Show r- r MARRIED IN HASTE NOW REPENTANCE IS JS TAKING SAME GAIT By BETTY BLAIR t the marriage of a minor turns out to be a hideous mistake and that marriage has been contracted without parental consent measures for annulment should be taken under advisement by the parents No child should be ex- ex to know how to escape drowning with a millstone tied about bout its Ith neck J Dear rear Miss Blair I am a a. girl of oC 17 who would like to know what roal love Is When I was wa first married I thought I Iwas Iwas Iwas was in love but I find a aCt after r t e r six 11 rr months of or married A L life that I dont don't care I 3 so much about my I r p I III husband as I did at atIs Is first He is nine years ear II older than I and vl I very set in his ways but with me it its it's dif dif- dif dif- ferent I want to go out and have a goed good time Rifle All he wants I Ito to do is to sit at home and read unless it is to get drunk and I hate that He doesn't dance and andI I love to We Vc go to a 3 show on an average of once or twice a month and he always falls asleep This is very ery embarrassing So 50 now will you and your readers please help m meto me meto to solve the problem as to whether or not I shall halI leave him hm Also do you think a girl could get enough alimony to live on or does docs there have to be a child before before before be be- fore she can get alimony LONELY Did you oU have no warning before yo you married this man that you were too 00 young to marry Did no one beg of ot you OU to wait until you were older and your adolescent mind had reached the condition of or stability that should come with more mature years Had you OU no father or mother no older friends who told you the emotion you felt for the man you be were about to marry might merely an Infatuation Did your our parents not forbid your marriage until you were of or age Well VeU I dare say if ir they did with the wisdom most year olds think they have and with the older mans man's persuasion to bolster up your own opinion you OU would not have lis liz You would have gone ahead in spite of or all aU remonstrance and married the man you thought you OU loved You would have said the words that united you ou to him for better or for lor worse And now you have found out your bargain wasn't all aU that you expected you ou want to return It to the tho bargain counter Poor child that you shouldn't know marriage isn't that kind of or Indian trading Marriage really means what it says for tor better better better bet bet- ter or 01 for worse You must scheme plan devise ways and means You must read develop by the experience and teaching teaching teaching teach teach- ing of or oth others rs put something into your life UCe besides the desire for a dance hall hail Life means more than thana a dizzy whirl around a dance pa pa- viIi 0 n. n You need recreation of or course Try to make your husband see that you are willing to learn to Improve to grow into womanly ways was and for forthe forthe forthe the return of ot favors such as staying home and reading with him certain nights that he take you OU to a dance There is no reas reason n why you Should receive alimony from your husband if you divorce him You could not get it unless there Were children to be supported Certainly not because you OU had married in haste and were now repenting as hastily Instead of talking divorce why ont you and your our husband try to tomake tomake tomake make something fine out of your marriage Something that will give you courage to face tace each day with the hope that in some tomorrow there will be the reward of understanding understanding under under- s standing anding each other and of or finding happiness together Talk this matter matter matter mat mat- ter over with your parents If the they did not give their consent to the marriage mariage and it Is impossible for lor you to live your life with this man advise lse with them concerning the next step WEDDING EDDING PLANS Dear Miss Blair Is it necessary to send a wedding wedding wedding wed wed- I ding Invitation n to the grooms groom's parents when they reside in the city Does Docs the grooms groom's mother attend all aU of or the showers for the bride- bride to-be to or is she included in one or two of ot the showers When hen an announcement or trousseau tea Is given do the grooms groom's mother and relatives stand tand In the tile receiving line We are not planning on having havinga a reception after the wedding and we will not know where we will reside until we return to the city What can we put on our At Home Homo cards or wedding in invitations invitations invitations in- in that will be an indication indication indica indica- tion that we will be glad to welcome welcome welcome wel wel- come them to our new home How many sports dresses eve- eve Ing ng dresses should the average virl irl plan on having In her trousseau trous trous- eau seau eau FRIEND The grooms groom's parents should by al aU means receive invitations to the wedding as should every member of ot his family and relatives Neither the brides bride's nor the grooms groom's mother mothe is 15 expected to attend all the showers show show- ers and other parties given for lor th the bride There may be some o of the these e that include only young people peo peo- pie ad and to hese the irs ar arnot are not usually invited Parties to which invitations are given or sent t to people of or mixed ages Include th the mothers of or the bride and bride bride- groom It is not necessary to have all aU th the relatives stand in the receiving lin line at a trousseau tea but the bridegrooms bridegroom's bridegrooms bridegroom's bride bride- grooms groom's mother should be so hon hon- ored There Is no point In adding any any- thin thing to either your invitations o or any other cards to Indicate when you ou will be at home to your friends I Letter Letters questions and requests for tor advice should be addressed Addrel ed to MISS l BETTY DETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S H HAVEN A V E EN N TELEGRAM I SALT LAKE CITY Write Je upon only one side of the paper It is necessary ry that you append ap pend the he rl right ht name and address but these will be held In strict confidence con and will not appear In print Questions Involving advertising adver using Information cannot be an I 1 until you know where you will be beat beat bet at t home to them When you are really eally settled and at home In your new ew home have a notification to the effect run in the society columns ot of f the newspapers Girls are too practical nowadays to o have a great number of ot dresses in n a trousseau Styles change too often otten for that to be feasible Perhaps Perhaps Per- Per haps laps two or three sports dresses two afternoon dresses and at least one new cw evening gown own should be ical for tor the thc average girl i if there theres Is s such a thing athing as an average girl Even this depends on how many dresses you ou already have that are aren in n good wearable condition You must take tale Into consideration the amount of ot entertaining yo you will be doing and the number numb of t invitations you ou will vilI be accepting In making makin-g the estimate of ot the number of or articles In n your wardrobe VALENTINE ALENTINE GIFT Dear Dear Miss Blair I received a most beautiful valentine valentine valentine val val- entine gift from a boy I have gone out with only a few rew times Umes It was a a. great surprise to me and I hardly know in what light to view it I had a date on Valentines Valentine's night so didn't get to see sec him What shall shaH I say when he next calls caUs me or comes to see me VI liv Thank the young man Tell Ten him you ou were surprised but it was a acry avery avery very cry pleased surprise and that the gift Ift has given you real pleasure I should hould view the gift in no other light than ban that it came from a friend who wh-o admires you That is unless It later appears the gift girt bears some significance to which you OU cant can't sub- sub scribe cribe In that event it should be returned |