Show Wife Tries Separate Vacation Plan 7 It It Doesn't Work When hen Husbands Husband's Mistrust Dampens Good Times 1 Guest Li List t of Silv Silver r Anniversary Factory J t Gi Girls ls E Enter ter Petting Argument Which Sex Most Jealous By BETTY BLAIR No matter how deeply husband and wife may love and respect each other It It Is nevertheless an undeniable fact that s such ch a close relationship as man and wife Is apt eventually to grow stale Separate vacations may renew ardor except when spoiled by ones one's mistrust of the other Dear Miss Blair A few days ago someone wrote to your our column concerning separate sepa rate vacations for husbands and wives wl An Art argument had arisen a as to whether husbands and wives should or should not take separate separate sepa epa rate vacations and you advised very strongly that they should That the nerves of both demanded demand demand- ed d they have hae a change change- from each other and from tram th the daily grind I think those women in the club who voted against separate vacations vacations va va- va rations must have had the same experience nce I have had I had a feeling too that I needed Deeded a change from my family and even from my husband whom I dearly love Everything seemed to get on my nerves and I thought how nice it would be bc to togo togo go 10 away I worked d on the theory that a change was as good as a rest and went back east to my home where I knew I would be entertained to death and probably probably probably ably come home all worn out but anyway anWay I longed to go and Co go alone DIone Husband Hatband Morose I could see that my ray husband 1 Letters questions and requests requests requests re re- quests for advice should be addressed ad ad- dressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S lIA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one side of at the paper It is necessary that you append append ap ap- ap pend the right name and address ad dress but these will be held in strict confidence and will not appear in print Questions involving in in- advertising information cannot be answered Letters requiring personal reply must mustI be accompanied by stamped I self addressed self envelopes Ed didn't get my point of at view at atalL atalL atall alL He Ho took the attitude that all allI I wanted was to get away from him The nearer the day came that I was to go the more morose morose mo mo- rose he became When he saw me off on the train you OU would have thought he was kissing me goodbye forever It was like goIng goIng go go- Ing to my own funeral to say goodby goodby goodby good- good by to him The children were glad I could go and felt that it was coming to me mc to go home and visit with my own people by myself The joy I had anticipated of or bein being be be- in fog ing alone on the train to rest was spoiled by the picture that was left leftin in my mind of oC my ray husbands husband's long face It was almost as if it he hadn't trusted me out of his sight and this thought worried me so me-so meso so much my journey was spoiled However my arrival back home revived my spirits for my relatives rela cia tives ti were so glad to see me I could see too that I wasn't putting putting put put- ting them to extra trouble at home but if my family had been along they would have gone to all sorts of at bother to cook and fuss and worry over us So I settled down to have a comfortable comfortable comfortable comfor comfor- table time with a few luncheons and teas to look forward to Jealous Letters Arrive e But this idea was soon knocked into a cocked hat for tor there thele began bean began be be- gan an to come daily letters from my ny husband saying saing that now I had gone back to the town where my ray old beau was he supposed they would all soon be forgotten That it was very plain to him why I had wanted to leave him behind so I could meet this former former former for for- mer flame lame and renew old times In itt fact he became the martyr staying at home and loving me while I was supposedly out making making mak mak- ing lug the best of a former love af af- af fair Well Im I'm telling you that his attitude simply spoiled my whole visit It was too sickening that my own husband couldn't trust me and the case of nerves I had over this was far worse than those I would have had If the whole family had accompanied me So I say that though every woman woman wo wo- man tan should have this rest and change in complete peace away from her family at least once a year I would never risk taking a vacation away from my husband hus bus band again And the worst of it is ls that his unreasoning mistrust of ot me inc has made me suspect that he has judged me ne from tram his own standard and I often wonder just what longing for a lost sweetheart sweet sweet- heart or maybe one not so lost he must be keeping from meNEVER meNEVER meNEVER me NEVER AGAIN We appreciate te your reply to our appeal for experienced on the ques' ques question tion ion ot of separate vacations for husbands hus- hus bands ands and wives Never Again which but goes goes' to prove the old formula formula