Show t I c BETTY BLAIR l IL ri and questions for the department should b be addressed to Miss Miss k Salt Lake fair Hearts Heart's Haven Telegram Write only on one side 1 l pe r. r It IS append your name and address ss but these I in and will net be pUblished Lost and found notices e published In the column I R OTHER MOTHER PROBLEM s II blonde 18 years ting to join your corner TV ry interesting I have haver 1 r two on wh which h I should opinion The your t term rm will be my last year ch ol I have many things like to do My viII hardly pay any atten atten- I speak of certain After my senior senior year I It t ke e to take up nursing or Mother thinks them k It ing in interest She wants I believe 11 l his s been overrun Mother t t get along very well and andt andl t l far as our discussion goes t sent I am working Satur- Satur after lafter school hours in in the theoffice office I Ido do not like it here er does but I do not care h ere ere in M M- M all sum sum- think it would pay 7 iy my work here or ort It t 1 place and try to tok k 1 IL l d n a beauty shop last endl endi have a chance to go got t in inThe The shop is in ine t e it much better than here itris not much larger As school chool is out I shall work t in ints the office offic if I stay here Itri and I can cant t be home toS to- to S until she starts i g. g I am not at all quick quick- ut it makes me feel tel ter n keeps after me she does not want d her In fact I know she 1 She tIShe told me last year I any time I wanted to I tell me your opinion 1 au stay in M M- M with I d do not have to j ar as that goes only that nd I cant can't get along and f ways ays aa saying ing what she has me e I know she has done ri I appreciate it I love 5 spite of everything and t her through thick and andl l ces and I go to all the theall e all kInds of athletics t year in nigh high thool I play arid go in for track and andI ts Mother does not like liked d does es not like to have me She doesn't want I I do not see thiS so GO long as a girl Of course I believe In r n nd not in sitting back say Blondes never They ey are the kick of the are four blondes In lilLand we admit we cant can't unless the four blondes ui Ii Ide do not like to see girls 1 Ido do not think it a bit disgusts disgusts' me but tell me ii girls who drink drinkle l.-feyer l. le r and funny and tell l z- z about it 1 n question I have F to marry ut have s J do not care to marry L consider 18 quite too t. t narry aEry Do you There is j would marry tomorrow f older and had an HELP US Idaho I i in h r last ast year at high dAto 8 to Know a good deal deals I s self about lt about her hel physIcal lih alth at this th's of b pout t the quality oj of her ut th the necessIty of Pg pi in tire the face unemotional standpoInt In the schools cp em girls and boys and andi i at an is known me-In me this particular t l which there might J al understandIng j s a every VeTY normal healthy girl Is passIng through stage e o ot restlessness f. f YOU are t alUme In your our me life when d Ito exactly like all J 3 IrIs in Tour OUr crowd to do s. Ing-s. to h have ve your family Now ow comes the Iou I abhor common 0 I tastes In anything You do not want to be a stenographer because so fOO many other girls are I and no doubt you are right right- you ou do not want to stay IH home me with your our mother because you do not want to conform to the mother mother- plan And tr If mother was wise she would recognize the fact that it is your Our age e normal fine CIne and healthy I ag against whIch she Is and against all modern Ideas ot of psychology she is tryIng to make you ou fit it into the mother j If mother were wIse she would i taU talk about your our plans with you I from irom an unemotional standpoint She would councIl and advise with you Both of you ou would be able to see all the the reasons for and against you becoming a a. nurse or telegrapher all the reasons for Cor ana agaInst your our sta staying Ing at home oi 01 findIng work in some other place And mother should fInally place you ou on your own responsibility In Inthe Inthe the matter and let you ou make your own decision unemotionally knowing all the facts and vIewIng your our choice from a critical stand stand- poInt Of course yOU like to go to parties parties par par- ties and dances Ot Of course you like to play basketball and mother r should thank her luck lucky stars that you vou do It If she knew ho how well these things things done in the rig rig-ht attitude are preparing you for lor a nOrmal healthy womanhood she would not only cease her objections she would join you ou in the good times And since your moth seems to so little about adolescent youth and has therefore Imparted none of that precious preciou knowledge to you OU would you like me to name some books that both you and your mother should read I am glad that you love Iove your our mother I would for the world have you do otherwise It is perhaps not all your mothers mother's fault that she doesn't know lenow mOre about her own child You and she together to- to I gether could have such joll jolly times it If y you u could only come to this mutual mutual mu- mu understandIng understandIng- of each other I others Mothers have an age too that their daughters should understand When daughters and mothers learn to be considerate of the