| Show r MOTHERS MOTHER'S TYRANNY PRESENTS HANDICAP i t fI I V TO YOUNG DAUGHTER x By BETTY BLAIR V V Unreasoning tyranny and ignorance of adolescent needs in V which many many parents indulge under toe tIe guise of parental authority authority authority author author- ity too often result in pt precipitating ng the violent violent eruption eruption that occurs when demand for p personal freedom is made and in starting starting start start- V ing youth off oU in the wrong direction n. n V Dear Miss Blair flair I z have a a. very strict mother who Is Ls causing me mo much much as I X am 13 11 years old a and have hav hud baa only one date In Iii my rny life Ufe That WM as l lost last month but boys boya have hove been en asking me for viI dates ever since iI I Iwas I WM was 14 Naturally ELff af after ELf ELf- V r K ter three or four re reI refusals re- re III- III funis the they y h have he e estopped f I I stopped V asking me inc P II I Most of my invitations I II have come from boys boya 1 N who belong to to the best bestH I HI fN II families In town But I that faCt tact matter mat mat- matter H ter to my mother 4 My Zy mother can cann n neither e it her read nor norV V write She Is a foreign foreigner er and believes In bringing V me up by the same came rules by which she has his been reared So farshe far farshe farshe she has bas succeeded but Im I'm afraid that before long something within In me e will wm snap and and Ill I'll do somethIng something something some some- thing bad The one date I have h had d was to at attend attend attend at- at tend a party with a boy my own age ago who Is Ls from one of the most prominent prom prom- families In town Mother doesn't aee see why ho be should want to togo togo togo go with me when there are so many society girls from whom to choose But all my life I have associated with the big shot abot children and they have Invited me to their homes and to their parties Occasionally I was permitted permitted per per- to go but when I X reached home I had to relate every detail This will be my last Jast year In high school and I want It to be a happy one I haven't ha been anywhere this entire summer except for tides rides with my family I Ido do all of the housekeeping housekeep housekeep- ing for my father mother brother and myself AU All my ray mother ever does Is to wash the clothes weekly She drinks excessively and when under the Influence of liquor Is 11 terrible Sometimes I like Ucc her and sometimes I hate bate her but I never think of or her herIn herIn herin In the sweet worshipful way most girls do their mothers I had to quarrel quarrel rel ret with her two hours and even threatened to do something drastic to get her to let Jet me mc accept the date I mentioned Ever since then she ahe has hu called me a bad girl and says all Vail of the modem modern generation Is Ls spoiled spelled Maybe Maybo I 1 haven't explained my problem problem lem clearly but It is I. such a tangle and there are arc so many angles to It It I cant can't write Everything The sum total total to to- tal talla Is she wont won't let Jet me rae have anything V to todo do with the opposite sex Please help me and 1 If your readers have V anything to suggest In addition I will aurel surely welcome It MARY SMITH One naturally hesitates without knowing more of f the facts on both sides to offer suggestions that will further increase the rift that exists between mother and daughter But if it as you clearly intimate in your letter your mother is the intolerant ant person ant person whom we are arc led to suspect sus sun and you are a girl really eally trying try- try ing to climb from under the debris that her influence ce creates then surely surely sure sure- ly 13 yo you YOLk need c direction as to which way to proceed Legally when you have reached what hat is ca called lea the age of ot decision which is 18 years you may decide your own course of living JivIng But with the background you have had it itis is Iz doubtful if it you could go very far faron on n. n your yourS own feet teet Your own statement state state- ment m afraid that before long ril snap and do something bad makes snakes me fear for your your ability to tomake tot t make your own decisions For though you need e d the companionship of ot other young people your own age and should have had it always life is fa more than just that It is a matter matter mat mat- ter of being fed and clothed and housed It is a matter of ot being protected protected pro pro- from worst pitfalls and handicaps handi handi- caps than th those ea a misunderstanding mother may provide For In your case you can create a world of ot your own You can say to your youk mother I ux am of legal age ago and shall henceforth henceforth henceforth hence hence- forth choose my own friends and determine my own course in life And when you have done that your own real responsibility to life begins For you are still young and untutored V You need guidance in inthe inthe the right direction Your own impetuosity impetuosity im im- im may lead yo you to take many false fabe steps over which you may 8 tumble stumble and from which wounds result You could be saved from all this thie if It there were an intelligent person with whom you could con con- fide in person I 1 feel sure that among your teachers teachers teachers teach teach- ers at high school there is someone I to whom you could go with the utmost ut ut- most moat confidence whose depth of hum human human hu hu- hu- hu m man n understanding would consider your problem from fron every angle a and d V J k- k Letters questions and requests for advice lee should bo be addressed to MISS BETTY BETrY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN THE TIlE TELEGRAM SALT SAIT LAKE CITY Write legibly upon only one ono side ido of tho paper It is necessary that you append the right name and address but these will be held in strict confidence dence and will not appear in print Questions Involving advertising I information cann cannot t bo ba answered tt f 1 offer otter the best guidance possible Bade Base each successive o decision of your life ilfe In your your effort for tor personal freedom on the desire desiro to build up your character In doing so you will be led to have comp compassion slon for your mother rather than hatred you will be led t to try to raise her level I rather than to lower it by denouncing denouncing denouncing de de- de- de her I 1 i shall be so happy to have you write me mo from tram time to time concerning concernIng concerning concern concern- ing your your decisions and their out out- come If Hearts Heart's Haven is to be a areal areal real help to people which we have havethe havethe the tho fond hope it may be it must do more than l h- h have ve a meteor it must be a constant candle burning burning burn burn- ing lug through the tb night t. t ANNOUNCEMENT lE T PARTY Dear Drar Miss Blair I 1 have been Invited to a marriage announcement party this week Is It Jt customary to tate take a gift on this occasion Thanking you In advance ance W C. C If the party is given for the occasion occasion occasion oc oc- oc- oc casion of announcing an engagement engagement engagement engage engage- ment guests do not take gifts since inc the fact that it is to be an on announcement announcement announcement an an- party is usually not known to them until the announcement announce announce- announcement announcement ment itself is made If however the party is a reception reception reception recep recep- tion given in order to announce a marriage that has previously taken I place gifts are in fl order Th The gifts are sent in advance by the shop through ugh wh which ch they are purchased and are aro addressed in the brides bride's new name CITIZENSHIP Dear Miss Jonas Blair Blair Will you please help me just as soon soon as you yon can cnn I ha have vo lost my because I married a Ca Ca- nadian V I I sent my first papers up and am sin called to court for filing my petition this Thursday I haven't ha the money to pay for tot It and my husband says If It I wait walt until he gets his papers I 1 will gradually gain my citizenship back I want to know If lr this Is true and If not what I will have to do If I dont don't go up this Thursday for my filing flUng petition Thank you MRS S. S You have seven years in which to file your petition after your first II papers have been filed If It this seven years is not soon to expire you may go t to the filing court any time it meets prior to the expiration of the thc I year seven-year period perio of time You will vilI not automatically regain I your citizenship when your husband takes out his naturalization papers However if you wish to wait until he becomes a citizen you may start all over again in a different way to take out your own papers Every woman must become a citizen in her own right since the Cable act of 1922 |
