| Show I al alI I I f 1 ft I INTRODUCTIONS Introducing persons to each other is something l ln and de everyone one l might has haa u just to f a as do o wen well oc occasionally occasionally oc- oc do It properly Moreover this Is la a s. avery avery very g good g illustration of the h W way in i which social usage usage- la is b based on n courtesy court court- ur esy In making casual Introductions It la is lano no longer rood good o form to use the word gr ft ff present It is s too f formal for ordinary ordinary nary social relations which are far more easy and natural than they used to be Of course if you are duc- duc Ing Ing- people to a truly di distinguished man or woman you present them Mrs t As a aR Reed Heed general Mrs rule U Wallace you merely e or ey Mrs say Reed do you know Mrs Wallace or oret yet et Mrs Reed you k know Mrs Wallace Wal Wal- a lace t I t t lace dont don't t you Still another form of introduction Is Mrs Reed have have- you met Mrs Wallace It is usually taken for granted that the persons person's name you speak first is 18 the one to whom you are lre presenting presenting- the other However if you OU wish to tomake tomake tomake make this more emphatic pronounce the first name with a slight rising inflection as if you are asking a question question ques quell tion then say the second as If It maK- maK lag iner a ayl flat ir irti statement ti et If you are Introducing a man and a woman woman unless s the man is a distinguished distinguished distin distin- g shed pers person you person you merely e say Mrs Reed Mr Wallace If the man Is a personage you may add the may I I present Unless it be the president a II aking king or a n cardinal the man Is always ys the woman woman never never presented to present present pre pre- pre pre-I sent a woman to a man A young youn woman Is s always presented to an older r one and an unmarried lady to a married one unless the former former former for for- mer is much older A young man too Is always alwa's presented to an older one oneAll one oneAll All this of course is based on tn the chivalry of or men to women and on the courtesy of youth to age This same idea of idea of or courtesy dictates dictates dictates' I that men shall rise ris when a woman I enters the room or Is Introduced and remain standing until she Is seated But this does docs not mean that social usage demands absurdity If a woman comes into a large room where there are many y persons In scattered grouts groups J only T the men near her rise and wait waft for tor her to sit down It is goo g norm for a woman to torise rise and shake hands when another woman is Introduced to her particularly particularly particularly so BO when the other is older Men always rise and shake hands when the they are Introduced to one ne another nother but hyt a woman never rises when sn is Introduced to a 3 man And she need not shake hands with him unless she wishes unless Indeed he should ex extend extend extend ex- ex tend his hand when It would be very ery rude not to ar arc accept realty c W it The do only other rf time she is really expected to s shake hands with a man is when It t so ao happens happens happens hap hap- that they both have long heard pens about each other through mutual friends and the they are glad to have Jnet Otherwise when a man is presented prete pre- pre te to a woman a she merely bowsher bows bowsher h her head slightly I and n says How ao do you do whereas the tho man bows and ana says nothing There Is really re no set rule as to when a person should shake hands or how should greet another forone for forone forone one one person one never knows how different persons persons per per- sons ROns will affect each other But when you do shake hands always look into f the persons person's eyes When a little girl Irl Is Introduced to older persons she should curtsy but unless she Is very verv small for her age this custom Is not observed after atter the of eight or nine After that an anc age which Is a charming ar gesture e it In Ina a act c child becomes S i an affected te mannerIsm manner manner- e Ism PRESENTING PERSONS TO PRESIDENT T OU on CARDINAL When presenting pre resenting anyone to 10 the president resident It is custo to say Mr President I have tho the honor to o present Mr Burke of San Francisco But to the Cardinal one one says Your Tour Eminence Eminence Emin EmIn- Mr Burke ence ma may I present When you you- are presenting your daughter aughter to an older or a distinguished the form Is Mr r. r Burk my daugh daugh- daughter daughter ter man Julia or This Is my daughter Julia In case she Is married My daughter Mrs 1 Reed To another woman you say sav This is my daughter Julia M Mrs Wallace But to a a. young young- man a mother always Y Introduces her daughter daug only as My Mr Burke daughter Only one phrase is used and in acknowledging acknowledging an n introduction Introduction u o and that t Is edging edging- f sr g How ml gd do you ou do To be e pleased or delighted to meet a person happens only in rare cases where r one has been r looking forward to t the meeting t and Is glad that It it has at last been achieved i NECESSARY INTRODUCTIONS I At a formal dinner or luncheon the dinner d exa partners and ef the e s should host g must always f always r be see In Introduced introduced in- in that every gentleman either knows or orIs orIs orIs Is presented to the lady who is to sit at his s right and If possible s te to the theone theone one v a who will sit at his left at the table The same Bame applies to the two gentlemen t e e who o arc amo to be seated at A the of foet loft left and right 1 of the hostess Everyone of should always meet the guest honorA honor A small group of people who areto are areto to sit together tog at meals meas fearo cards games grames a theater or In fact on any occasion should be Introduced to te each other Pardon me but I didn't quite get Jet name Is bad form a moment your after you Ou have been Introduced Although Although Although Al Al- though it is 18 not considered good form to repeat a name when It is given all these rules rule are elastic and in cases where you especially wish to remember remember remember ber the name it is but always prefix the the repetition with theN the How do you OU do N Never ever repeat name alono as aB acknowledgment of an Introduction |