physical and mental attitude that attach themselves to the age of the other there will wilI not be this bickering and unhappiness s to be found at home These are the books I would have ha you read Ruth Talks It Over by Vincent is a book rot tor high school and college girls Child Versus Parent by S. S S S. S Wise VIse is a book that deals deaIs excellently with the problems of toda today Almost a Woman Wo- Wo man manby by Mary Wood Allen The Winnifred Adolescent GIrl by Richmond is written especially for mothers Little LittIG Essays of Love and Virtue by Havelock Ems Ellis U books ira are obtainable ble a at our r I U ovil public library Most of the book shops in Salt Lake have lena lena- ing libraries Tf If you will locate them through h the advertising pages of The Telegram we feel sure at will be made to put such books on the let IeT lists Ve e know we eve could create a great demand demand de- de mand for them once they were ere there As to whether or not you ou should marry at at 18 8 years depends largely upon your preparation for marriage SinCe you are in nd feel the I nee nee of more education we are quite sure you OU should not marrY so young But we are hoping you will wilI be able to make much of the next few years In preparation tar tor the momentous entrY into marriage Our bEst wishes for your experIment expert expert- ment in the daughter mother acquaintanceship acquaintanceship ac- ac problem CRITICIZES CORRESPONDENTS Dear Miss Blair I do get a lot of ideas from your corner but some of the letters you receive makes one want to do something something some some- thing to help the poor ignorant souls who compose them I do not mean that I am overly equipped I h SERVicE SERVICE STAR ASSISTANT ASSISTANT- MRS 1 ROBERT T EPPERSON in iii ch ref refresh refresh- esh- esh ment committee for the bridge tea lea to b be given Thursday Thursday Thurs Thurs- day bY the Service Star legion fe 4 Mt- y f 4 A e e t I t J S. S S S S. S 11 1 S S S I S. S S 5 S 7 S S. S S S t S with what it is 5 that the Ick blOt bit certainly a common sense IS necessary The three married brothers who wrote about their love for other oth oth- er Cr women can not be very bright You'd think they'd be ashamed to tell everybody what fools they are And again these superstitious they people dont don't look very far do they I know a woman who is so superstitious she is ridiculous yet she is supposed to be a learned woman American schools do not teach such stuff duff Rather they trY to drill it out of mind I would suggest that when possible peo pie with such American un-American ideas buy a ticket to the movie We Americans The part that impressed impressed im- im pressed me is whore where the girl tells her parents You are still living in inthe inthe the old country and I am living in America There are so many old country people who make their living living liv- liv ing ing in our country and still live live- in in their minds minds-in the old country Miss Blair will you tell teli me what place nut butter takes as a substitute substitute sub sub- for butter Is it as good for one and is it too greasy for bad stomachs Thank you S DIMPLES Ye We do no not ourselves approach the letters Jetters people wIth the same of view with which you ou view them D Dimples Problems are pr 1 hether couch d In inthe the most mOEt flowery of language or orin orin in the plain sImple vernacular of the sender And It Is the content of the letter from the point of view of subject matter wIth which we weare weare are are most interested The men who wrote telling of f their heart pr problems lems were fully justified In doing so 50 There comes a time In the lives or of most of us when we lack common sense and go good d judgment whets when we weare weare are unable fo look at thIngs from froma a rati rational naI point Of f vIew It Is just justat at this particular time that we feel the need of a confidant and or er Or not the advice receIved Is I good or Is followed there comes I in the mere telling We Ve do donot not in any sense censure the senders send send- I ers ol of letters for the Information which they impart SometImes the letters of one helps others to make decisions on their problems In fact it Is for this reeson that hearts heart's Haven exIsts to help clear up UI th the problems in the mInds of its readers read read- ers era regardless of what they are As to your second suggestion it itIs Is Ig quite true that people comIng to America from foreIgn lands ao not In some cases themselves themselves them them- selves fully to the customs of Americans Yet place yourself In their posItIon Suppose you had lIved In America to maturity and were sUddenly transplanted let us say to Czechoslovakia do you think it would be an easy matter to adopt all at once the language manners and traditions of these I I countrymen men Do let us u ube be tolerant and helpful instead of oC destructively I. I B Dy nut butter do you OU mean peanut butter If so 50 dIeticians tell tellus us s that peanut butter should not be used as a substitute for dairy b It has much greater percentage percentage per per- of fat and should be used sparingly and with green vegetables vege- vege tables and fruits when used at all DEMPSEY AND TUNNEY S. S NATIONALITY Dear Miss Blair A and I are having a disagreement disagree ment