Show I Your Marriage Disagreement in One Ore Factor Can Wreck Whole Marriage Mab e By Samuel G G. G and Esther B B. B Kling Q On what three levels must there be harmony if a marriage is isto isto isto I to be happy I A. A The spiritual the intellectual and the physical These three are areso areso I so closely interwoven that maladjustment maladjustment maladjustment malad malad- on one level usually affects affects affects af af- the others as well weB so that the entire relationship suffers II For harmony on the spiritual level a ht husband and wife must I share their hopes and dreams dreams- the th ambitions and ideals When i these are similar the mates are I closest spiritually But where differences differences differences dif dif- dif dif- exist there can still be unity if the partners respect each others other's outlook and make the necessary necessary necessary essary compromises It helps heps too I if the partners share the same faith But here again where each I is tolerant of the others other's belief harmony can still prevail Intellectual companionship Is vital to the success of any mar mar- marI I This means a husband and I wife should be good friends Having Having Having Hav Hav- ing mutual tastes and interests promotes companionship but it isn't necessary or even advisable that the partners share all their interests What's important is that each show an appreciation of the theother's theother's II others other's interests and that the pair have havo some interests in common to I act as a bond between them Ulem I Be Mentally Alert IAn I 1 An active mind also helps promote promote promote pro pro- mote companionship Remaining mentally alert is usually easier for forthe forthe forthe the husband who continues to go out into the world each day while his wife stays home and c concerns herself chiefly with domestic du du- du- du ties But a woman must be careful careful careful care care- ful not to become merely a house house- keeper Once she ceases to take an intelligent interest in outside affairs affairs af af- af- af fairs she becomes a dull companion companion companion com com- panion for a man who wants someone someone someone some some- one to talk to about things other than what junior did that day or orthe orthe orthe the price of lamb chops At the thc same time a husband should show a sympathetic understanding understanding understanding under under- standing of domestic problems and lighten his wife's burden in any way he can When each partner partner partner part part- ner is ready to share the others other's interest to to lend a sympathetic I ear to the others other's problems problems and and I Ito to discuss anything of interest to the other there other there is truly an in intellectual intellectual intellectual in- in bond that draws the i pair closer together tog with the years l Physical h Harmony Q What constitutes physical harmon harmony A. A Harmony on this level will differ as ns gr greatly aUy with the individuals individuals individuals indi indi- involved as harmony on the other levels Where both partners for example example example ex ex- ample are rather indifferent to intimacy it can be said that there is harmony on this level Again where both look upon the physical as the deepest expression of their mutual love and affection and where they both obtain a sense of peace and well-being well from this I aspect of their marriage there is also harmony Unhappiness results when the partners have ha sharply different attitudes towards sex or when one finds the he relationship warding Then it is important for forthe forthe forthe the pair to get to the root of their difficulty and make the necessary adjustments For an unsatisfactory physical relationship causes dissatisfaction dissatisfaction dissatisfaction dis dis- dis- dis satisfaction and frustration and these feelings are arc reflected in the theother theother theother other aspects of marriage with unhappy and sometimes disastrous disastrous I trous results |