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Show Wife Belittles Husband, and Boosts-Self By BETTY BLAIR Th wlf who complains to othr people about her husband not only llmlti him to th nu of such complaint! com-plaint! In th eye! of others but brand! herself by her criticisms. Dear Miss Blair: I'm putting it up to you: I am very much Interested in th happiness of a married couple that seems to be on the wane. They have two growlng-up child- Heart's Haven ren. Tha husband Is a professional profes-sional man the quiet kind, whose work and personality would sell Itself, and does, considering that tha professional man In the one class the government hasn't helped to "come back." Tha wife stays at horns and engages In tha usual homemak-Ing homemak-Ing pursuits Including taking in students to room and board to help things along. Sha is an excellent excel-lent cook .and. housekeeper, but I never go ther but I wish I hadn't gon. for no sooner am I aeated than sha begin her harangue. har-angue. Belittle Huaband "My huaband simply doesn't know how to sell himself In hia buiiness. If It weren't for me I just don't know how we would get along. I buy the. clothes for tha children except thoae my lister give m that her children have outgrown. Why I even buy my own clothes. "My husband hasn't bought m a dress in flva years. No. he iin't aggressive like some men. Now I go out and make friends but not ona of them ar my husband's hus-band's clients. Ha just hasn't got 'it' or whatever It takes to build up his business." Leaves Bad Impreaalon This kind of complaining goes on and on. I'm always thankful thank-ful when I get out of th house. I always vow I'll never go again. But I get optimistic every once in awhile hoping ah will have learned better. And then I like to stay friendly for sake of her quiet husband with his dry but delicious humor, his dignity and his sure-fir diagnotis. You se he' my doctor. doc-tor. Any suggestions for th woman who juat can't refrain from taking all the credit while she runs her husband down to his best paying patients? "Friend." a Can you say to this woman one day. when she has relieved her small soul of its pent-up feelings. "My dear, the world never thinks .my more of a man. than his wife thinks. Your husband is a man of quiet dignity, yet one who has a delicious sense of humor. After all who wants a doctor who is aggressive, ag-gressive, or who engages In the nonprofessional non-professional trick of trying to sell his wares. His strength lies In the fact that his work sells on its own merits. It is you who ar doing him the injury." Smart Thing To Do And to all her talk about how hard she works and how much she does for the family you can be downright plain spoken to her and say. "So what.' Open your eyes and look about you. See how many women are doing the same thing Proud of the fact they can do it. Don't you know It s the smart thing for women today to help their husbands? hus-bands? But It isn't smart for themi to tnke all the credit. It leaves a bad impression on the listener. Instead In-stead of the listener thinking how smart you are for doing all you do. he thinks how dumb you are for telling all you tell. Change the I to "we" and see th change it makes. "Who want a doctor who Is as poor a piec of humanity aa you think your husband to be?" Ask her this and give her your opinion! ,of the man as you sea him. You! may have to get another doctor for ; telling her all this, for it takes a : large soup to profit by so much good criticism without making the on who gave it suffer soo. But wouldn't it be worth it? There are too many women who belittle their husban.la to other women. To Cool Sick Room Pear Miss Blair: We live in the country where our house is heated with coal stoves. We have sickness in th home and It seems hard to keep the sick room fresh without letting let-ting in too much cold air from open windows. Also the air gets very dry. Is there a way to purify the room and keep the air moist without doing damage to the patient? Thank you. "Mother-Nurse." a Put your windows down during the day and hang wet towel up to them This will speedily lower the temperature five or six degrees be-i sides miking the air moist and agreeable. . Charcoal la an Invaluable aid In' the sick room.. A dogen pieces the me of hasel nuts placed In a saucer and daily moistened with boiling, water, will gather many Impurities1 n the course of a week. They may! hen b burned and fresh one. put in their place. The nature of the illness should determine the use of the wet towel.. You should consult the doctor about f this. There are commercial humi-1 tlifiers now on the market that keep1 the air at a normal moistness. Per-! theVe 0Uld rath'r buy 0n of TO WASH SWANSDOHN Drar Miss Blair: Is there a way to wash swans-down swans-down without spoiling It? Thank you for the Information. "Mrs. E " j I Swish the swanjdown around gently In neutral soapsuds, rinse In water slightly soapy and when dry lit will shake out perfectly fresh. , |