Show Scolding Can Ro Rob Children Of Initiative By OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON We make too much of childrens children's mistakes Children are impulsive quick to act and lack judgment So of f cou course couse se they will maKe blunders A As who doesn't A da day or so ago I heard a man who vho has done as much in a a. lifetime lifetime life life- lifeline time line as three ordinary people ex- ex exclaim claim lalm in disgust over a lazy neighbor neighbor neigh neigh- bor or At times Ive I've been a n dunce and nd at times a fool but by George Ive I've done things Lose Initiative The child who Is sewed up Ina in ina ina a poke and taught life by admonishments admonishments admon- admon will learn to peep through a hole at at life never live it And he ho will draw his protective shelter tightly around him when it is his turn urn to g get t busy and do some something hing on n his own Boys in particular have a 8 penchant penchant pen- pen chant ant for trying things they cant can't canto do o. o Most youngsters of spirit will willry try ry anything once and will know not lot to do it next time or know how low to do it better b er At any rate why do we parents jump down their heir throats throats' the way we do when the ho impulses that urge them are areno areno areno no more reprehensible half the time than ban the mistakes we we make ourselves ourselves our- our selves The difference is th that t we we judge them by adult standards in- in stead tead of natural standards of growing growing grow- grow ing ng childhood Some Scold Too Much 1 This has to be regarded as something something some- some thing hing removed from discipline and training raining which are necessary too But Jut discipline and especially training training train- train ing ng arc not made up of constant carping and criticism If it they are the he r real al thing b but t rather a persistent persistent persistent per per- and steady conditioning to morals and behavior finding Fault-finding Is s not o nl only the thc small mall end of disc died pline iline but in a dozen ways yta's may may decat defeat de- de feat cat it The child chUd who is naturally aggressive ag aggressive aggressive ag ag- and as we say say always in hot lot water vater gets gets' the feeling that he heis hes is always s in disrepute with his fam- fam ily ly He goes to sleep and gets up with the thc idea that he is a a bad boy He may be cheerful enough about It t but there is a tight place in his b body dy that nev never r goes away A sensation sen of being different from everybody everybody every every- body sody else hi In the house He couldn't tell you about it if he tried All All he knows Is that he lives in a perpetual perpetual per per- shadow of wrongness He never expects to bo be right or to be praised 1 Always Always' Have Excuses With some more sensitive or weaker willed children an attitude of excuse resul results s They her are so ac accustomed accustomed accustomed ac- ac to being blamed for everything that their excuse se is blurted out before they know just what it is they arc are blamed for Others manufacture al alibis and l learn arn to be bo v very ry very good by giving up everything including work Spirits broken or well bent they follow the theline theline theline line of least resistance and move only when compelled by stronger wills or necessity And often no not then The will wUl to do things on ones one's own responsibility Is the tho one that tha makes the most mistakes But i It Itis Itis is the one that learns that sometimes sometimes some some sometimes times makes males n. n a dunce of or himself and a fool but that some day gets things done dono and done right |