Show FAILS TO COMPROMISE WITH WITtI HUSBAND FEARS HIS LOVE SLIPPING Vacation Is Dull Time for Girl Who Vho Depends on Others S Boy Disappointed Over Oer Parents Parent's Recep Reception ion t of Best Girl B By BETTY BLAIR Every quarrel is a nail nan in the coffin of or love If newlyweds newlyweds newlyweds newly- newly weds could only foresee this they would go devious ways to find understanding other than by the method of lighting fighting it out Dear Miss S I am a R young oUng married woman with a old mouth baby and md alI already already al- al I I ready I am sin beginning to be bf afraid my husband Ii Is slipping p from me II fl is I am so tied dm dmAR w with the baby and I hate 11 AR K I so to leave him himM Ik U f II with a young girl M I- I I while I I Igo go places LI with my husband 1 1 1 He accuses me of or MI f I not wanting to go co H out with t th h him HeI He I I iii r just tt cant can't t seem m to H understand a and n d h how 0 W I feel fecI about leaving baby But the trouble trou S ble is we cant can't talk over ovet our difficulties calmly We both get so hot under the collar I get angry and say things I shouldn't when he lie reproaches me and he does the same lame thing when I find fault with him for leaving me roe so much alone lone I If we could only come to an Understanding with each other nome carrie way without dragging out all aU the has has-beens and quarreling over them I feel sure everything would be all right But it seems as IS though every time I try to get things between us we remember every grievance we ve ever had and one thing Just leads to another until w we have both said things that get us all Upset and we are arc farther apart than ever before Please help me Miss Mis Blair with ith some scheme to understand my ray husband and make him understand understand un un- un me We love each other I dearly and It is awful to go go on like this until we get so far apart we can never get together again Thank you ou so much TROUBLED In the first place you are making makinI a mistake not to leave your month 6 old baby in la the care of a competent girl and accompany your our husband in inthe inthe inthe the evening to the place of or amusement amuse amus ment meat and recreation I If you dont don't do rio so h he hb will get in the habit of going go go- ing lag without you and will without doubt find someone else to share his pleasures with him Then I suggest that instead of try try- lug fog to talk about your our difficulties with each other which seems so impossible impossible im im- im possible with two such hot heads that you write your husband a nice long letter and slip it in his pocket some morning when Vh n Tie lie is leaving leavIn for work Tell him Film how hov much you love Jove him and where you think you have been mistaken and how haw you ou think 1 that maybe by writing a about out these problems to each other instead of wasting s so many words and so much energy in becoming angry you ou might find real understanding and a wa way to settle all dif difficulties ic ties I knew a couple once who settled all their quarrels by maiL They like you couldn't talk without saying things that made each other angry but they write calmly and de de- liberally and with well chosen words say exactly what they want wanted to say without getting gettin all burned up over it On one occasion when this wife wire refused to attend a wrestling match with her husband he retaliated by refusing t to accompany y her het to a musical concert The words t they ey had over it almost split them asunder but she had the good sense to sit down and white him a letter about it which he read by himself He sent her an answer by messenger and when he returned at night there was nothing to do but take her in his arms It had all been arranged without without with with- out a or recriminations that she would go to all the wrestling matches with him and he would eam to love at at least endure the music at the musical concerts to which he took her People can do Letters questions and requests requests re rc re- re quests for advice should be addressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM- TELEGRAM SALT L LAKE ii K E CITY Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is necessary ry that you ou append ap p pend the right name and address ad address dress but these will be held in strict confidence and will not appear in print Questions Question involving in involving advertising information I tion lion cannot be answered 1 a a great many things if they only makeup make I up p their minds to do them But you c cant can't nt make peace with wilh your our husband unless you are willing willin willingto to o compromise too You cant can't expect him im to do all the giving in Plan to tomake tomake tomake make him happy in his way and ex ex- ped that he will wm be unselfish enough to o do some of the things with you that thal you like to do in your particular way 5 LIFE SEEMS DULL Dear Miss Blair I have never spent a vacation that seemed so lifeless and dull It seems that all I do Is sit around and mope Usually I have friends call and take me places but this summer my friends are all on trips or in the canyon and my summer Is almost completely ruined Have you any ny suggestions suggestions suggestions for a forlorn year old girl eirl who would like a few good times before school starts again MIMI Just think Mimi how you have let et yourself slump all because you ou have lave depended entirely on others tomake to tomake tomake make you have a good time You have lave heard before that you'll never get et out of life any more than you put jut into it And how are you to know what you youcan ou can put into life until you know TIOW wh what t you have within yourself Again how are you to find out if It you never ever try To sit and wait for good times limes to leap heap themselves on you ou is as futile as was the inactivity of the frog which sat day after day with his mouth open hoping a fly would hOPI hop p in Try to get a different nn angle le coit con con- what good times may const con slat st of I If IC you are arc really interested in n something you ou can have a good tim lime me without going places and seeing things thine all the time Ume You ma may have hidden talents you ou never dreamed oCas of oC ofas as s a dancer speaker singer artist or r what not Plant a garden make nake a hat learn to play some instrument Try everything you ou get a chance to try ry Then stick to the things you do dobest dobest doest best est and like best to do Have a hobby Best of all do something some some- thing thing ling creative You'll find it the way to o get most out of ot life me and the ones one who are the most popular are always those those- lose who love life best best and and who ont dont keep their talents hidden TREATMENT OF BEST GIRL Dear Miss Blair I feel pretty peeved at my family lam fam m. m ily and I wish you would tell me what you think I should have done or how things could have been improved I am ani a boy 16 years old and for the last year have been en taking one one ne girl more than any other to the school parties and things I have been bragging my dad and mom up to her and though I didn't daresay dare daresay daresay say much about her to them I thought I would like Ilke to have her meet them I wanted them all to tomake tomake tomake make a n good impression on each other and nothing could have been worse than what happened My mother usually makes or something nice to serve but on this day when I went home with my girl mom hadn't even taken off oft her house dress there wasn't a thing made to serve and dad said something pretty mean about me not watering water watering in ing the lawn as long as I should have bave done in the morning The visit was was' a total flop and I guess my girl thinks Im I'm just a bragging bragging bragging brag brag- ging fool 1001 I still want her to think my folks are as nice niceas as they really are most of ot the time What shall I do WEENIE Talk things over with your mother Weenie Set a certain afternoon when you are to call with your best bes girl again when mom will have a anice anice anice nice little afternoon dress on and you will have done the watering well on the he same morning and will have cau cau- dad not to bawl you ou out before be be- fore Core ore company and there will be I loads oads of ot something In the icebox ice to eat at or Ot drink But after alter all aI It isn't so bad as you think hink because all nice families tre frequently frequently fre fre- are found not doing thin things s exactly by clock every mother times doesn't get out of her house dress at precisely the same ame time every cv- cv I ery cry ry da day Mothers 1 frequently have their heir most select friends drop in Unexpectedly unexpectedly un Un- I expectedly when that is the pa ticu- ticu A lI- afternoon they have vc chosen to clean clen out the closets You might whisper in your mother mothers mother's mothers mother's moth moth- er ers er's ear car that ear that it is terribly important that hat first impressions and at most be good |