Show G GIRL I R L D DRAMATIZES DRAMATIZE'S RAM A T I Z E S tit SELF SELF IN SORROW r OVER 0 V ER LOST LOVE r By BETTY BLAIR t Fidelity in love is not ot to be disparaged It is the most beautiful thing in the world But true fidelity keeps faith with its dream cream by making its life as bright as gay as worthwhile worthwhile worth worth- while as it can If that means another love it a accepts it for forthe forthe the enriching of ones one's self and in order to give to life most abundantly Dear Miss Blair My daughter always alwa's reeds reads your our column and Im I'm sure your our opinion on on In this problem will help her to put thin things s in their mi ir right places She 4 is 17 years ears old and LAI has hae just had her herI herf I d I f first t I r s t disappointment disappoint disappoint- nt- nt H I Ml ment in love The Thebo IlI ilP bo boy with whom I she has been lIeen keeping keep keep- ill ing steady company com corn pany for a y year r rand HUt I- I and with whom I If she fell lell deeply Inlove in inI inlove I love stopped seeing seeing see see- ing her altogether ether with ith no rio explanation and started going coing w with lh another girl cirl When she read the account in inthe inthe in inthe the newspapers of or the two girls who jumped from the airplane after after aft all er their sweethearts had been killed in an airplane ac accident dent she became hysterical and announced she he would do the same thing hing it if she ha had i a chance and that there was simply nothing left to live for Of course that all so silly t to ti me yet I couldn't even talk to her she was in such tears and agony agon of or feeling I dont don't know how bow to make malte her see this incident as a mere preparation for what is isto isto isto to come in life if she takes it the right wa way or to make her feel feelth before her th there re is a bright future The m matter has so affected her health she has had to give up school chool for the rest of the school year vear She takes no interest in anything any any- I thing Have you an any suggestion to make as to what I c can n do to bring her out of it if it TROUBLED MOTHER Since it has no background of or experience ex ex- ex against which to make comforting com corn forting comparisons youth suffers pio in its disappointment of first love It believes first love to be bethe bethe 1 the only one that will ever enter its life and knows nothing about bout the healing balm bairn time can la lay to wounds wounds' nor the beauty that can result from having gone through the mill and emerged whole and clean elean with the chaff separated from the grist It is a swing back to the Victorian age ge o of emotionalism for lor youth o dramatize itself itsel today toda in its love a af ar fairs Too often ten the they take the opposite opposite site ite extreme and be become ome calloused to all finer iner motions to th the point t theare they the 1 are unaware when real love finally I does docs come A A happy medium should be sought in the solution There is isan isan an abiding quality in real love that has ms nothing to do with theatricals and arid that su suffers and endures and o overcomes with vilh a calm restraint Youth knows that first love is always always al wa ways S sweet but it should also alro know t the e adult point of or view that a m met mel mellowing i lowing comes with with- the passing seasons sea rca rca- sons runs and a new love may be richer than the old I If your daughter is too overcome with her experience to search fur for rew new and vitalizing experiences you yomi 1 must find rind them for her Brin Bring jolly joll young people into the home Interest them in hobbies preferably of or a creative creative cre cre- nature There is a thrill to b be had hd in creating something whether it be to build a model airplane or help helpa a seed to sprout send forth leaves and blossom There are hobbies galore galore ga- ga a. a lore that youth routh will enjoy in the creative orea crea tive realm Dont Don't do anything with the obvious obvious ob ob- ob viCtus motive mothe of or trying to make your our daughter forget her troubles She will resent nt anything of or this nature Do it because bemuse you ou like to have young youn people Cople around you like to see sec them 1 Letters questions and requests I for tor advice should be addressed to I MISS BETTY BLAIR BIAIR HEARTS HEART'S II H HAVE A V E N. N TEI TELEGRAM I GRAl SALT SAIT LAKE CITY Write upon only one side of the he paper It Is is' necessary that yon you append append ap ape ap- ap pend the right name and address but these will be held in strict confidence confidence con con- and will not appear appear in tn print Questions Question Involving advertising adver adver- Information cannot be an an- awe ic d. d enjoying life me and making something of or it Your daughters daughter's Interest will step b by step be aroused in that particular par par- tItular phase to to which her tastes It lead d. d PLEASING PERSONALITY Dear Miss Blair What ingredients tend to make makel a l pleasing persona personality lit I hope you OU dont don't mind answering this question Guestion for me J J. J S. S A hi high h standard of or conduct a flue fine sense ol OI humor good grooming polished pol manners sensibility in regard t to ones one's own rights ana generosity in iii regard to the rights of or others and anda a fair amount of or self confidence sell are in m my mind some of the requirements of ot the personality that radiates itself to others Whole volumes have been written in discussion of what it takes to tomake tomake tomake make a pleasing personality Perhaps Per Per- h haps you'd oud like to see some of or these for lor yourself Cultivating a Per Per- by Walsh How to Develop Dc De clop Personality by arc are two vastl vastly interesting and scientific books on the subject TYPES GIRLS Dear Miss S Blair Th There The e is a certain cerbin question bothering both both- ering erins my mind Can you ou help me answer it I want to know what t type pc of or boy girls go JACK One has to but look about him and andt se see t the men girls have married or orare orare are arc on the verge of or marrying or merely going with to see that ever every type of bo boy has his day There is no recounting accounting for lor tastes you ou know and there are boys to satisfy the tastes of ever every girl under the sun The main thing is for for the boy to put himself in ir circulation so he and the girl whose whore tastes tostes are in common who have similar ideals of life lire whose background is is the same ma may grav t tate t tp each ot other er He should thereby thereby thereby there there- by find companionship friendship and later on love built on a l safe foundation The g girl rl who is shallow who looks for or the superficial qualities in boSwill boys boS will attract that kind to her The girl who places places- such trivial things as the shape hape o of a boys boy's nose or the make of or his car above his personal attributes attributes and character will probably attract a gigolo or a money bag The girl who ho looks for fineness in character character char char- acter will naturally be that kind of g girl rl herself n r. r The moral if it an any is is to be yourself yourself your your- self sell your best self and take frequent nt inventory to see that you OU get set the habit of or keeping your our best foot for lor ward MEN LIKE IT Dear Blair I want to attend the fashion achion shows and I would like to t ask the young man with whom I keep company company com corn pany to go with me but am not sure whether he he would like it or not Do you OU think he would and shall hall I ask him BARBARA Men love the fashion show What man wouldn't be interested in iii the clothes the girl of or his heart expects to tc adorn adom herself with And if ii you haven't noticed before you willI will I when you OU go JO this time how many men actually are arc presen present By all ruea ricans give him the opportunity to accompany you But let me warn I bou ou not to show any jealousy over hIsto his attention to the lovely girls who do dothe dothe the modeling |