| Show GIRL SENSES LACK LACKIN IN FAILURE TO SEE SEEBOY BOY IN LOVELIGHT By BETTY BLAIR The three ages of people the chronological biological and Intellectual may not advance at the same rate of growth at the same time Environment early life patterns may have much to todo todo do 40 with conditioning the simultaneous ous development of all three ages Dear Miss Blair I have been going quite steady with a boy since the first of the tho year lear but there Is something about my own feeling for him that puzzles I me I am 19 years old and have many manyI I II s boy friends none of whom I have liked 1 I as well as this one p Iki Although I think the world of this Iv I I boy for some r rea reason ason a- a son my feelings cant can't be said to be bc than those of and liking for him He has told me he loves me mc and though I have had enough time timeto timeto timeto to learn to love him also I 1 do donoL not noL I 1 have never been in love and have always been able to control my emotions very well Iam I Iam am nm beginning to think I am just hard hearted and haven't it in me mc to love an any boy I certainly hope this isn't so I want so much to feel the same way about this boy bov that he does about me What is the the trouble Thanking you HOPELESS ME Some people are emotionally im im- im- im mature This may be your case Have you had deep intellectual in interests interests in- in athletic interest or home homemaking homemaking homemaking making interests that have taken much of your our time and thought to the exclusion of the l love ve interest Have you had or worries in your earlier life that may have re retarded retarded retarded re- re your emotional develop- develop ment Or br Or have you been going with boys over a long period of time say since you were 14 or 15 and have now nov reached the stage of satiation or of being what young people call fed ed up Yours is a case where you need to do some very close self Go back into your own self life as far faras faras faras as you youcan can go and analyze your re relationship relationship re- re with the opposite sex Did you play wholesomely with them as a young child or were you forbidden their company Parents can set up complexes by suggesting wrong patterns in the lives of their children These sink into the subconscious subconscious subconscious sub sub- conscious but are arc nevertheless determiners determiners determiners de de- de- de of conduct sometimes all through life If your life has been so filled with fine normal interests that so far there hasn't been time or place for lor forthe forthe the love interest to develop you have nothing to worry about aboul It may may maybe be that your our biological dev development development devel devel- l- l hasn't kept pace with your chronological years and you have yet et to look forward to the awakening awakening awakening awaken awaken- ing of the love interest Look calmly at yourself and into yourself yourself your your- I self Belf to determine just what is going on if possible But dont don't get false faIse notions or begin to worry for or fear there is something radically wrong You are still young and if you arc not in love with this particular boy there is still sUll plenty of time left leet for determining whether love for this bo boy will develop or whether it will willbe willbe willbe be love for another One of the strangest and sometimes the saddest saddest saddest sad sad- dest things about love is that it doesn't always follow tollow that the person person per per- son lion one person loves loves him in return It has been that way with thousands of people since the world began so you ou are not the exception It might be a good test of your our emotional rating to stop seeing this boy for or a while If you miss his companionship and are again happy to have him back after a friendship vacation it is a good sign that your emotions ar are after all not far from normal FOND OF PUZZLES Dear Miss Blair My daughter who is now 13 13 is very cry much interested in solving puzzles She finds all the cross crossword crossword crossword word and line Une puzzles in the magazines and when jigsaw puzzles puzzles puzzles were popular she would spend evening after evening poring o er over them These fine evenings when other children are out playIng playIng playIng play- play Ing she is poring over the puzzles In The Tribune Junior or other papers and sources I sometimes wonder if it it isn't harmful for her to do this Will STill you please tell me me- what you ou think about it And thank you MOTHER The human mind is a puzzle solving machine The nice thing J F- F Letters questions and requests for advice should be addressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S IIA HAVEN VEN THE TOE TELEGRAM I SALT LAKE CITY Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is nc necessary essary that you ou append the rl right ht name and address but these will be held in strict confidence confidence dence and md will not appear in print Questions Involving advertising information in formation cannot be answered V about most of these arranged puzzles puzzles puzzles is that they can t DC be e solved and the he satisfaction that comes through gh solving them is something every child should know Too few of our children are on winning programs either ither at school or in the home life It t is usually the bright child who Is heard icard and seen Even grownups feel eel the need of solving puzzles There is no feeling of strain or personal personal per- per onal responsibility should the solution tion ion be wrong There comes with the tho ho solution the feeling of personal achievement without the emotional responsibility Psychologists claim that hat the solving of puzzles acts like liken an n anodyne and is not only relaxing but ut in inman inmany man many cases of over sensitiveness sensitive- sensitive ness ess and nervousness is definitely useful in promoting mental health Your daughter should not of course ourse course pore over the puzzles to the exclusion of play in the open air and nd sunshine Or if she must have havea I a certain time of each day for or her puzzles induce her to work at them at t a table in the yard where she will vili have the benefit of the sun and arid air ir with not too long a n time at a sitting HELP BEREFT MOTHER l Dear Miss Blair I hope you yu you or your readers can help us Some time ago two men were going from door to door taking aking pictures of small children in a little red airplane I let them take our baby's picture but the day they came back with the proof I was not at home and they did not return again Now we have just lost our bab baby and we want the picture but we dont don't know where to get in touch with the men who took it We Ve will so much appreciate it if you or some of your readers can tell teU tellus tellus us where to locate this company or the men who took the picture MOTHER We Ve hope so much that some of our ur readers may know the present whereabouts of the men who took the he picture of the bab baby whom the parents arents no longer have with them And in addition we hope the company corn corn- pany any may not have destroyed the proof We Ve shall mail the address to you ou Mother if it comes BROKEN ENGAGEMENT ENGAGE Dear Miss Blair Recently my engagement to marry a certain boy was broken of off We Ve simply agreed that we were fond of each other but that we couldn't agree He told me meto meto meto to keep leep the ring and as I had worn it for several se months I thought I would feel rather lost without it iL But now that a few weeks have passed I dont don't feel quite right about wearing It and of course it will do me no good lying ying in my jewel box I think I should return it to the giver What do you OU suggest NO REGRETS The engagement ring is a symbol that two are arc engaged to be mar- mar ned ried When that engagement is broken the ring should by all means be e returned Write the young oung man mana a note and say that now the reason no o longer exists for wearing the symbol of an engagement you find you ou cant can't keep the symbol and that in n all friendliness you return it iL Then hen place it in its box wrap and address plainly and register the parcel to him |