regarding Jack Dempsey and his nationality Will you please settie set set- tie it for us A says Jack is isa a Greek I say lie he is not Also where was he born and is Dempsey his right name Will you also tell us Gene Tunney's nationality M. M R R. Denver John harrison Dempsey otherwIse otherwise other other- wIse Jack Jacl is an American born of AmErican parents at Manassa Cob Colo June Juile 24 1895 Dempsey is hIs rIght name Salt Lake was long hIs home Gene Tunney is also a dyed dyed- wool the in wool the American born In New York City May 25 5 1898 S I THRILLED WITH FILM Dear Miss Blair I I never knew how difficult it was to begin a letter to person as you My English teacher says it is absolutely wrong to start with I Inow 1 now take my pen to write you a afew afew few lines so I will go o straight to the point I have been to see All Faces West and was quite thrilled I saw many of the scenes filmed perhaps that is why I am so inter inter- ested Will you please give me Marie Prevost's and Ben Lyons Lyon's address Wishing you loads of success MORMON GIRL Your English teacher was rIght Mormon GIrl and I shall shaH also obey her edict and conic come to the poInt Address Marie Prevost Producers Pro Pro- and DIstrIbutors Do De Mille Studios Culver Cit City Cat Cal and Ben Lyon at FIrst National Studios Burbank Cat Cal We are are glad gIad you lIked the picture parts of which you saw in the makIng WANTS SONG WEARY RIVER Dear Miss Blair S SI I have come to you again for help and I hope I am welcome This is ismy ismy my question How much would it cost me to write to Richard Barthelmess Bar Bar- and ask him if hed he'd send me the song he composed and sang sangin sangin in Weary River The song is also called We Weary ry River Also will you tell me the nationality of Richard Richard Rich Rich- ard Barthelmess I thank you and wish you heaps of good luck WEARY RIVER It would cost you n nothing thing at all to write to Richard Barthelmess about the song song- Weary Veary RIver But why go to all that trouble troubIe when hen It may b be had at almost any bool shop for 25 c cents Richard Batt l- l mess did not compose this song h he does not even sing it In talkies Ills double behInd the scenes Is singing It for hIm but that should not make make- you ou lIke the picture pIc pic- ture the less for tor that is an AmerIcan having been born In New York City Thank you ou for Cor the wIsh and come again ETIQUETTE PROBLEMS PROBLEMS- Dear Miss Blair The other evening after my boy friend came I found I had to place a long distance call He insisted on taking me to the corner drug store where there was a coin box He asked me who it was I wanted to call went into the booth paid the charges and got my party on n the much line to my embarrass ment Not knowing him very well I was puzzled about what to do whether to offer to pay him or or not What should I have done Another question When you are invited to a party and meet ne new people how are you to treat them when leaving I want to say Miss Blair that I find much enjoyment enjoyment enjoy enjoy- ment in your column FONTANIA It Is much less customary custom custom- ar ary than It used to be for gentlemen to pay a l ladys lady's dys dy's wa way are ae ladles considered to be so helpless as formerly And friend was no doubt prompted by the kIndlIest kInd kInd- heat lIest motives It was not at all to be expected that he should call caU your our number or pa pay the fee At least you ou should have been ready with the change sInce Jt It was necessary for tor yOU to make this errand while he was present If he then ct d d. d to your our pa paying Ing all you could do to avoId a scene would be to a gracefully and gratefully Such occasions oe- oe are no d dOubt as embar as arsing ars- ars ing to a young man with whom one is little acquaInted and who Is himS him him- S self seIf unused to the Idea that S gIrls expect to pay all incidental expenses as to the young lady If Ifa ifa a young oung man you ou to go to the to-the the theatre or to a movIe or a dan dane dance e naturally he expects to pa pay car car- carfare fare and ticket expense but if the two of you ou happen to board the same sanie street car at an ally time whets he is not accompanyIng you as an es escort ort it Is 15 not to be expected that he wIll pay your fare ot it if you OU should go shoppIng and shop to bu buy flowers or other Incidentals that lie he should pay for these S Then taking leave of peo people Ie whom you have just met you should express pleasure at havIng met them and add the hope that you may see see oath each other agaIn under unde-r some such delIghtful cIrcumstance as that of the present afternoon COSTUMES FOR QUARTET QUARTE Dear Miu Blair Many of my problems have been solved by the aid of your column and I thank you for the same May MayI I now make application for membership mom mom- into your corner Please help me to suggest a name for our mate male quartet by publishing some names And will you also add a suggestion as to a comely costume for its members Thanking you THE IM f Names Kames derived from four which comprise the parts of your quartet and which might mig be used as titles are Tetrad Tetragon Quaternion Names with musical meanIngs from which you might also aIso choose are Terpsichorean rean Lydian MadrIgal Ariette Canticle PIbroch |