| Show Wj r 0 Dt M F E E ENT t IN ADOLESCENTS 5 t t- t p IS PRONOUNCED By BETTY BEIT BLAIR In n mating g three ages should be considered the chronological bia biological bio bio- J logical l' l and intellectual Intellect al As a rule and up to a certain point in their biological l i gi al development girls ma mature ur more more rapidly than do boys boye But Buty y t this l Is Is' n not t true of ol their merit mental l development t. de Df Dp r it I am th ni the only girl in my family although I have MX Ix brothers For six months I have been going with a p. ayoUng ayoung young man 23 years of cl age He Ic has asked me to togo go steady with him andas and sad andas sadas as I Ism Iam am only 17 year old I don't dont know h how w to approach my mother on the subject ct to get her opinion Via Im Im I'm afraid V me doesn't he doesn't approve or ox him although 1 she ahe treats him hirn very well I dont don't think she slie would want me to go man Insists that I accept nn AU engagement ring for tor Christmas I would like Ulce It very much I go to his home often and his family treats me Just grand and as ILS If I 1 were a member ot the family I 1 think my mother Is 15 Jealous of ot their love for tor me What hall ahall shallI I 1 do What shan shall I say to him How shall I tell my mother and when lien M R. R It Is very evident from your letter let- let ter that you are not in love with I this y young ong man who is six years your senior and that it is the possession possession possession pos pos- session of the ring rather than what it stands for that interests you mainly And all aU that is to be expected expected ex ex- in fn a girl of 17 but such uch childish emotions do not make for happiness in married life Say to the young man that you arc too young either to go steady or orto orto ort t to accept an e engagement ring That Thata a a. yc 17 year old old r-old girl whose physical mental and emotional life is in a condition of almost constant change can cant can't t possibly know her own mind concerning any man The reason for this is that her mind can cant can't t possibly possibly pos paz sibly be the same for any great length of DC time providing she he is living liv liv- liv ing a normal social life ute with young people her own age ge The trouble with a girl of your age going with a man six years I older is that you miss many of the steps of experience adolescents should have hae in their own natural development nent If you you had arrived at the age of 20 and you then went steady with a man of 26 26 the difference difference difference dif dif- dif dif- ference there though the same sam in years isn't nearly neary so great in other more vital matters as the the mere question of years Your mothers mother's feeling toward the young man is no doubt prompted by just such knowledge and wisdom concerning the impropriety ety of a aman aman aman man of 23 keeping steady company compan with a girl of 17 In very rare cases would that girl be his biological or I intellectual equal And in most cases where she is it is the man who has been retarded in his de development development development de- de rather than the girl who has achieved development ie be beyond beyond be- be yond her years I r think you should not delay talkIng talking talking talk talk- ing the matter over with with your I mother other She wilt will only be concerned with trying fb to s siVe e you from future unhappiness as I am Dont Don't do as ass asso asso s so many nany young girls girts are apt to do do who think the only way to learn a alesson alesson lesson Jesson is isby by their own sad and often tragic experience Remember that experience is a very expensive teacher OYSTER KNOWLEDGE KNO Dear Miss Blair In answer to the query of Mrs D. D In last Thursdays Thursday's Issue I 1 desire to advise her of the two essentials In the preparation of oyster stew namely oysters and milk She must not use any but the large fresh frying None of tho the others Irrespective f size or where they come from possess the same sarno flavor The milk mUk should be undiluted good fresh cows cow's milk that is not deprived of Its cream Too raG much seasoning spoils the fine flavor and the addition of salt and and butter Is always sufficient at the end of the simmering process TOM roM Your idea of fine oyster stew coincides with that of some of I Americas America's greatest chefs In m my reply to Mrs D. D I quoted from the composite obtained obtain d by the recent convention of these chefs NOTE TO G L. L We Ve may not publish your letter In the column Kindly send stamped self addressed envelope for reply or see any book written by an expert expert ex ex- pert on the question TEMPER LOST Dear Miss js Blair My problem Is this Last summer I Imet Imet Imet met a boy at a a. convention of whom I 1 have since become very fond On the last day of the thc convention he asked me for my address which I 1 gave him and we wo went together for about three and a half haIr months after that Ono One night when we were out I spoke quite angrily to him As we d drove v h home mc he hc gave cave my bra bracelet let back which he had token taken two weeks be be be- fore tore I knew he was through with rae so I tried to forget him but I just After three months I 1 sent hInt him hima a letter Jetter asking him to call caU In when he was near my home One Friday night he came and the same Mme night he to took k me out When he said sald goodnight he hc promised d. d he would wI call or come up the next ln Friday lay night but he didn't do either My mother and Dad both bothWe think the world of him but neither know of my trouble We both go to school but he Is first year yeu in In cOllege while I J am stilt still In high schOOl Please dont don't tell me to forget forRet him for I Just cant can't What should I do I must have havo some action i for this i Is surely getting me ii Letters LeU- questions tt and request for advice should be addressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN RAVEN THE TIlE TELEGRAM J SALT LAKE CITY Write legibly upon only one side of or tho the paper It Is Ii necessary that you append tho right nuno namo naino and address but these will be h held ld in strict confidence confidence dence and will not appear appeal in print Questions involving advertising information cannot be answered I I I down Please help me Thanks a lot JUST ANOTHER GIRL Much as s I realize how very and much I down you feel as should like to have a magic spell or a love potion to cast on wanderIng wanderIng wanderIng wander- wander Ing lovers to return them to the side of maidens who arc are eating cating their hearts out for them I just have bave to admit that I haven't those very potent powers I dont don't know how to make a boy who has fallen out of love with a girl fall faU in love again But I have ave this to console me neither docs does anybody else Of Ot course if you keep on Insisting Insisting insisting insist- insist ing to yourself that you cant can't forget forget forget for for- get this boy be sure you never canSo can So why not just make up your mineto salad mine to be a Victorian mid-Victorian lady all of whom thought it it very becoming never to forgot forget a lost Jost lover and to languish in their love Of Ot course few modern girls go in for that thai sore of thing No matter how bad they hey may feel they set out to use their heir best brand of mental h hygiene giene to effect a cure They find that by filling their lives full of at all sorts of interests sooner or later forgetfulness comes But you must make up your mind whether you want to be a Victorian lady or a a. modern miss |
