Show GIRL cIRL SEES OBSTACLES 1 IN MARRIAGE TO MAN 1 WITH DIVORCED WIFE Candles on a Dinner Table Complimentary to Hostess I v and W Women Guests Woman Buff Buffeted ted ti H by Love Enjoys Respite 4 vt 5 By BETTY BLAIR Contrary ty to popular belief second marriages with th love understanding common tastes tates and Interests to guide It should p prove ove more successful l than first marriages lacking these ties that bind With f failure marking the first experience ex ex- ex- ex perl nce a man or woman knows better what to look for In Ina a second mate and also how to solve problems that bly arise Dear Miss Mis Bl Blair tr lr I have been going with a young man man for tor over a year car and we are are truly in love with each other We find ind w we are arc very well mated having the same tastes in co comon common corn com mon sharing the same game ideas on life lite and religion We get along very well together and are perfectly per pu- happy and contented when In each others other's company comp Since going together w we have both become become become be be- come more religious and and have both developed a desire to learn I to better oui- oui our characters and to lead a more purposeful life We have made many wonderful plans for the future and nd have nave b built up hopes and ideals for tor our home and marriage However this young man has hu hube be been n married and divorced He has three children by his first marriage and has been paying alimony for their support He was married when he was 20 years of ot age He is now 26 and andI I am 22 In some ways I am Rm sure he has learned many things from his hi first m marriage which will help us u-s both and yet so 10 many say that a second marriage seldom proves successful that I sometimes become be come come quite bewildered and nd in doubt They say that after aLter w. w we wi wiS S- S have ha been married for a f few w ye years rs I will wUl b begin gin to resent the f fact ct that he has been previously m married and that it will eventually even even- cause cate us both unha Do you think Miss Bl Blair lr this fact will in Jn lat laIer later r life come between between between be be- tween us and prevent us from reaching our goal Both of us want our marriage to be entirely successful Pl Please as tell us how we wo can prevent such auch a possible disaster disaster dis dis- dis aster uter as this to spring up b be between tween us We cannot marry for at least leat six or seven seven months due to his financial conditions which have been holding bolding him down in the past He mak makes a fairly good salary salary sal sal- ary any and I am sure sure we could be beI I successful financially in a few m months During that time and also after our marriage could you outline a a plan which we could foll follow w in order to guard against an inferiority complex which might stand between our happiness happiness happi happi- ness What is your advice on this situation Miss Blair Thanking you WYOMING In many respects second marriages have b been en found to be more successful success ful than first marriages for the very reason you name that name that of profiting by previous us exp experience But In your own case there are certain things to which you m roust must lt reconcile yourself One of these is the cause for his divorce di di- vorce voree concerning which you do not hint hin and th the sec second nd Is J the fact that he be may have to continue the payment of alimony until his lilii children are of age Perhaps both of these thee things have already been taken care care of to your I and so you need think n no more about them As for the bug boo that he may have loved and married and divorced another woman womax before he be loved and married you that is u a a matter that need trouble you no more in the future future fu fu- ture tune than it does at present unless you Pou have a feeling that he Is still in inlove love Jove with his first wife If his hb 1 love ve Letters Lotter questions and requests requests re sc- quests for advice should be addressed addressed addressed ad dressed to MISS BET BETTY T Y BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is it necessary that you append append append ap ap- ap- ap pend the right name and address address ad ad- dress dres but these will be held in Lu strict confidence and will nut not appear in print Questions involving in advertising information annot be e answered for tor he her is Js dead there is not a possibility I. I that It will revive People must live together must suffer lifes life's sorrows and enjoy lifes life's gifts best together together to to- gether gather in order to reawaken love Even then it is it a marital sort ort of ot union that binds two together rather than han a romantic love But separated from rom each other there is no possibility ity o of a reunion of emotion or inter inter- ests eats There is another thing that you must remember and that is that a aman's amans amans aman's amans aman's mans man's children are always his children chil dr circa dren n and will always have a claim upon him Unless you are tolerant and generous enough to to admit this and to understand that ev cv n though divorced parents parent are are alike bl ble le for the childrens children's welfare petty JealousIes are are apt pt to arise t to mat mar your peace A timely recognition of these hese facts and a planning to meet the exigencies les that arise b because of them should lend to the strength Of y your ur love for each other r rather ther than diminish di 1 minish it AU All life has hu its problems regardless ss of where you live with whom or how The sensible thing for you to todo todo todo do is to r recognize yours and set about to conquer and solve them For your own edification during the interval that marriage must be delayed read together the following books looks Modern Modem Youth and nd Marriage Marriage Mar Mar- by Henry Neumann The Process of Human Behavior by Mandel Mandel Mandel Man- Man del Sherman and Irene Case Sherman Slier Sher Shereman man Influencing Human Behavior r by H. 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A Overstreet The Individual In th the Making by Kirkpatrick The Human Hurrian Worth of Rigorous Thinking I Iby by Keyser I CANDLES AT DINNER Dear ar Miss Blair To settle an argument please tell me rue what candles candIes on a dinner table signify Also should other lights be on One wouldn't be expected to to eat just by candlelight candle candIe light ight I believe AGNES There is Is' Is no other significance to candlelight on on dinner tables other than that it has long been the fash ion to have them that no no dinner table Is complete without them and that the they do le lend d a softer light and nd a lovelier lovelier love love- lier glow Clow over your table than electric dee elec ide lights in th the chandelier overhead ad One disposes dispose of chandelier lights when candles are used but wall lights or floor lamps must still be k kept pt in use unless one wes uses many can candles U distributed about the rooms Candles must mut st be tall enough nough to bring the flame Iame well above peoples people's eye when seated at th the table fable Fashion FashIon Fash ion decrees at present at that they be used without shades hadt LOVE DEAD IS-DEAD IS DEAD Dear Miss Blair Blain I am a woman 35 years of age and for the first time in my life I am am not in l love ve Since I was wai 15 years old I have been buffeted by the pangs of love as most of rn my m love affairs had an unhappy ending Even my marriage was wasa a failure I loved my husband with a love and passion Surp surp surpass surpassing tag ing anything I have ever felt before before before be be- fore or since But I know now that I showered too much love and affection n. n on him and did not exact enough in return He soured on me and left me for another another an an- other her woman who demanded everything It is wonderful to have arrived at an age when I 1 think I 1 will never fall in love lave again gain I 1 have been made love to by two or three men since my divorce and have cared for them in a way different from the way I loved my h The breaking up of these affairs f Ira tortured me rue Now I hope I am through with love for life Do you think I am How can canI I stay this way Thanks Thanks' for ad ad- ad d. d vIc vice SURFEITED So long as you lived for love and the interests love brought there was nothing but love that could cowd find barbor harbor har bar bor in your tour ife Try now ow in your respite of peace to fill fiU your life with wih i activities creative and otherwise that will sublimate the love Interests You are still a young woman woman and could have a lifetime yet of usefulness usefulness usefulness useful useful- ness ness ness' were were you to be the director I of your ur life lle Instead of being directed e enslaved by the tempests that have I driven you |