Show SNOT NOT HAPPY THOUGH MARRIED PLAINT OF ONE WHO TRIED Loving Home Boy Advises in Regard to Making l Friends 1 Fond of Two Brothers Girl Hesitates To Make Up Mind By y BETTY BLAIR Thousands of couples unless family relations and divorce courts lie are not happy though married Yet here and there we run across a proud man or woman who boasts of c congenial relations mutual understanding and an phere clear of petty dust storms Their claim Is that unless persons have known congenial marriage not tasted true contentment Will some of these give us their secret Dear Miss Blair WUl you ou or some or of ers who have the secret through experience tell me how to be happy thou though h ht married I know LI r that saying is sup up r t posed to be good forLI for lor lora ear LI I I a laugh any time I ut with me iUs itis no noo o cD D Joke It would sound Fl q ern I II me utterly to foolish enumerate for forme the little things my 42 1 husband does docs that irritate me T The h c same thing is true concerning those things I do o habitually that get et on lay husbands husband's hus- hus bands band's nerves Yet maybe if I do spill them out outto to you ou get the to the problem The first fox that spoiled the grapes was vas my husbands husband's Jealousy jeal- jeal Jealousy over nothing at all allbut allbut but his very fertile imagination I couldn't even talk to a man at a party in an ordinary serious conversation con can let alone anything that had a mirthful rIng to it that I wasn't planning an affair I If our telephone e rang and I answered It and it happened to be the wrong number just the signal that I couldn't talk as my husband was there Other such ridiculoUs accusations have driven drive en me mc to set up a barrier barder of defense de de- with the highest powered mental machine guns I could em- em ploy Such a defense breeds the worst kind of feeling for the person person per per- son against whom it is employed It isn't exactly a feeling ot of hatred it is more that I 1 utterly despise the kind of mind that could think such thou thoughts One of the things my husband hates in me is m my vanity He rails every time I cast a glance at my my- self in a mirror as I pass He is always sure I 1 do it to see ee how well I look so I can make the most pleasing impression on some oth er man Then to too he insists that I am a nagger though I cant can't see it that wa way If anybody could put up with what I have to to and keep si si- well lent she would have to be bean bean an angel and Im I'm not that What do married people do who really want vant to be happy and still sUll have so many irritating things oc cur In their married lives TRIED AND AILED An honest person chalks ort off his ha- ha at as rapid arate as he is able He has a list ot of them and one by one he pays them 0 off In every persons person's nature there are arc liabilities as well as assets Most ot of us are more familiar with our assets than WI we are with our liabilities But it would be a good plan for everyone occasionally to take a personal inventory and make a list ot of both Why dont don't you get down to brass tacks VitI your husband on this very plan Suggest to him that each take inventory ot of himself that the lists be exchanged and a mark placed Ope op the character traits or habits that arc most annoying to the other The mark is sufficient There need be no discussion about each others other's faults as that leads to dan dangerous erous ground It must be understood that for every ever undesirable trait marked there will be an effort eUort made to overcome over over- come it Then instead of at placing la mark by bythe bythe the commendable traits let each cach pay the other a real compliment in regard to them For example you might say sayto sayto to your husband One thing I have alwa always s 's particularly liked about you ou ouis is your personal neatness The way you put your things in their place when you take them oft off the order of your chiffonier drawers and closet your immaculateness about your own person Im I'm sure Sf If you pay each other tribUte tribute trib- trib ute for tor the admirable traits and try harder to overcome those that disrupt the marital atmosphere you ou may find the realization of the phrase Happy though married Shall bl be glad to hear from experienced readers REPLY TO CORRESPONDENT Dear Miss Blair Here is rny my contribution to your our column and it is addressed to our friend Discouraged In Men After reading your our letter in Miss Blairs Blair's column I think it is proper to tell you where you are wrong about us Salt Lakers You a mistake by judging all boys from the few who make makeup makeup up ones one's friends There are arc as many loving home boys in Salt SaIl Lake as there are anywhere In- In order In-order to increase your circle of acquaintances why not try going to church and mIxing in with the socials and clubs that are common in churches I do not mean mean to say that all loving home boys go to church but meeting people who do go there helps a lot in your dark days The crowd with which I 1 go varies in age from 17 to 20 We dance hike swim have parties but d not go in for necking or petting We cant can't be the only crowd in town looking for enjoyment enjoy enjoy- ment minus the necking and pet tinge ting So I suggest that you just keep on looking Im I'm sure you will wUl find ind the kind of young whose ideals are arc like yoUr own ONE Municipal tennis courts church I 1 business girls girls' clubs are arc a few of the places where young oung people meet to become ac But one does docs have to make mak the effort t to enlarge ones one's l. l ance Groups always arc being en urged laried opportunities arl arise Letters questions and reQuests re re- Quests for advice should be ad dressed to MISS BET BETTY T Y BLAIR BLAm HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT L LAKE A K B. B Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is necessary that you append append ap- ap pend the right name and address address ad- ad dress but these will be held In strict confidence and will nut appear in prInt Questions involving involving in- in advertising Information annot be answered to meet new people providing one is determined not to sit at home and walt wait DEMANDS EXCLUSIVE RIGHTS Dear Miss Blair I L have been goIng with a boy boyone boyone one year older than myself off and on for some time I also have been going out with other bo boys s 's sand and occasionally with the first boys boy's who is three years older than I. I Now the younger brother is demanding I make up my mind whether I 1 to go with him alone or go with all these boys bos He says he wont won't go with me j if keep on go going ng with all these others too I think I like th the older brother better than the younger but he hasn't asked me to go steady though I have been hoping he would it if I kept on going out with him occasionally a little longer But I dont don't want to lose the younger brother i if I cant can't go with the older as I like him better than the other boys with whom I 1 go Please tell me what to do ANXIOUS It seems to me mc judging from what you ou tell me of the demand made by bythe bythe the younger brother that he means business and you have no alternative but to decide at once whether to give him up or give up all the others You must then decision our known to th the other boys Their reaction should tell you something of their real feeling toward you ou If you learn then that the older brother likes you ou well enough to want to go With you rou and with no other girl and you ou are arc sure you feel the same way toward him the thing to do is to be honest about it with the younger oun er brother and let him know exactly what the situa situa- tion Is |