Show MISTRUST OF FREEDOM TAKEN JAKEN BY WIFE LEADS t r TO NEED OF REFORM By BETTY BLAIR Absolute trust in the integrity of at each other is a sary ingredient in marital love and harmony On this very fIrth firm h foundation is based all other sustaining ingredients ol of Dear Dear Miss Mi Blair I have a 3 very difficult and vital problem on which I wish to get advise advice In In the short period of time I have been married married married mar mar- I I II ried certain things III IF fl have happened that have made mc me very f rii unhappy When I II II I I I II had come from v f work one afternoon II M a little earlier than I my wife Wire expected U me she returned lIP feeling rather glorious glo glo- I rious from a few oI I highballs she he had drunk She told me had been drinking with two J girls 15 and their boy friends friends' whom they had met in the afternoon It has been hard for me mc to believe but what there was another drinkIng drinkIng drink- drink jn Ing g partner there for her I There is a particular young youns man town In-town town with whom she has gone In Jn the past who has called cabled her a atine time tine or two since our marriage e. e One One- afternoon he called and asked her to go with him to see some rome work he had done She went with him but didn't tell me about it for fora a few days I asked her not to go with him again but later she wanted wanted wanted want want- ed to go to a show i if an opportunity opportunity presented To this I objected I very much and she he promised she would never see him again Aside from their bein being good friends I dont don't believe there is any other attachment between them But of course when happen like this it makes one wonder This man has a girl friend but he never tells her about going out with anyone else Do you think it advisable to try to forget happenings happenings happen happen- ings like these or 01 to be on the watch to see SM whether or not she docs does it again agai She is a very high type of at girl and I 1 dont don't believe she he he w would uld do a anything ng low I would hate like everything to separate from her as we we get along wonderfully She has told me these t things in she has done herself Please advise me JOHNNY Y You u can do more to kill your love for you ou through gh showing your yur mistrust of or h her hr r th than n through any other means She is young and gay and sees no harm in joining her friends in the kind of or pastimes to which she has been accustomed accustom Suppose her story to bE be bc absolutely correct that she was with friends wh when n highballs were served she would certainly be advertising your our m mistrust of or her to refuse to join them unless her own conscience forbade Evil is to him who evil thinks You can do more harm to to her by attaching attaching at at- taching an evil meaning to her actions actions ac by far than you can by letting her know you ou trust her wholly In that trust she will comeS to know you ou expect her to do nothing that will dishonor you as her husband or her own self respect as your our wife But since appearances count for forgo BO go much she should have the discretion discretion discretion tion to avoid all appearance of or evil that the mind of Mrs Grundy might attach to her actions If she had been wise in her friendship she would have asked the young man to include the presence of the girl sirl with whom he now goes oes when she went with him to see ee his work But some wives launching from the freedom of or single sin sin- gle Ile le blessedness into the single le harness har liar ness S o of team double work sometimes overlook the fact at first that henceforth henceforth hence hence- forth they must pull with one partner part part- ner ncr in the contest They need reminding reminding re reo re- re minding but in such a way that an appeal is made to their best judgment and not to their wrath One of Dr the best ways to appeal to the judg judgment ent of a person is to get them to see the other persons person's point of or view Ask her how she would feel if iC you OU were to do as she has done Ask Ak her if she thinks it would be honoring her in her position as 3 your Jour wife wiCe Whenever you can get gel response through the higher hiher nature of a person you have gained ground round but if you appeal to the lower emotions emotions emo emo- ti ns such as resentment reven revenge e. e jealousy wrath you have set yourself your your- sell self back immeasurable spaces in inthe inthe inthe the respect and good will of the theother theother theother other person Remember always that your our wife ViCe hows you ou more honor to advertise your our absolute trust in her actions than she ha does in showing fear of y ybur ur reactions to her behavior Her actual behavior should be a matter malter of her o own n concern to redound to the preservation n of her own self seLf- r respect i IN CASE OF ARGUMENT Dear Miss Mis Blair i Please tell me what is the most efficacious way to beat your our dearly beloved partner and husband in an argument Mine loves to argue better than any anything thine else in life liCe Can you help me BEATEN When ones one's companion insists upon arguing the best way to stop the dispute dis pub without appearing to be a quitter is to leave lea him to beat the thc air with his own words while yo you yoi march off of with all alt the honors There is no noto glory to be gained by fighting riChUne out a iJ i 4 Letters Letten questions and re requests requests re- re quests for advice should be addressed to MISS 1 BETTY BLAIR BIAIR HEARTS HEART'S IIA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT I I. I LAKE A K E B CITY Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It I U ii necessary that you append append ap ap- p- p pend the right name and address ad ad- dress s. s but these will be held In strict confidence and will not appear In print Questions Involving In ln ertl advertising I 1 Information Informs Informs- tion cannot be answered I 4 1 problem on an emotional basis basic A smiling miling retreat a swift change of the he subject or an amiable silence leaves the one inclined to argue alone feeling just a bit bil doubtful and foolish on the stand he has assume assumed as as- sume t LOVE AND WORK DISAGREE Dear Miss Blair I am a girl of 17 For the past year 1 have been going with a boy buy who for six months I have seen almost every night until I st started to work Then his visits dropped to twi twice c a and sometimes once a week But when I do see him he tells me he has missed me me- me mea a lot and that he thinks of me mc con con- I 1 really think I love the boy and that he loves me He has told me mc so several times But there arc are times when it seems to me I Ilose Ilose Ilose lose all interest in him and that he isn't anything to me at all aU I wish you could tell me how to hold him and keep my interest in in him alive He Hc is very sweet s to tome tome me mc but it seems we wc are drifting apart Whether this is so because we ve are working or not I cant can't tell Will you ou help me mc to hold him JUST DRIFTING At 17 your whole physical and mental en entity tit is in a state of change How then can you expect love or any emotion for that matter to o remain constant It is a physical and mental impossibility unless you go against nature and form a complex com corn plex which is a most undesirable condition condition condition con con- to wish upon yourself Dont Don't try to force nature against her tier will If at times as you say the love interest for this boy weakens weakens weak weak- ens en let it do so and expect that it shall do so Supply the interim with other vital interests that do not take love or r any phase of it into consid consid- It is in just such interims that young people attached to each other by the love interest should find tind out what other interests they have in common Have you tried these side paths yet with your common interests Sports books photography authorship author author- ship shipp the collecting hobby hobby- I If you cant can't find interests in common that sweep you along together in sheer enjoyment of a common pursuit itis it itis itis is far better that you permit the love interest to wane altogether Even in marriage the love interest will vill strike e a surprising and disconcerting disconcerting disconcerting discon discon- low Then it is that other interests must hold two together But If it there are no such interests interests- woe betide the marital relation There will be little to tide it over until the pendulum swings back in the opposite opposite op op- direction Adolescent love is 13 particularly apt to meet with absolute chan changes changas that are never welded together again POLICE PUP TUP FOR GIFT At 96 Euclid avenue k there is a old month police puppy bark barking In his need for a new ness home Anyone able to offer him a good home ma may call for him FOX TERRIER PUP Six old fox terrier pup for I rift Ul to anyone anone promising a a. good home Call Hyland J i or see seethe seethe seethe the pup at 61 East Seventh South |