| Show MARY HAWORTH'S MAILMan MAIL MAILMan MAILI i I Man Usurps Girls Girl's Time I Kills Affection for Him Dear Mary Haworth For several several several sev sev- eral years I have been going with n a very kind considerate man whose intentions are seri serI- ous However he allows me no free time to myself He checks on my every move from theoffice the theoffice theoff off office ce home and calls calIs every evening evening evening eve eve- ning at 8 o'clock and is very upset if it I dont don't spend every free tree afternoon with him Consequently I have a dreadful dreadful dreadful dread dread- ful feeling of being trapped I have no close friends and no notime notime notime time to spend in privacy with my family I have discussed the situation with him but to no avail He weeps threatens suicIde suicide suicide sui sui- sui- sui cide and claims to be so attached to me th that t nothing else matters Until lately I thought I was sincerely in love with him now I wonder If It is just habit May MayI I have your advice C C. R. R Dear C. C R. R Your suitor is behaving behaving behaving be be- having like a Jealous anxious blubbering Infant By psychiatric psychiatric atric definition he Is an excessively excessively excessively dependent clinging per per- Id I'd call caIl him an emotional emotional emo emo- Jellyfish He is burdening you with the hangover results of a soul crush ing brand of rearing which leaves him almost entirely without Capacity Ca- Ca capacity capacity ca ca- to think and act Hence his unconscious compulsive purpose Is s to try to solve his problem of ot what to do with himself by formulating a leechlike attachment to somebody somebody somebody some some- body else because he knows no other way to ward off oft desola desola- tion He might be able to emerge from this neurotic passivity Ithe if It he were to put his mind to the problem with specialist guidance and your former feelings for him might revive For advice Give him these remarks to ponder For his own sake its it's high time timo he re realized that his morbidly excessive demands demands demands de de- de- de mands on your attention are arc without excuse or Justification His weak tears and threats of suicide when you plead for normal normal normal nor nor- mal consideration are symptoms which call for analytic therapy not coddling sympathy If It he ever expects to know happiness hes he's go got to get himself In condition condition condition condi condi- tion to experience It In his present up mixed-up state he could not be happy In paradise M. M H. H Mary Haw Haworth 0 r t h counsels through her column not by mail mall mailor mallor or Interview Write her in care of The S Salt lt Lake rr Telegram legra |
