| Show BARRIERS SENSED BY GIRL WHO DID i Jn NOT NOT JOIN FRIENDS By BETTY BLAIR All All' too often otten the f fears ars and Inhibitions that are im self posed produce results results' that are blamed on others An effort to find the original cause may be the first step in getting rid of ot the conflict thus formed Dear Miss Blair It may be In a spirit of weakening weaken weaken- ing In my purpose that I approach you OU in an effort to W gain strength for formy p. p my resolution but butI I if iC so it is b because cause I ILI Iam Iam A LI am really in need of ot I fl iII having m my morale I- I I bolstered up I nm nfl ri a yo young ng University II III f c of Utah freshman NII uI I girl and entered t school last fall In Inthe Inthe Inthe the highest of spirits spir I its and coura courage e. e I r have a thirst for tor learning but 1 I not only want to gain aln knowledge I 1 want to have a chance to make use of ot it for tor my fellow men At present my whole set of oC high ideals seems about t to topple to the ground for a very foolish conflict conflict con con- filet is waging within me All AU my girl friends were rushed for so sororities sororities so- so and I didn't get gel a single bid I tri tried d heroically to make It appear that I hadn't time for the social life a sorority demands As Asa a matter of fact joining one would have made a financial hardship on my my parents and I 1 wanted to spare them that though if I 1 had b been en rushed and pledged they would have seen me mc through But something in my attitude has created a distinctly unpleasant ant flavor in the thc behavior of all my sorority pledge friends toward me mc I cant can't quite get at the tho bottom bottom bot bot- bot- bot tom torn of it it but I feel that their attitude is hostile I simply simply- cant can't bear to go on like this I want their love and friendship even it if they do not take me into the sanctIty sanctity sanc sane of the sorority fold I feel so bad over the whole thing I I cant can't do my work as I should I know it sounds silly that I fth should uld let et anything thwart my higher purposes but friendship has always meant so much to me and with it life has always always' gone along like Now the discords discords discords dis dis- dis- dis cords and lack of harmony are upsetting m my whole nervous tem tern Have you any suggestions to offer that will help me to get rid of the conflict BABS In the first place you doubtless built up a barrier between yourself and the sorority b by making remarks that would give the idea your ideals for gaining knowledge and using It for leadership were oppose opposed to sorority sorority so so- ideals As a matter of fact I know of no sorority th that t does not stand for a high quality of scholarshIp scholarship scholarship scholar scholar- ship rind find leadership Th That t they add social leadership qualities to their other high standards is just another thing in their favor If you had kept still about your real reasons for not being able to join a sorority until you had been rushed and then quietly given the thereal thereal thereal real reason that you did not wish to impose a financial difficulty upon your parents in having to pay sorority fees and dues I feel sure your former friends would have understood you OU e entirely and this difference difference dif dif- difference dif dif- ference would not have arisen between between between be be- tween you ou At Atthe the time you ou set up these very very high standards for yourself you inferred inferred in in- by speech and action that you ou were a creature apart from the girls who might join sororities and that if you were to join you would have to forfeit your ideals I think I should set about correcting any such notion You need not be an apple polisher in in n order oi to do this Invite the girls you ou have known to your our home Let there them know there must be no estrangement between you ou and that your reason for wantIng wantIng wanting want- want Ing it known you O could not join a 8 sorority had you been asked was that you did not wish to add to your parents' parents financial burdens Many a girl has foregone the extra pleasure of joining a sorority for tor this very same reason and has found nd happiness in hi her hi work and the loyalty of her friends friend 1 You can cando cando cando do the thc same providing you tear teardown teardown teardown down the barrier harrier you OU yourself have set up in inferring that your Ideals and purposes were different from theirs ONE OF THE TIU JURORS Dear Miss Blair As one of ot the jurors in tn the case of Father of ot None versus Father of Two Tv if my vote were the deciding factor in one of the Nobel prize awards that would be applicable to this contest it would be readily cast in iii favor of Father of None His point is well taken even tho though gh it conflicts with the fatherhood gush as he calls it that is so prevalent in the land JUROR We Ve should have been pleased to ta Deceive receive your reasons for casting your vote ote with Father of ot None Letters questions and requests for advice should be addressed to MISS BETTY DETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S II HAVEN A V E N TELEGRAM f SALT LAKE CITY Write legIbly upon only one side of the paper It is necessary that you ou append ap ape pend the right name and address but these will be held In strict con confidence and will not appear in print Questions Involving advertising adver er Information cannot be an Juror But since the they were not nol L forthcoming we publish your our vote as is BIRTHDAY TEA Dear Miss Blair Will you ou be kind enough to answer answer answer an an- the following questions that are a little vague When invited to a birthday tea docs does j one bring a present The tea is about three days aher after her birthday It is to be on a Sunday Sun Sun- day What would be the proper proper thing to wear What are arc re the hours of ot a tea and about how long does one stay DEW DEWIt It i It Is a gracious gesture to take a birthday gift gUt when invited to a I birthday tea However your invitation invitation in in- was not given with the tile thought in mind of ot having you bring a gift girt so the ultimate decision rests with you and must depend upon your desire to take a gift which would in turn depe depend d on your degree of ot friendship for the honor guest The usual apparel for tor a tea unless unless unless un un- un- un less you are serving or pouring is isan isan isan an afternoon dress worn under your coat which you OU will remove or a asuit asuit asuit suit worn with a dressy blouse Sports dresses and suits are also frequently worn to afternoon teas The hours of ot the tea arc are designated noted in the invitations They are usually from 2 to 5 p. p m. m or 3 to 6 according to the wishes of the hostess If It it is to be a very large tea it will wm sometimes start at 1 o'clock and continue until 5 From 20 minutes to half halt or three quarters of an hour is the usual time for staying at a tea One Ono should never stay tay the full fun length of an hour or longer unless she is a close friend of ot the hostess and has been asked to linger WHITE MICE FOR GIFTS Five white mice 5 months old old but able to caro care for themselves must find new homes One mouse will ill ill be given to each cach child ho ho can promise a good homo home and constant care See S-ce them at 1900 South Third East street Call 1215 NOTE TO READERS Circulars for the tho removal remo of ot superfluous superfluous superfluous su su- su- su hair will be bo mailed upon receipt of ot stamped self addressed envelopes with tho the request |
