| Show SOCIAL FUNCTIONS FUNCTIONS' SLAY HUSBAND WHO SEEKS WAY OF EASY OF-EASY EASY ESCAPE Daughter aughter Must Be Up tUp to Date Date Even Though Good I 5 Sense Be Sacrificed Kittens High School Friends Difficult to Make MakeT T- T By BETTY BLAIR fi There are conditions on both sides in marital life de demanding demanding de- de manding compromise The 50 plan works best yet it itt t takes kes a genius with a a flare for mathematical calculation to k know ow just what is 50 Dear Miss Blair I am a peaceful loving home man All I ask after a hard da days day's s work is an easy chair at my own hearthside my paI pa pa paper I per my pipe b but t. t most of all m my wife wilc I A R sitting somewhere fA LI I-LI near where I can I fI feel her presence I- I I whether I hear it or not iii 1111 I But my wife simS simU simply sim sim- S U A ply will not see sec f things rr g the way i I do S 1 II She must be nagging nagging nag nag- I ging me into this suit or that dragging dragging drag drag- ging Jing me out to this dumb party or that making out of me some kind kindor of or male social insect insect th thoUgh insect though gh I wouldn't exactly call myself a butterfly S Isn't there anything in the I 1 world that will stop her I dont don't mind compromising on a movie or ota oFa a drive in the cool and delightful delight delight- ful tul canyons I dont don't even object object ob oh- sect to our own own pat particular friends dropping in for or bridge because for lor that we can canall all leave our coats off eLf I am even even pliable when it comes to taking me to the homes of friends to return the bridge engagement because I am sure my host will invite me to remove my coat For your benefit Miss Blair lest I shock your sensibilities S ties I may ma add that we are sus sus- But this dithering drooling dulcimer crowd of party she leads me to slays mc me S Put on your thinking cap de dear lr lady tady and get me out of itHEN itHEN itHEN it HEN PECKED to The easiest and qu quickest way Set Iet et yourself out out- of the dislike you have bave for attending social functions with your wife is to change your mental mental men men- t tal l attitude de toward them Perhaps you can do this if you stop and consider con con- sider skier all the distasteful things your Wife vile does for you without a murmur And lest you overlook any of them begin now to make a written list Write them down in black and white You dont don't need to show this list to your your wife For your own protection I might add that it would give her herd hera a if it did d decided edge over you you All you n need cd to do is to have the list of ot recurring and ever ver new acts acts she performs in your behalf daily in a place where you YOli can surreptitiously slip it i into to solitary view A A single glimpse of it should bolster up your to shove yourself into that I Letters questions and requests requests re re- re quests for lor advice should be addressed d to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM S SALT L T LA LAKE K E Write legibly upon only one side of It is necessary that you append append append ap ap- ap- ap pend the right name and address ad dress but these will be bc held in strict confidence and will rill not appear in print Questions involving In- In advertising information tion cannot be answered I summer i informal to slick up tip your hair and go forth bravely to meet the enemy Nobody is asking you to love lo your enemy in this casc case All you OU have to todo todo todo do is put on the armor of with the crest of endurance blazoned on its shield and ard with the sta staff of I determination gripped tightly in your I land hand hand go goforth forth not riot as a lamb to the slaughter laughter but as ns an ancient warrior who vho ho scorned to raise the flag of surrender sur sur- render ender A hero is a hero regardless o of the cause ause he represents But you must learn earn early in the game ib to distinguish between heroism and martyrdom EV EV- loves a hero but a martyr is asad sad and md pathetic cv cv- shuns After Arter all arent aren't most of oC our ills nothing more than our own of f mind l MUST BE UP TO DATE De Dear Der Miss Blair I r wonder i if every mother has JIas the same problems to deal with in her up young joung daughters daughters daughters daugh daugh- My daughter is just 17 and for more than a year now the main idea in her life me is that she must be up to to date Instead of choosing the clothes hats shoes that would be becoming to her she thinks she must have some hideous hideous' thing that is faddy addy that looks ridiculous and that as soon soon as one season is 15 passed can