formula for for- mula about circumstances altering cases I suppose Jealousy in either husband or wife would make the separate vacation problem something of f a n nightmare instead t vf Ot t the anticipated antici antic restful change We Wo shall be glad llad to h hear ar from irom others on the ques ques- ion Uon of wife husband vacations SILVER Dear Miss Blair In celebrating the silver wedding wed wed- ding anniversary should hould one invite in vite vile a great many people or should the guest list be confined to ones one's more intimate friends Thank you MRS E. E P. P In some countries the silver wedding wedding weding wed- wed ding ing is 13 a very important event and a great celebration is made of ot it but in n America it is not very good form torm formo to o ask asic any but intimate friends and the he family to an nn anniversary party especially as RS those invited are ex expected expected to send gifts gUts FACTORY GIRLS GIRL'S OPINION Dear Miss Mis Blair We are two girls 18 years old who completed high school and now work In a candy factory We read Pats and Mikes letter and think they must not know I what they are talking about aboUl Instead Instead In In- stead of thinking a boy is 15 bashful bash bash- ful if it he doesn't pet most girls would think he was just plain dumb When Then we were ere In high school we e didn't do much petting but It was mainly because at that time we didn't go out much with the boys But girls talk about things with each other just the same as boys do and we think most girls who work in the factory factory fac fac- a atory tory think petting is included in what they consider a good time We think too that all girls pet only some seine of them wont won't come right out and say so Were We're not the bashful kind kind but natu rally we have our choices too and there are some ome boys we will vit pet with and some we wont won't But weve we've never found any ful yet and when a boy we like doesn't want to pet we think just he doesn't like us and let it go goat goat goat at that We think don't it would be any fun Iun either to pet with a aboy aboy aboy boy we didn't like just for the sake of at petting Come on sis sisters sisters sis sis- ten be honest JO AND JERRIE We are arc expecting a come back k on your statement that All girls pet only they wont won't say so so J J and J J. J We Vc feel sure that th the new youth move movement move move- move move- ment meat spreading ding the land and particularly ab c in iii larger schools and social socia centers will be felt here too Y Young ung people are re fostering fostering foster- foster ing ng ideals in regard to sex conduct that hat have not been paralleled parallel d In any age The pendulum is on the forward for ward vard swing after its long stride pack pack- ward vard and is carrying the youth of ot the land with it itA A new generation is blazing the trail rail and profiting by experience learned earned by the last who thought freedom free free- ree- ree dom in all things really made them free and who learned many of them too oo late that the freedom that spelled license shackled them beyond belief We appreciate your honesty Jo and Jerry JEALOUSY IN MAN AND WOMAN Dear Miss Blair To settle an argument will you please tell us which is the more Jealous of the two man or woman wo woman woman wo- wo man Thanks VO Why dont don't you ou ask me roe something hard hardY As M a matter of fact tact psychologists psychologists during the past 40 years cars have written millions of words about human human human hu hu- hu- hu man nature about fear fear love and anger anger anger an an- ger but when they find it necessary to o discuss the more s subtle phases atour of at our emotional life such as jealousy and envy they become very cautious and hesitant even a trifle vague So what can you expect from me It is true however that down through the ages the legend has come that woman is more snore jealous than man She has been depicted as greatly under tinder tinder tin un- der the influence of this fiery emotion emotion emotion emo emo- tion which has broken homes and caused cawed crimes It has taken a woman psychologist Dr Grace Adams to blast away this theory and pr present the newer one that the male is the themore themore themore more jealous of ot the two Dr Adams says Jealousy is 13 predominantly predominantly predominantly pre pre- dominantly if It not exclusively a masculin masculine masculine mas culine culin characteristic not a feminine one At first this suggestion seems a bit fantastic for there Is a popular tradition nourished by lurid melodrama melodrama melo melo- drama th that t the green-eyed green monster finds the dark recesses of the female heart especially fitting for his lila lair A novel called Jealousy written by an Englishwoman Nora Nor James bears bear out the theory of Dr Adams that men are more jealous than wo wo- men inca Perhaps you would like to toI read It I GIFTS GIFTS KITTENS KITTENS Three kItt kittens two kittens two ns-two two pure white whitt- one tiger marked may marked may be bad had at 1632 South Redwood road Ih They io J ti |