pr prevalent valent one Is their inability inability in- in ability oi 01 unwillingness un to realize tha they must adapt themselves for a cooperative cooperative oper co-oper- enterprise Like any other ther partnership It involves j r v 1 v vv 11 r i. i 1 i M I. I F Io adjustments and endl endless s compromise Buthe But Bu the trouble is that each expects to use Ue the other Each wants the other to gi give e eup up everything without offering anything in exchange Mere trifles in the tha wa wa ol of disagreements are magnified Into mountainous mountainous mountainous moun moun- incompatibility an and soon a tug- tug war of-war 1 ensues 1 This would not be so bad 1 If the relatives relatives rela rela- J tives and the parents did not hasten to the scene to take sides The daughter Is 13 J urged to say this and the son IS ls prodded to to todo do that and before you ou know it th the whole tribe is transferred i into o the court- court t room If the relatives feel that they must interfere let them call a council meeting and talk the thing over together Their i greater experience and the remembrance of their own quarrels will equip them to solve the difficulties of the couple There is no necessity though for taking sides But young people today are not very t patient They expect success in every field of ot life to come quickly Marriage however is isone one thing that will never succeed sue sue- i teed at once It must m be slowly and pa patiently patiently patiently pa- pa nurtured a and d it should never be discarded as a failure until a ah al its possibilities possibilities pos pos- have been exhausted Our national mania for speed is also evidenced in our Impatience over long engagements Many a marriage would not be consummated if the people only gave themselves more time Yet when the a average young oung man and woman marry what do they know of each other others background habits tastes and disposition disposition disposition tion What do they know of each other others adaptability and interests Or of the J family Practically nothing I think there is much to be said for the English and ancl European idea |