canno canno canno no longer be worn This makes her wardrobe outside the limits of ot our and I have to insist that she conform but she he does so with a battle royal each tim time lime Is there any cure for this attitude alti atti altitude tude in in girls from 14 to 15 15 until they are arc out of their teens Experiences Experiences Ex Ex- from other mothers mothers' would be appreciated too DISTRACTED MOTHER Faddy fashions fashion are just a part of ofle the le general unbalanced condition of ot the adolescent mind Manufacturers capitalize on it But you OU are arc right Mother in Insisting that your daughter aughter conform to the strength of ot ofle the le pocketbook by selecting more standardized styles If It your daughter will watch a certain certain tain lain class of girl whose background and training have afforded her the ver very best she will see that this other girl irl is more conservative in im her tastes She has been taught that one of f the first essentials in good taste is iso o suit her individual style both in material ma ma- erial and pattern It is quite true that most mothers of f adolescent daughters have similar problems and that the experience of others would benefit all It is also quite true that many girls would rather ather be up to date than pretty or r attractive or entertaining or to have lave common sense or intelligence hey don't dont seem to realize that what's new ew tod today y is ancient tomorrow tomorrow and and that lat th they'll be ancient tooL too L- L KITTENS FOR FOE GIFTS Three kittens desiring good food homes are at it South Second Vest West street Six more marc adorable ones may be bo had bad at 2006 South Third East street Heres Here's your our chance children for a L pet t. CLAIMS CROWD CLANNISH Dear Miss Blair Last year I attended a school that had the most clannish crowds I ever saw saw I am new here and I Ithe the high school boys and girls treated me as if H I didn't exist In Inroy my roy own town I was accustomed rJ 3 to being a leader in our crowd and I just couldn't get us used d to being belag be be- lag ing a nobody I hate to go back to this school again this year but the strict zoning rules will keep me mc from going to any other Maybe I try too hard to make friends and turn people away from me but I really hate to go goback goback goback back to this one school because 50 so many of them especially the girls snub me mc Well I cant can't exactly exactly ex ex- call caU it snubbing so much as asit asit asit it is just not caring or knowing knowin that I am there When I spoke to people they were polite and answered me me but they had no nomore nomore nomore more interest in m me mc than if I were the back door Is Th there anything any any- thing I can do about it WANT FRIENDS Y You u must be interesting that interesting that is have many interests which you have havea a way ay of ot expressing in order to make people know you exist The same requirement requirement requirement re re- re- re is is' true of ot everybody There arc are activities and school clubs at the high schools that cover a great many many interests Engage in in these with gusto justo if iC you would add friends to your list In this hurry-flurry hurry world nobody no no- body takes time to look after the friendship interests of other people It is only when y you u are such a good goodfriend friend yourself to others that their attention at at- becomes direct directed d to yo you PREFERS ANOTHER EIt Dear Miss Blair I was going with a girl whom I liked a lot I introduced her to tomy tomy tomy my boy friend and since then she she hasn't given me a date But J notice notice no no- tice that my boy friend can make dates with her any ny time he wants to What can I do to get her to look my wa way again and go out with me ELBERT Forget her for awhile Elbert NElbert Take other girls out There are plenty of ot them who will be glad to accept your invitations The girl whom you I would like to take out will have more respect for you if you show your independence independence in in- dependence of ol her than if you keep keei asking her for dates In fact unless she invites ou ou to call on her at her home some evening I shouldn't ask her for a single date I When she realizes she may have completely completely com lost you as the kind of friend who takes a girl out and helps to tomake tomake tomake make things pleasant for her if it she cares for you jou OU in the same way you do for her she will try to make up to you for her er neglect If she doesn't care for you ou in that way it is better you forgot her and enjoyed the company company com corn pany of other girls altogether |
