Show r HUSBAND IS TORTURED BY THOUGHT WIFE HASi HAS i NEVER REALLY LOVED Love May Hibernate in Absence Much in the tile Way lay Some Animals Do in Winter linter as Tests Test Often ri J Prove Admiration Expressed J By BETTY BLAIR There is no infallible test for love Husbands and wives 1 often pretend a love for each other for a lifetime and often deceive themselves when the that hold them toI together to to- to I gether are tenderness loyalty conscientiousness and human dignity Often this relationship brings a greater degree of p peaceful happiness than any other 1 Dear Miss Blair It Is it possible for a mans man's wife wiCe to successfully pretend a love for him that she does docs not and never has really felt I Il l i have eb been marI married mar mar- r 1 11 II I fl ned ried to the dearest dear dear- f i R 14 cst est sweetest woman wor woI wo wo- wo- wo r man for lor fifteen I I I years ears Even be be- beJ beI before J I Ir I I fore marriage r II RI felt that she did 1111 LI N I I j not wholly love lovet t Ii I me She thought she did and had 1 I j no love v for another an an- H I other roan man i so i I II J I risked being happy hap hap- r I py with nero her i j I r I have been happy and I think 1 the she has been too but there thee has f. f always been that torturing doubt r with me rue that she did not really know what love meant Recently we were visited by a friend of m my early youth who was a guest in our home for two t weeks I have never seen such suchA that A change in a woman as which came over my wife during i th that t. time Her eyes sparkled her skin took on a new glow she seemed to radiate a special vibrant vibrant vi vibrant vi- vi brant quality at meal time or or ori i whenever she was in the comil company com com- pany of my friend I could see il that he too admired her great great- 1 ly 1 I know that no word passed between them concerning this feeling yet when their eyes m met t I there seemed to be an electric current in ITt action which even I I- I could feel fed t When my friend left et us heI he I warmly complimented me on 1 f having won such a gem for lor a aJ aI J I wife wile He himself is unmarried t He lie and I are 37 years ears old my Wife Is 34 31 i I have not spoken to my y wife r of this knowledge I have that she zhe he could probably have loved my ray friend with a great love which she has never felt for me I 1 couldn't speak of it the thought Please tortures me too much answer the question I have asked inthe beginning of my letter THE HUSBAND 4 Haven't you answered your own when in all aU sincerity you you any aay ay that you have haye been happy Man Many women never never having known a great physical attraction coupled with the quality of ot their love are therefore apt not to be aware that they haven't tasted all that love has hasto hasto to offer They give themselves to tol their household duties their outside work the welfare of their husbands and nd children and Sand in all sincerity fill their lives with service of so great a quality that they feel no lack Or if iC they do they lay it to the divine huan human hu hUe hu- hu discontent that possesses every man an heart heartt t I 1 should not let this matter worry me You are happy with your our wife wire c she Ehe has found happiness with you I Perhaps ps she has not known great I heigts or depths of the exaltation of i love and its a adverse verse quality Her life has run on a more sure and unwavering unwavering un un- un w wavering level but after all that level has been more sparing to her herI I nerves terves and nd her emotional em output 1 And you may be al altogether mistaken e en bout about the quality of the emotion that t at was exchanged by glance only I between your wife and your our friend L have ave been the spark that sets aflame ame physical attraction and have none none of the deep spiritual quality sty ity of love that you two have experienced together in these past 15 years M Marriage or or companionship with nothing but physical attraction as its base fease ase ends in lit n tragedy Rout these torturing thoughts from our f mind mindL Take your happiness as Letters questions and requests requests requests re re- re- re quests for advice should be addressed ad ad- dressed to MISS BET BETTY T Y BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT L LAKE A K E. E Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is necessary that you append ap ape ap- ap pend the right name and address address address ad ad- dress but these will be held in ia strict confidence and will nut appear In print Questions Involving involving involving In in- advertising information cannot be answered I you ou have it and thank all the gods I there are that you ou have so much CORRESPONDENCE CORRESPONDENCE WAVERS Dear Miss Blair I was vas practically engaged to a aboy aboy boy before he left for lor his mission mission mis mis- sio sion and during the first year of his absence we kept up a regular correspondence with each other Since Christmas though our correspondence correspondence correspondence cor cor- has grown so much less that it has almost ceased all all' al al- al- al l' l together I cant can't really tell whether the fault is his or mine or whether we are both to blame There doesn't seem to be much going Joing on here for tor me to write about and I guess he feels the same way about things there Anyway Anyway Any Any- way the spirit has gone out of our letters The last few I have received from him have been nothing but a bare statement of cold facts Mine to him haven't been any better Do you think Miss Blair that out love for each cach other is fading out I go out with other boys and have a good time but there is no one I think as much of asI as asI asI I did of this boy before he went away away Do you think that maybe he has found a girl over there whom he thinks in his heart will make him happier than I would I know missionaries arent aren't al allowed allowed al al- lowed to keep company with or make love to girls but still they cant can't help the natural feeling that comes into their hearts and after alter they come home some of them send back for girls they have converted or met in the mission field and marry them I dont don't even understand my ray myown own feeling eeling in regard to this boy poy Maybe you can help me uw WANTA BE It isn't possible for love to stay on the same level even with the loved one present much less when he lie is absent over a long period of time It Itis Itis Itis is my opinion that the love between you ou two is just taking a recess and that when your missionary bo boy comes home the renewal of personality person contacts will put love back to regular school again Continue to have a good time with the young people with whom you associate as soc ate and dont don't worry about this young man falling in love with a girl while while- on his mission Missionaries I have other things to do dp than fall in inlove inlove inlove love and for every missionary who marries a girl he has met inthe mission mission mis mis- i sion field there are possibly twenty girls at home who marry before the missionary returns This is not a hint for tor you to go and do likewise It comes more in the form o of a warn warn- ing TRIBUTE TO WIFE WIPE Dear Miss Blair I happen to be working in the same place as is the wife of the theman theman theman man concerning whom a young girl wrote you not so long ago I cant can't understand how any girl could get a thrill from rom an affair that has hurt someone else so deeply This mans man's wife Is the sweetest most capable girl with whom I have ever had the pleasure pleas pleas- ure tire to associate From her attitude attitude attitude atti atti- tude you would never surmise she he has had an experience that has hurt her so much She does not know that I am aware of her sorrow She has made the remark that her past is just a pleasant memory I think her philosophy of life is beautiful She lives it as she gives all aU that is the best in her herto herto herto to the wonderful work she i. i is do do- ing lag I hope some day she may maybe maybe maybe be rewarded for her contribution to humanity I am sure her husband hus bus band Is Ls the sort of ot man who hides behind his wife's skirts when he tells the other woman that his wife refuses to give him hUn hima hUna a divorce ADMIRER It must be a great consolation to the he wife to know that she has loyal friends After all perhaps she has found far greater happiness and peace than she ever knew with the theand kind and of man she had and still has legally for a husband |