Show Frustration Sends Child I In n Tantrum By OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON Possibly no problem in child child- management has been more discussed discussed dis- dis cussed than the tantrum Many parents however continue to regard regard re- re gard ard it as something abnormal The tantrum is not abnormal Itis It ItIs Its is s merely anger generated by frus- frus ration If this is abnormal then then all 11 of us arc queer What That da day passes i without some form of rage besetting us us' us We Ve may not turn blue hold our breath reath or lie screeching on the floor but jut we lose our appetites or get a headache or swear according to our pattern attern The tantrum is rage expressed in inthe inthe he the the childs child's pattern Maybe he has been een over-indulged over or his natural instincts to play or acquire have been cen too persistently thwarted but there lere is a cause be sure In some children hildren the cause may be be V very slight light once he is set in his habit habitAt At any rate he explodes He cannot annot taUt talk himself into getting his way ay so he stages it Tiny children like ike man many older ones too are not lawyers They arc are not articulate which means lack of power to put your our case They have no silver silver- tongued terms to justify what hat they deem their An Anger er Deli Delights Mothers today know pretty well how low to deal with the tantrum child for or the moment They let him lone alone den deny the prize he is working for or and even resort to the faint cure ure cold water suddenly applied But Jut usually the holder breath-holder comes to o very nicely when he finds himself ne neglected It is true that many tots never get over ver the tantrum habit Long after they icy cease to be toddlers they continue con- con continue to stage outrageous scenes It is also a fact that many of those hose who appear to be cured arc not ot cured at all but have merel merely changed hanged tactics It is interesting to speculate on the he number of people in the world who vho are arc entirely governed by anger Anger is a perfectly delightful emotion emo- emo emotion tion on whether we think so 50 or not Ve We love lovo to be good and mad at everything and everybody Sometimes Sometimes Some- Some times mes we are justified because righteous rage has a place But the habits of hate jealousy chip- chip carrying all blood brothers of rage are re different We Vc could discard them hem if we would but we love them so o we hang on Any psychologist V can an tell us us s that hat Revamping Rc But unlike joy or calm content anger nger leaves a a. trail of misery in broken health thin nerves and V other ther things It never pa pays g Self- Self VV V control does docs not mean merely holding holding hold- hold V ing ng in That does not remove the tho I emotion motion itself Real self-control self isa is a a. long hard business to acquire consisting of ot quick substitution of V another nother thought as quickly ns as possible pos- pos V sible ble ible and a new outlook that will eventually weaken the anger com com- plex The Tho tantrum child should not be merely neglected when ho he has his V spasms His whole routine of life may my need revamping Perhaps if it he le is kept busier he will sweeten up V Perhaps he needs to be put out V more lore Regularity of VV V hours ma may change lange the tho picture Maybe there theres I is s a teaser in the house But in inome some ome manner or other studied out by y the mother he needs to have his V rage habit undermined The real cure uro depends on discovering the cause f if |