Show Your Marriage Wedding Band Unconventional For Male Dont Force Him By y Samuel G G. G an and Esther B. B Kling Dear Mr and Mrs Kling I My Iy fiance and I expect to get married next month and already eve weve quarreled I want ant a double- double ring ceremony and he thinks the thc idea is silly Ive I've tried to point out that theres there's just as much reason for a man to wear a wedding band bandas band bandas as there is for a woman I In fact I dont don't see why a woman should advertise the fact that she's married while the man refuses to wear ear the symbol It seems to me that if more men did didear wear ear wedding rings they would be beless beless beless less prey for designing ning women Do you think Im I'm being unreasonable unreasonable unreasonable unreason unreason- able Its It's a n Custom Answer Y Yes e s. s Theoretically youre you're perfectly right in saying I that a man should wear a wedding wedding- band But from time immemorial wedding rings ha have hae e been worn al almost almost almost al- al most exclusively by wives That's been the custom To expect your husband to be conspicuous by wearing a wedding band when the vast cist majority of married men dont don't dontis is unreasonable His friends may think for example ex ex- ample that hes he's being being- henpecked into wearing one and your husband may become the butt of their ridicule ridicule ridicule ridi ridi- cule and derision something were we're sure you dont don't want ant to happen As for your point that husbands would be more faithful if they wore wedding rings we dont don't think its it's well taken A married man interested interested inter inter- ested in dating another woman oman certainly certainly wont won't be deterred by his wedding band Hell He'll simply remove remo I it and pretend hes he's single On the other hand a husband who's hos in rn love with Ith his wife isn't going to become unfaithful merely because he ho doesn't wear a ring So stop making a mountain out of a molehill by insisting that your husband hus bus hand band wear something something- that few other men have ever worn vorn Dear Mr Ir and Mrs Kling My Iy husband died about eight months ago leavin leaving me with two children Two months ago I 1 met meta I a man whom I love lo and respect I very cry much and were we're both hoth anxious to lo get et married as soon as possible My Ms Iv friends and relatives tell me h however that I would be showing showing showing show show- ing disrespect for the memory of my 01 husband if I remarry before the year of mourning is over o So far as Im I'm concerned I J dont don't think I would be showing an any such were I to marry now I I loved my mv husband very much and feel certain that he would have urged me to ta take e the step especially especially especially espe espe- since I find it rather difficult to support my two youngsters What do you think Dont Don't Det Defy Convention Answer We Ve think your our friends are arc right In the first place there's theres an unwritten rule which expects the surviving suni mate to wait vait at least leasta a year before remarrying To def defy this convention would place you in an uncomfortable position position po po- not only with your friends and relatives with whom you'll probably associate after your marriage marriage marriage mar mar- but with your children as asell aswell aswell well ell especially when they grow up and begin to ask questions In the second place the fact that you have known n this tins man for only two months indicates the feeling may be more infatuation than love I or that youre you're rationalizing your our desire for economic security by making yourself believe youre you're i violently in love For all we know the emotion may be quite genuine g-enuine but only time say a period of six FIX months will tell Finally if your friend is as much in love with ith you as you seem to think he hc wont won't insist that you marry him at once Actually hell he'll have ha havea a a great deal more respect for you if you wait ait All AlI m in all therefore we think you would do well to postpone the wedding If youve you've managed to support your family thus far you youcan youcan youcan can certainly manage for another few months |