| Show PONDERS MAID MARRIAGE MAID PONDERS STUNT TO GET START I FOR HOUSEKEEPING t i i I I d g y t t ErTY BLAIR n Whether It be a stunt marri marriage ge oft r. r the he most gorgeous home wedding t to e m main miLn In thing to be bo considered L is is' the attending d details should not t obscure the spiritual values ci of the tho ur union i n. n It is these that hold hok ty t together long after the tho excitement excite excite- J ment nent e t of f the occasIon has vanished Dear Miss Blair 4 There Is a problem that has been bothering mo me quite a while hiIe X have been engaged to be married married mar mar- ried ned to a young man manfor I for nearly two years II We keep hoping IL j U that times will get better so we can canI canI U I LJ 11 I marry but they I I i dont don't seem to do so till for forus us My intended intend iD ed has a job that Nf VI I could keep us after J a fashion but neither neith neith- cr er of ot us has anything any any- thing with which to 1 1 a accumulate c cum u I ate the things two people need to start out GUt My friends have told me I would make a very pretty bride and that I- I should look for for- fora a chance for a public wedding such as was re recently recently re- re performed at a dance halt halL My young man and I witnessed that wedding and wished we had been the tho lucky ones to receive all the gifts and get such puch la a good tart Yet after fter we went home borne and thought it if over we decided wed we'd ed ather Bather wait walt until we could get things by our pur own efforts than to stand before a curious public for the Important step of our Jives ives But we vc have to wait and w it and waiting seems so Jong long hat do you think about these stunt marriages anyway Miss Blair Do you think we are being squeamish about them or should we we seek an opportunity to tobe tobe tobe be the prin principal actors in such marriage S Some me friends of my sweeties were married back east at a a big automobile show and were even automobile their gIven an among many other gifts It certainly makes me wonder If it Im I'm not too sensitive about these things Please advise me WAITING W It vIt would seem that two people vowing that they will wUl seek beauty goodness and happiness together should be wholly concerned with these spiritual values of their marriage mar mar- marriage on their wedding day But we doubt if they really are in any but a solemn church hurch wedding fin In the large home wedding to which hundreds of at friends have b been en invited there are so many distracting distracting dis dis- dis- dis details requiring attention how Is it possible for two young people to think about the spiritual values of th theft fit marriage at that df of the particular l r time Thed The wedding are re so speeded up as to tot t take ke precedence over Dver everything lse And certainly this is also true of the stunt wedding as you term it There ere should be no occasion in the Ufe of a man or woman comparable t 4 their marriage ge ceremony It is a time when they should look inward t e examine amine their own hearts not outward to see who is watching matching Important Value Th most important jm item to check checkla checkI I 1 la i any marriage Js is whether the two I I. I love lov each other enough and d loving have a world of common com corn mon Ion interests and understanding to jive give them a 8 fair chance at happi happi- B ness ss It is difficult to understand JJ w two p people regarding the marl marriage mar mar- l bond as something very preci pre pre- ci SI should want to expose themselves them them- selves at such a 8 time t to tb a curious p public But flut after all it is a difference of opinion that keeps this old world fpm being eing a very monotonous place and andi it is ts quite possible that the tho en- en dment nt of posse possessions s they could hot tot otherwise have had is greater for some people than their sensitiveness sensitiveness about appearing before remany re many curious people for the re reading read read- d- d lag ing of the ceremony It may also alio be possible that after the ordeal is over oyer they can still have their happiness happiness happiness happi happi- ness with th their poss possessions So after after all aliI the answer to to this problem rests with the individual whether he is is so sensitively organized organ organ- fred bed that a stunt marriage for him hm would be unthinkable You Yon Your 1 r must decide for yourself whether after su such h a marriage you could recap recapture ure all the loveliness you had hoped for in a marriage witnessed by understanding er family faintlY and friends rather than by curious observers JUNIOR PROM X BID Dear Miss Blair I am simply heartbroken because be 1 cause I didn't get a bid for the junior prom pram I have never gone gone to a a prom but I have kept think Ing all the the time that when I was wasa a junior some arrangement would be made that would let every junior jun 10 girl In on the on the good time tune with without without out embarrassment But Friday night Is the prom night and I will not be there I have even even gone so 50 f far r as to buy myself a anew anew anew new evening ening dress In the hope I might have a a chance to use it To Today ay I Ishall shall wrap wrap it up p and send it back to the store Why oh oh why couldn't some somo nice nico boy have asked me mo for this date I. I have kept my feelings to myself for so long now I have havo to let them out ut to somebody I have n never ver wanted to todo d anything so 80 o badin my life by the tho time you receive this letter it will vill be too oo late for you to do anything about helping me inc to solve my problem of ot unpopularity unpopular unpopular- ity for tor this particular occasion But is there any hope for me wh whatever for the rest of ot my my life Ufe HOPELESS I feel feet like scolding you instead of ot sympathizing with you Why didn't you come earlier with your p problem m or dr take It to your dean of women or one of tho the girls' girls organizations at the university in time to receive help If I had wanted t to todo do something as much as you wanted want want- ed to go to this prom I would have got down on my knees an and said toa to toa toa a boy I liked whom I w was s sure couldn't t afford t to g ko go Both OUI of ot of ps us want to go go to this prom Ill I'll furnish fur furnish nish the ti ticket ke if you'll furnish nish your presence as an escort ButI doubt if it I could have wanted to go that bad and I doubt if you would either ither Thero Thera are more subtle ways of ot ac ae- ac- ac the results without that drastic action Perhaps youre you're one who cant can't learn or r wont won't rise to subtlety because because because be be- cause some people call stooping lt I yo your r only hope hope- lies through r ug achievement l People eople falsify when they say a girls girl's happiest years years years' are during the time she is in college A girls girl's happiest years are are realized during the time she is beginning to discover her real through actual achievement a And if you ar arc aro ambi there ls is no age age limit at which h these happiest years may moy riot not be attained I hope to be still stUl looking for mine the other side of ot 60 Stop moaning about ithe the pres ent and work like anything for foz a n amore amore more promising future To A Proud Mother You write that yours is not a subject you youcan youcan youcan can discuss with a physician but neither heither may we discuss it in a public pub pub- lie lic c column lumn Your physician is really the one c to whom you should go Either h he or an ari expert masseuse e. e Gr Great at damage has been done to very very sensitive glands b by improper treatment treat treat- ment Only a c competent physician or a n. trained masseuse is able ablo to do this It Ismore than a n mere beauty problem Y Your ur weight problem maybe may maybe maybe be controlled by regular exercise trunk trunk bending bending and stretching swimming swimming swimming swim swim- II ming and brisk walking REMOVING REl SPOTS Dear Miss Blair In rinsing my clothes I put them all in the clothes lothes' basket together and nd a dress I had not tested for lor color faded on three of my husbands husband's best shirts One is gray and the other two white Is there any possible way of ot re re- re moving the spots Thank you I WORRIED Any bleach that will remove the spots from c colored lored m material will also quite likely remove the col color r of the material itself There are arc different methods for tor removing different dif dlf- ferent kinds of at dyes and an expert must know the tho kind of t dye to be removed before betor promising results It Is for tor this reason reason that I recommend recommend recommend mend that you turn th the job overto the professional cleaners However if you wish to experiment try javelle ja- ja veils velle water a ac to the InstructIons in instructions instructions In- In on the bottle or of or soak for fora forn a n short time in solution of hydrogen hydro peroxide Or r you might try lemon lemo juice and arid salt and the strong rays of ot the sun if you ou can can find them 1 |
