Show F h i z r MOTHER ER FIXATION f f r 1 REALIZED R EA EAL t. t L 1 BY Y BOY BOYTO tJ 01 of t. pol TO B. B BE INJURIOUS E I NJ U RIO RIO- RIOUS US 0 IP By RETrY BETTY BLAIR 0 A A mothers zealous over lo love Jove e for a son or daught daughter may beJ bea be be- J come 9 a s selfish po possessive emotion that has its o outlet in an abnor abnor- r. r 1 o- o rinal l twist w in he lives of f bo both h. h Possess Possessive ve love is contrary to the i rules rules' of mental hygiene giene and should be guarded against from its j I earliest inception f f Dear Dearl Dear Miss Blair Blair Blair- t I Z am a ft young boy In my second y ar r at high higl school and have a problem problem lem m that I have hav deeply realized for br forthe ft the tile the past pMt two years yeaTS I is Ia a widow and I an only child chUd 4 Ic She has been a widow All since I w was WM an Infant and and naturally her f whole life and thought III U Ii for tor me Quite naturally nat nat- l too I am de det devoted de- de voted to my mother It but there Is a rela- rela t that exists between Us that wor- wor me mc fL I 1 men men- tion a teacher at school la In In a favorable 1 light my my mother Im- Im mediately works u Up a prejudice against that teacher She d doesn't nt know any of ot my teachers personally 1 X have hive tried to get her herto to go to part par- par t- t teacher tnt t nt-t acher meetings to meet them but she will never do that In fact fl I I. I ahe she ties herself to our little CI ap apartment apartment apart apart- ment and to her work too closely I h hive have vc a time part Job that I am amable 11 able bIt to work worIe at and keep up my school work too But outside of 01 my school and my work mother doesn't I want went me to have any associations at all I have been Invited to a anum- anum number num nurn- ber of nice parties partie but bitt she always raises tabes obstacles obstacles' to my going She doesn't realize th that thit t I am Growing Browing Into manhood but wants wanta to keep me her herbay little boy bay under her watchful eye and 1 care eare all the time I X dont don't like any one girl at nt school I particularly but there are a number o of girls who have been very nice tome to me me They have Invited me to their homes and to parties and I guess they wonder why I always find excuses Once I went with a boy to his home and stayed for dinner I called my mother to let her know w where were ere I was but when I got home I found bound she sheB B hadn't eaten a bite and had b b n crying I was very cross with her ber herand herand and told her I couldn't always be bo tied to her apron strings Of at course this made her feel worse than ever and andI andI I I 1 couldn't get her to feeling like herself herself her her- I. I self again gain for several days It really made her lU She hasn't much conA con- con I A or faith in people Thinks Thinks most of the young people are DrO bad and that I will be contaminated by them and anet drawn away from her and tho the home What can I do to show her she Is absolutely lv wone wrong that that t may make a 1 lot of or no noise e but they arent aren't arent aren't bad and that I should be bo able to mix with them more snore freely I I am to have a a. terrible problem on my hands if I dont don't do something about it It- soon Thank you for bor any help you may give 01 STRING APRON BOOB DOOB I am so glad you are arc able abc to recOgnize recognize recognize rec rec- rec- rec your problem and have taken the first step to successfully combat combat com corn bat it by seeking outside aid In her her love for you which has grown to a very selfish possessive attachment attachment attachment attach- attach ment your mother has lost sight of your real needs You needn't think any ny the less of her for this for the circumstances of her life liCe and her lack Jack of knowledge in tl ls regard are are to blame She is sincere in m her affection for you and in wanting to shield you from what she thinks to be a wicked world But knowIng knowIng know know- Ing how mistaken n she is you must be patient in your efforts to show her the error Begin by talking daily about things that go on about you in school in the world things of ot local interest Get her mind to the point of living in the world instead of within the four walls of ot your home n Read your lessons aloud to her Read Head current events to her and discuss discuss discuss dis dis- dis- dis cuss them Let her k know by constantly constantly con con- on- on talking about it that you live in the world and must become a part of ot it if you are to exist in ina ina ina a normal way Tell her the tho herd instinct is one of the strongest of human instincts and must be lied fied or it will find an unnatural outlet Bring your friends to your home no matter how humble it is Prepare your mother for this action action action ac ac- ac- ac tion on your part but be firm rm about It Jt Tell her you want them to be proud of ot her as you are and ask her to use her skill in making her nicest cake or other refreshments to s serve I You must educate your mother to to the idea of your associating with young people of your own age and background Growing Into Life is 15 a book every ery parent and child should read It is to be had in the dollar editions and I I. advise you to get it as a gift for your mother and that you read it together In it you will find tild explained the abnormal abnormal abnor abnor- mal mat results result of or wrong mental hygiene by- by giene and how they are arc to be cor car Make up to mother in fine consideration and courteous manners for the real trial she willbe will willbe willbe be pas passing ing through to return to a amore more normal relationship with you and the world about her per LOVER MUSIC Yours is an advertising problem that I may not use in the column Watch The Telegram classified advertising advertising ad ad- columns Also inquire of ot music shops regarding your lem If It gifted I see sec no reason why your ideal could not be accomplished pUshed as I have heard there are those who learn to play by car ROUND FEATURES D Dear ar Miss Blair I have hate a round face tace and rather pr pretty pret pret- t- t ty tr ears Please tell me whether I should part my hair in the middle or on the aide side and whether or not I should wear earrings Thank you ou RA Broad faces look less wide i if hair hall Is parted In the center Long faces and long noses too look shorter it if hair is done with a side part Girls with lovely cars ears arc those who should wear their hair brushed back bac from the face and go in for earrings Not the round kind as they will accentuate the tho round roundness ess of ot your face but those with length to give the line lino of your face length These should be vorn worn orn for evening evenin accessories rather than daytime wear Though if you ou find some for day wear of oC simple degn des design de de- de- de sign s they may also be worn A THANKSGIVING NG GUEST Dear Dear Miss JUI Blair I 1 am the week end end k-end Thanksgiving r guest of a friend in the city who takes 1 J I Letters Letter question and requests for advice should b be addressed to MISS 1 BETTY BETrY BLAIR BLAIK HEARTS HEART'S HA HAVEN VEN THE TELEGRAM I Al SALT LAKE CITY Write legibly upon only one side Ido of or the paper It Is ner that you append I the tile right name nama and address but hut th these e will tilI be he in strict rid confidence dence and will iII riot not in print I Questions Question Involving advertising I Information e cannot be bo answered I The Telegram which I am enjoying during my visit Will you kindly tell me whether or not I should write a 8 aletter aletter letter of ot thanks to her for tor her hospitality hospitality hospitality hos hos- after l return home Thank you BEE By all aU means write the thank you note to your hostess to tell her again what a lovely time tune you had hadas as a guest guestIn in her home Social usage refers to this note as the bread and butter note and it is very necessary necessary that it be bc written if you are to remain in the good graces graces of a friend NOTE TO A UA F. 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