Show BEHAVIOR PROBLEM TROUBLES GIRL WHO FEARS LOSING LOSIN FRIEND I I 1 Consciousness Self Seif Consciousness Consciousness' Is Painful Chaia Characteristic of Married Fri Friend nd Girl Girl Woman Boy Introduces to J He Liked Best By BETTY BLAIR When a woman does not have the passion to lay her all of body soul and mind at the feet of the man she claims to love she is not in love But no matter how deeply a man may love it never occurs to him to do this Dear Miss Dear Miss B Blair Before I was as graduated from college ge I was vas very vy much in love with a boy at d home We e promised promised prom prom- to wait wail for II U each other and 1111 II ill 1 except I for 0 r the I fl fact that we both bothI I hR went out and had u ri-u II good times neither neith neith- I er of at us ever evet became be be- I came serious to toward to- to 4 1 N ward any of or the I j partners we went U U with But t there LaulI is La ulI something tI wrong I II ill somewhere W Every summer when I have come home for my vacations he has kidded me about being what he calls caUs highbrow I have never felt in the least that way but I suppose being away docs does make one unconsciously absorb somethIng something something some some some- thing that those staying at home dont don't get and they notice it it- However that be I decided when I came home this time to refute all such allegations by my behavior so I started in to try to be th the unsophisticated little girl I was before I went to col cal lege Well WeB it hasn't worked at all and quite to the contrary After all the boy with whom I IC Igo Igo C go belongs to one of the towns town's best families he has a certain standing to maintain he can spend p nd money and does so rather elegantly And he has been terribly terribly ter ter- ter bored with me and much more highbrow than I could ever have appeared to be I In fact were we're just about to the quitting place The whole trouble trouble trou trou- ble is that I have tried too hard to please him and haven't been myself or acted my age He has has' shown his disapproval of me by Inviting another girl to the biggest biggest big big- gest function of the summer She is a girl who didn't go to college who stayed home and worked in m her fathers father's office and who also belongs to the towns town's four hun hun- dred tired He has taken her out m more re than any other girl si since ce I have been away I have a a date with this Junc him coming up after tion I shall keep it in order to get things settled between us but the settling is what bothers me I still love him a great deal in fact act have never loved any other boy But I wont won't eat cat dirt Please tell me what you think I should do Gratefully THE COLLEGE FOOL The first thing I think you OU should do CO Is La to begin to act your age and to tobe tobe tobe be your real self You arent aren't going to tobe tobe tobe be able to io keep up this little-girl little act actor for or the rest of your life and you had just as well begin to appear to be bey y yourself ursell and to be so with a fervor and the sort of at feeling that youre you're glad youre you're alive now as ever And secondly I l' l think you should have a heart to heart talk with the Letters questions and requests re se quests for advice should be bo addressed to MISS 1 BETTY BEIT BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S ARTS ART'S IIA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM S SALT A L T I LAKE A K E CITY Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It Is necessary that you append ap pend the right name and address ad ad- dress but these will be held in strict confidence and will not appear In print Questions involving in advertising Information Information tion cannot be answered boy Tell him exactly what you have told me inc with all aU the embellishments you have lacked space or 01 inclination to relate here herc That is tell teU him everything everything everything every every- thing except how much you love him Let that be his dessert after aUer you have served him with the first few courses and then only if you discover he hc still loves you dearly When a woman is in love hi highbrow highbrow high h. h brow or lowbrow she is isone one of the daughters of or Eve in that she lays all she possesses of mind body and soul at the feet of at the beloved She overdoes her act when her lord and master is a highbrow in another way and refuses to accept her sacrifice for what it is really worth Did you OU ever eversee eversee eversee see a highbrow man come down off his horse high for ci a i woman whom he loved and whom he would like to call his wife Never She must meet his standards It is doubtless your intellectuality that your friend classes in his mind as highbrow It is your behavior that he now sets down in his mind as lowbrow If It you cannot reconcile recon recon- cUe cile him to behavior th that t is in keeping keeping keep keep- ing with your our Intellectual attainments attainments attain attain- ments it might be just as well in thelong the thelong long run for you to give him freely to the he hc other girl But d dont don't nt be too hasty about any final action Time takes care of a good many things that our own meddling only makes a amess amess amess mess of PAINFUL SELF SELF CONSCIOUSNESS I IDear Dear Miss Blair Isn't there something one can cando cando cando do to overcome self conscious ness I suffer constantly from it and I am very am-very very miserable at times I would like so much to be able to carry carryon on a conversation with people with whom I come in contact contact contact con tact without this constant feeling of uncertainty and inferiority Surely there is something I can cando cando cando do to overcome it I just simply cant can't go on like this You have helped so many I feel confident you can help me too tao Thank you MRS DESPERATE The other day I watched just how howa a self conscious young man behaved He didn't know I was watching of course and I I. decided when the ordeal ordeal or or- deal w was s over for him th that t. t self con operates practically the same in all aU people He was in a group of chattering young joung people and all the w while they talked he said never I a word Strangely after they had gone and I expected him to togo go too he started in talking He had bad had similar similar simi simi- lar experiences to theirs and he opened up glowingly about them I 1 wondered why he lie had not made the attempt to tell them before the others but for fear of making him self con in my ray presence too I said nothing about his previous silence but led him on to talk more and more He had great conversational You have them too but you must first find someone for whom you have no fear whom wham to practice Then tr try the same experiences before belore others even though you may have a little fear The things you OU have to tosa sa say your manner of saying them are just as important as the conversation of other people Your opinions are arc as valuable as those of others providing you ou have them and Im I'm sure you have Bolster them up with excellent reading material stimulate your own interests i in people ev events things In proportion as your interest in these increases will people be willing t to listen to you and to give credence to what you may say |