| Show HUSBANDS HUSBAND'S PROMISE i PRIOR TO MARRIAGE r LIGHTLY CONSIDERED 0 By BETTY BLAIR Men are comfort Once established in the ease and comfort of their own homes it is like driving them to the dentists dentist's chair with a toothache to try to disrupt the or order order order or- or der to which they have become accustomed But selfishness selfishness selfishness selfish selfish- ness is 15 bred in such order where only one is considered Dear Miss Blair married mother When hen I was my made my husband promise that no matter where we were It if I wanted want ed d to co go 0 home to J her cr he tic would let me sue so go o I am nm an only child and it was very cry hard on my mother to let me Inc go KO away from her My husbands husband's hus lius- bands band's work was as of at a nature that he might be transferred from one state to another and it was this th that made t made m my mother ask sk this promise We e have been married now six years and during that time have haye been In Jn three different states each move taking me inc farther and farther from home and in all that time I have not yet ct been back to visit mother another She has bas been out west vest twice to see sec ee me inc and stayed over overa a a. month each time The circumstances of our moving move ing lug were such that we could not afford for me to go back bacle cast east but tOW now we have ha been able to get gel a little ahead and rond mother wants me mc meto meto to come and I want vant to go o. o But Cut for some unexpected reason I am meeting meet meet- In lug ing with a great deal of ot tion My Iy husband has taken the notion that it il is a childish thing for lor me mc to want to run home borne to tomother tomother tomother mother as he puts it and ind that if she is Es s so anxious to see me inc she can come here Though as 35 a matter mat mat- ter of fact he is none too jubilant over that prospect either The whole truth of the matter Is he be doesn't want ant his own comfort com corn fort lort interfered with lie He takes fishing and amI hunting hunting- trips and vacations vacations vaca vaca- with without ut me when he takes the car and leaves me sac to get along as best I may but when he cant can't get away he wants me r right ht there thereat at home to keep things going have he his excellent meals prepared and his socks and and pajamas pajamas' right where he lie can put his hands on them lie He has become extremely selfish and I want to break him himot of ot it before it becomes an Unbreakable unbreakable un Un- breakable habit Yet f I dont don't want to raise Ned in order to get to togo togo togo go away to see sec my mother Have you an any suggestions as to how this ma may be done and he made to see I have some rights that must be respected WIFE IFE Since your our husband takes his hisa vacations vacations va a va- va away by himself why not plan to lo visit your mother during the i time he is awa away Talk the matter over ovet with him insist that you have havethe havethe I Ithe the same right to a vacation that he has and that it is no more than right I you ou s should talc it in a manner that suits your tastes just as he does Insist that toe the w woman oman man who stays at it home day In and day out for the entire year keeping things in apple apple- pie order is as much entitled to a v caton as the other member of the I family The more calmness you can assume as you talk with him the less I likel likely are re y you u to arouse his ire the more likely he is 15 to listen to re reason Son But dont don't argue the matter with him nor make your statements inan in inan inan an argumentative vc tone o of voice Simply Simply Simply Sim Sim- ply announce the nature of your plans in iii a tone of voice that will admit ad mit of no Then begin immediately to make concrete plans for the visit I 1 th think you ou should not even remind remind re reo re- re mind your husband of his promise promie Take it for gran granted ed that with or without with out such a promise when it is quite possible for you jOU to do so you jOU should pay this visit to your our mother Tell Ten him the next time lime your mother comes you will insist on her staying for at least six months That she should not undertake so long a journey journe un un- un less CS her er visit is prolonged ged to that length This may your point that you jou should visit her WRONG WRO NUI NUMBER ER Dear Miss Blair Last week someone called a arong wrong rong number at my home hornc but before it was as discovered it as was as a wrong number we cc carried on quite a II conversation The boy kept insisting in I Ivas was vas as Helen and we bantered b back and forth Corth a good deal Finally he said If It youre you're really not Helen then who are you you Like a 3 silly I fell tell for the trap and told him ray my name Ever since then he has been calling me mc every night lie He has a wonderful voice olee and we talk a lot of oC nonsense I over the phone He has been asking asking ask ask- in ing me fora date now for lor several nights and so far I have said Oh Id I'd hate to go out with you Ou and meet your wife coming up the street or some other such sill silly answer To my excuses he insists he has no wife that he lie is ls a nice rI I e bo boy that except for lor Helen he knows no other girls In the town that he is iser isery er very ery lonesome and so on lie He sounds vcr very sincere re and he has my interest Intrigued Do you ou think I might take a chance on asking him to call on me and meet Letters questions and requests for advice should be addressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS hEART'S II HAVE A V E N TELEGRAM I SALT SAIT LAKE CITY Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is 15 necessary that you ou append ap ape pend the right name and address but these will be held In strict confidence confidence con con- and will not appear in print Questions involving oh advertising advertising adver adver- Information cannot be ho an an- d the family I cant can't take chance on going Any any liny place with him bins until I see him and know more about him hEra Please tell me what to do SIMON t There would be to most gir girls a thrill of something new and romantic roman roman- tic ic in this sort ort of or adventure I dare daresay sa ay say if H the boy is the thc right sort ort and andas has as had the the- proper background he would be unafraid to accept your in in- in n to call caU on you in your home There ar are arc few who would be brazen enough nough to take advantage e of ol an invitation tal tation on of this sort i if they were not I Ithe the he right kind Tell Ten him quite quile frankly though you u may say it in the same banter banter- ing ng tone you OU have been using that you jOU ou must look him over and read all aU his lis recommendations before you can consent to making a date with him and nd that if he is all that his voice promises your jour parents may consent to o your going for a walk with him These implied restrictions as to toe the e parental care exercised over you will give him a very definite idea ideas as s to the kind of ol girl you are and of what you jou expect in the way o of behavior be be- havior from any boy bOj IN CHURCH Dear Miss liss Blair The bo boy friend has been calling callin for me to go to church for the past few Sunday mornings I am never quite sure whether I should walk immediately behind the usher or whether he should Will you ou kindly inform me me Thank you ou INEZ You will follow immediately behind belind be be- hind lind the usher and the boy bo friend will follow you providing there is s not room in the aisle for you jou and your friend to walk together If there theres is s no usher the boy friend takes the lead ead but halts at the aisle where you youre are re to be seated for you to precede him lim to the inside pew w NOTE TO EMILY We may not give instructions for individual parties in the thc column but butvill butwill butwill will vill glady send our circular of ol games upon receipt of a stamped addressed self envelope See Denn i. i sons son's Part Party Magazine at an any book bookhop bookshop bookshop shop hop for details of St. St Patrick and Easter laster parties |
